@CryingAndLonely
I guess journaling, deep breathing, spending time in nature could help to manage some traumatic thoughts.
And hope you get better clarity on your traumatic experiences. Maybe talk to a therapist about it if the therapy services are available to you.
Lots of love and care for you <3
@CryingAndLonely
So glad that you are here at 7cups. Your question about how to deal with Trauma, Dealing with Trauma is different for each of us. How our minds have processed the event is the first thing. Your question is a bit vague, and without going into a bit more detail, the question is hard to answer.
If you would like to talk one-on-one with a listener with whom you could share some more insight, that might be helpful. Talking about a problem often takes away much of its power. You don't have to go into details but share what you are comfortable with.
If you are new to the site, then there is a chat tab on the page if you click on it, it will give you access to press one on one Listener, or maybe for a fee. We have Therapists here, too❤️.
I hope you begin to get the answers you are looking for and all the support you need.
@CryingAndLonely
You've asked a great question, and it brings a journey that isn't linear. As others have already shared, therapy, journaling and talking helps. I've also found that learning about how trauma impacts the body and emotions has been beneficial.
A book that is pretty intense to read, but very educational on trauma, is The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk. It's a book to read as you can. It can be overwhelming and triggering at times, but it is full of great information on trauma. This author is one of the leading psychiatrists in the trauma field and has spent his life researching and treating trauma survivors.
Another book I've found helpful is Waking the Tiger: Trauma Healing by Peter Levine.
I'm glad you've posted. I hope you find the encouragement and help that you are looking for.
@HopeLives23
Hey I didn't know you already read "The Body Keeps the Score", I commented this on your post, where you were seeking suggestions for trauma books. It's nice to know you have read and worked on your healing, it inspires me, I respect and applaud you. <3 Thank you for working on your challenges, keep shining your positive light, I will try to shine my positive light too <3
@CryingAndLonely Difficult. Trauma for me is like generally there subconscious but breaking through from time to time. Triggers and flashs can appear very overwhelming and suddenly.
@sensitiveSummer4976
I totally agree with you. Triggers and flashbacks can happen at the most inoperative times.❤️
@WorkingitThrough2 Yes thats true. Thanks for your understanding. Not always but often I have a very low tolerance of enduring several situations, even alldayssituations. Expecially when times are stressy and thats no sheldom in my situation. And then my mood does easier "rip" then cheep pantyhose and similar to that, I try to ignore it or not, the damage gets constantly and similar bigger and bigger untill everbody notice maybe. Problem concerning to my mood: A running pantyhose I can change in 5 minutes in the bathroom and I can choose a better one next time. My mood takes normally more then a day until it is stabilized again. And I can´t change it to a better one.
Kind greetings 💙💜👋
@sensitiveSummer4976
I'm really sorry both Summer and Working. I hope you can manage your triggers and continue to heal and grow. Sending lots of love, warmth and healing to you <3
@seashell145
Hi, thank you for your empathy and your kind reply. Yes, trigger management is still challanging for me. Expecially hard to deal with are hidden triggers.
Greetings wish you a fine day.
@seashell145
I must agree with you. Getting triggered can oftentimes be very hard to pull out of. We have something in common.😊. It takes me a very long time, sometimes a few days, to put something on that pantyhose run😊. Can you determine where the feeling or emotion is in your body? What does it feel like? And when you are able to identify it, do you know what the emotion is? Sad, angry, or numb? I am personally working on asking myself open-ended questions until I can no longer give an answer then I look at my paper to see what, if anything, gives me a better insight.
Thank you so much for your reply. and I truly hope you continue to seek support. Hang in there you are not alone.❤️
Hi @seashell145,
Thank you for your thoughts. Yes I think I can determine it. If I am really hard triggert it's like electricity or something at my neck. It's a kind of bodyflash concerning to the situation of my trauma, I think. And in other situations I feel simply blocked by my thoughts. It's sometimes generelly hard for me to concentrate.
💙🙏🏻👋🏻
@CryingAndLonely I don't know how to deal with trauma. I don't really understand my feelings and emotions. I guess how I try to deal with it isn't great, I get to ignore all thoughts and feelings, until they build up and then I have a really bad few days. Then try to ignore again.. It's kinda hard cause not only just memories, but I'm covered in ugly scars. My spine is broken and not completely fixable. My legs have been amoutated. So trauma is right in front of my eyes physically too. It's just hard
