TRAUMA RESPONSES

we found this very helpful as explains why people reacted different  to trauma. this was very easy to understand too so thought we share it here maybe others will find it helpful too.

TRAUMA RESPONSES

Individuals who are fight types is driven by the belief
that power and control can create safety,
prevent abandonment and secure love. They are
often given insufficient limits with lack of boundaries
in childhood, and also tend to mimic the bullying
behaviour of narcissistic parents or caregivers.
Habituating to a fight trauma response when being
triggered, they often react to their feelings of
abandonment with anger, aggression, rage,
contempt, intimidation and shaming others towards
mirroring them into acting as extensions of
themselves. They use conflict to
navigate through situations.

Individuals who are flight types is driven by the
belief that perfection will make them lovable
and feel safe. They can be obsessive, compulsive
and often choose to flee and escape the feelings of
pain from their abandonment issues from childhood.
With their constant busyness, this results in a
detachment from their surroundings. However, when
they are not engaged in some form of busyness or
"doing", they tend to overthink, over analyze, worry
and constantly plan about "doing" -- in a sense, they
are addicted to the adrenaline of it. Therefore, flight
types can be reckless as they have the tendency to
pursue and engage in risky and dangerous
activities, making them more
susceptible to addictions.

Individuals who are freeze types is driven by the
belief that people and dangerous are
synonymous and that they cannot be trusted --
thus safety lies in solitude. Profoundly abandoned
as a child, they habituated by getting into hiding,
retreating and thus goes into self-isolation when
triggered. This results in dissociation, disconnecting
themselves from others and not partaking or have
minimal social interactions (and human contact) to
prevent from re-experiencing the pain of
abandonment. These individuals find comfort in
activities such as video games, daydreaming
and prolonged sleep. They've been able to
master detachment when an experience
becomes very uncomfortable.

Individuals who are fawn types is driven by the belief
that they need to sacrifice their needs, wants,
boundaries and desires in order to develop any
form of relationship. Often the children of at least
one narcissistic parent or caregiver -- whom usually
scares and shames them out of developing a healthy
sense of self by also using contempt to press them
into being subservient to them irregardless.
Therefore, they become highly co-dependent adults
as they learnt that safety and love can only be gained
by being nice, placing everyone else's needs above
theirs, merging their wants, needs and
values with others -- even if it is at their
own detriment.