Narcissistic abuse?
Even though it's been many years, I lived with two extremely toxic roommates. One of them, which comes to mind was extremely abusive to me.
Some examples:
1. She was extremely controlling
A. I kept pushing a chair onto their kitchen table when it was supposed to be a certain way
B. She passively aggressively hinted that I was living there just to help with chores and bills. She yelled at me one time while I was trying to watch tv.
C. She hinted that I needed to spend all of my time in my bedroom and consider getting a tv.
-She was mad that I wasn't the neat freak that she was
D. On a few occasions, when she hatefully hinted that she didn't want me around, she lied about having parties that I wasn't invited.
E. Whenever she was in the house or would come home, I would feel her presence. I would either stay in my room or stay out late at night until she was asleep and then sneak around.
2. She put me down
1. She put me on a guilt trip one time about not being in the same age group as her and the other girl
2. She and the other roommate's ex-boyfriend both agreed that I was crazy. (I have an autism diagnosis and tried to hide it).
3. She was manipulative
A. She would treat me very poorly when it was just the two of us. She would also blame me for things. Then when there were other people around, she would act nice.
4. She would play the victim
1. I heard her whining to some friends of her, "According to another co-worker at work thinks that I am a B word. However, I am outgoing and xyz."
2. One time I made a really bad choice and my roommates wanted to hold a meeting. However, I refused to go because I was scared of her. Before she left to go out of town, they complained about me and how I was such a bad roommate for this or that. She also heard it through the grapevine from some other neighbors. "If that's not bad enough that she's a terrible roommate, she hates my guts."
Anyway if she is a narcissist, what type comes to mind?
@Summershy
i don’t know all that much about NPD. What I can tell you is that you deserve to be treated with respect. How long has this been going on and what type of support system do you have at home?
~Kristy
i have not lived with her for many years but it was very long time ago.
@Summershy Hi Summer. I'm Mattie. I'm so sorry to hear you had to deal with that. My dad is a narcissist too. He can be extremely difficult to be around, especially when he's drinking. You're brave to tell us and realizing it's ok to not be ok with how someone else treated you. Narc or people in general can be very difficult. I'm always fascinated by how people treat each other, especially friends or even family. No one deserves to be treated that way 💙💜💚
@WellsFiction
Hi:
Again, I have not seen her for many years and I will tell that it was incredibly traumatizing. However, she wasn't the first person who I have lived with who was either narcissistic or had narcissistic tendencies.
However, as I have been healing, I thought that her behavior was bizarre.
@Summershy
It seems like it's malignant manipulative narcissist.
Try to cut them off your life, do not react to them trying to get reactions from you. Ignore them & find another apartment, don't tell them your plans to move.
A narcissist will suddenly show up to ruin things like an event, a party, to get attention to themselves.
They try to portray themselves as a nice person to those in authority or those who they thought as important people.
They do not have empathy, they fake things. Even when they express condolences, they exaggerate their expressions, and take advantage of the person who passed away and tried to draw people's attention to themselves, to get praises, compliments, to look like they are nice, but in fact narcissist is an evil in the for of human being. They know exactly what they are doing and they got pleasure from others' suffering. Even in an online world, a narcissist ruins things that you have worked on.
The world including the virtual world is better off without any narcissist in it.
@CoolMeCool
I moved away from her over two decades ago. However, that situation left an impact on me that I am still healing from. Going to therapy has really helped me heal and let go.
What really got to me was when she lied to me about having an all weekend birthday bash at our house. She also said that I was not invited because I wasn't in her age group along with still being under 21. I wondered why she pulled that on me for years. Two things came to me
1. She wanted to get a reaction out of me
2. She had issues
@Summershy
#1 is the reason for their evil behavior.
A narcissist definitely want to get reaction and enjoy seeing others upset, they are just like a psychopath. They would deliberately do things to annoy us.
Thus article elaborate the evil ways narcissist and psychopath works to see others suffer
