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November 20th, 2016

I know it's difficult we all have time constraints. As often as I can, I come here and look for the posts that need a reply. I am very much guilty I'll not being able to do that as regularly as I would like.

Responding to one of these posts doesn't have to mean you understand all the ramifications. Often,People just want to be heard and acknowledged.

Even if you have nothing in particular, to say to the person posting, I'm sure the person wouldn't appreciate that you didn't knowledge how dare you pain.

Often I will use that it helps just to know someone is reading your post realizes that they are pain.

Might I suggest that as often as they can we take a look at the pose need reply and please say, "I hear you and acknowledge you". Sometimes that makes the world of difference.

This is all just my $.02. Take it for what it's worth.

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User Profile: Hopeful0001
Hopeful0001 November 20th, 2016

@JeffWM

Awesome post! I think this is a great idea and that we should all try to respond to as many posts as we can. A reply can go a long way, even an upvote goes somewhere.

I think @Laura should hear about this because maybe she can make it official !

November 21st, 2016

I think that in my (pointed little) mind, people just want to hear, "I understand you are in pain"-- and BTW, you can fin help and you are wonderful and cared for and acknowledged.

Personally, I'm all for pointing out, that you should look at only one issue at a time, and consider different options. Even if I were a therapist, without more background information and knowing the conversation would be regularly revisited, reorganized, and reevaluated, I'd be reluctant to give my advice; I'd rather point out options.

User Profile: Idonotthinkanyonecares
Idonotthinkanyonecares November 21st, 2016

@JeffWM

I've seen something like this on reddit before and I still think it is a great idea. While some people may not have the time to post a full response, just upvotes also help as Roadie says here . You make some great points here so thank you for taking the time to write this up. :)

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February 19th, 2017

I am still quite saddened that my broken wrist seems to nee to be in a custom molded brace (which completely encompasses my thumb and goes up mid-way to my elbow, for at least 6 weeks; that'll be 278 days at the earliest).ˆI can only type minimally with my non-dominant hand. After that long, I'm not sure how long I'll need physical therapy until I can type proficiently. I wish I could at least acknowledge some more of the new posts.

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November 13th, 2017

Maybe I was wrong. It's been a few months. I'm just pathetic and lonely. I was ingnored here when I was in need. I logged back knowing that little has probably changed. I was "great" when I was the one replying. When I reached out, I was left to fall. Why login again? I'm pathetic. I guess this should be refunded in the 7 cups 'motto'.

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User Profile: MeaningfulSilence
MeaningfulSilence November 13th, 2017

@JeffWM

Hi Jeff.

I am sorry to hear that you are facing a difficult moment.

See if you feel to connect with an available listener to converse, or if exploring other sub-communities could help too. I share some links with you, hoping they can help :

★ To connect with an available listener visit: https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
★ You can explore the community forums here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/
★ You can try a mindfulness Exercise here: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/?showlist=1
★ You may view the 7 Cups Self Help Guides here: https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php

Take care.

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November 13th, 2017

@BeyondTheInvisible

How nice that you personalized the canned responce by adding my name.

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MeaningfulSilence November 13th, 2017

@JeffWM

You are welcome @JeffWM! laugh

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November 16th, 2017

@BeyondTheInvisible

I sincerely hope that, as a human and as a listener here, you realize that your post is insulting.

While I was here and active, I tried to read new posts and tried to let the person posting that I heard them and although I could never truly understand the emotions they were going through, that their feelings were 'valid'. I spent much more time reading (and often re-reading their posts) to try to draw the better parts of myself out so I could genuinely say and feel that they should find it in their heart to treat themselves with loving kindness and compassion. I'm sure many of my posts seem to resonate the same response, I can assure you that much heartfelt thought went into them. Even as a writer, I know that the moment we attempt to put feelings into words, those very words betray us.

I read each post and regarded each person posting as a unique individual that, in some way, was suffering. In my personal life, I made every attempt to seriously absorb this time and time again and bring myself to the point where I would (just as a parent would with their child) take their suffering onto myself. That, to me, would not be a hardship but a deep-seated gift to me.

I sincerely hope that at some point, you come to the realization that many posts come from deep inside: that each time one is posted, it comes from a very fragile part of an individual who deserves to be regarded as a gift to you. Without that gift, you would be unable to learn what the other may need. Often times it is only just to be recognized-- to be 'heard'.

Take that bit of advice for whatever it is worth to you, but please don't demean yourself by responding especially with the obvious lack of thought or caring.

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