Blurred lines!!!!
Where is the fine line between standing up for yourself and letting something go, especially if it's a close loved one you are arguing with or an in-law?
@Amanda84
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@jesusredeemedme2425 appreciate it 💜🥰
@Amanda84 I’m still learning that line. I’m trying to ask myself questions before I respond to someone hurting me.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas don't apologise at all, I'm glad you opened up to me and got it off your chest , I'm happy to listen and I can see great wisdom in what you are saying, especially about not reacting or jabbing back just for the sake of it, otherwise it will only fall on closed ears. I guess it's about not being reactive in the moment, letting the emotions die down and not become heated, getting your point across without shouting, being heard but also listening and deciding when silence might be better. My brother's girlfriend recently was very rude about him at a family gathering and no one said anything because they didn't want to ruin the occasion or be offside with my two nephews. But then she continued and everyone stayed silent but I addressed her rudeness and stood up for my brother and now I'm in everyone's bad books but I don't feel like the apology needs to come from me !
@Amanda84 Thank you for your kindness. ❤️
That is a tough situation you are in too. I don’t like listening to someone putting someone else down behind their back in public like that. And for it to be your family. You all gave her a chance to think twice about the choice she was making. When she kept going, she had to have had a moment where she paused and wondered if she should keep going, and she must have known there would be a chance she’d push too far. I’m sorry it didn’t have a better ending. People can be willing to put up with a lot to avoid confrontation.
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas my dad did it to me he has done scary angry facial expressions was suicidal in the past and negative words hurtful words as a teen he was going to send me to a boarding school and I was 18 I had a the worst vacation in California
I have been on the streets it raining or not raining it was cold it’s winter no food no technology and nothing I have runaway three times from my dad refused to return home a lot that’s negative happened occurred it’s trauma and other things
@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas and I'm the opposite, I shoot from the hip, I'm honest, say it as it is, if I'm not saying it to your face, you can be certain im nit talking behind your back. I wish more people were upfront 💜🥰
@Amanda84 you know that's a good thing, sometimes brute honesty is needed. And when it's a loved one being attacked its alot harder to sit back and just watch. I'd like to have you in my corner if I ever got in trouble💖💖
@Tinywhisper11 thank you, I'm known to go in punching 😁
@Amanda84 you punch, i'll run their feet over well make a awsome duo😎
@Tinywhisper11 the gruesome twosome, I'm up for that 😁
@Amanda84 yaaaaay! I'm gonna go and add some spikes to my wheels😁😁😁
@Tinywhisper11 good foresight 😁
You should never have to “prove” your worth stop fighting if they don’t know your worth without proving to them then let them go and be at peace for you just cheated space for someone who cares 💓
@littleOwl7886 that’s true I have no one my dad keeps hurting me he doesn’t listen apologize what he does to me that’s extremely cruel and wrong I always have to prove everything to him he’s judgmental what I wear and he’s done things wrong it’s overdue it never healed it’s lying he stole my money
@littleOwl7886 thank you, that's great advice 💜🥰
@Amanda84 it hurts I had it occur it’s the worst
@dhabib I'm sorry to hear that you experience this so much, you too deserve better 💜🥰
@Amanda84yes I do deserve better than that it’s not okay for myself being in fear struggling to rest sleep struggling constantly nightmares and pain
@Amanda84 I don't believe there is a line. If you feel upset/angry/attacked remove yourself from the picture before reacting. Then when your calmer you can decide whether to leave it or wether to calmly talk to that person 💖 wow! I should learn to take my own advice sometimes😁
is this a hypothetical question?? (I used a big word🤓) if it's not hypothetical are you ok?? I always got your back💖
@Tinywhisper11 hypothetical is a huge word, yay to us 💜🥰 I'm good 😁 you make a very relevant point here, it's up to us ourselves what we give oxygen to 🥰💜
@Amanda84 I just replied to your convo. With pieces scroll up💖
@Tinywhisper11 thank you, appreciate it 💜 🥰
@Tinywhisper11 i guess this also inevitably highlights the importance of boundaries, like, I recently let someone disrespect me, and yet continued to be a good friend to them, they made no effort, I did all the legwork, they ghosted me, appeared back, I forgave them, only for the same cycle to happen all over again, so now I blocked them and I feel at peace 🥰
@Amanda84 I'm glad you blocked them 💖 next time try to block them before they continue to be mean💖 hugs you tightly your amazing 💖
@Tinywhisper11 I always worry about other people's feelings before my own, but sometimes its too damaging so for me its about recognition 💜
@Amanda84 yeah I get that, problem is your to kind which is a blessing and a curse. But don't worry we can learn together.💖
@Tinywhisper11 I'll always have your back 🥰💜
@Amanda84 😮😮😮😮😮 you got my back!?!? Give it back😮😮😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11 no, its a better fit 🤣
@Amanda84 😂😂😂 ok I'll keep yours😁 be warned that my spine is broken at the bottom and not completely fixable and causes constant pain, good luck
@Tinywhisper11 I admire you even more
@Amanda84 if it really matters which believe it or not is hard to identify like all my life my family has been very straightforward with everything especially my siblings and I do love them but they can say things which I wont like but I unless its something that means something to me I let it go, so they tell me I am too in my shell and pampered i d let it go and not care and they d be a hundred more examples but if they start saying something i dont like i d advise them to not say that but in most cases try to first let it go because most things are not worth it but if people genuinely treat you bad then dont let them, always go for peace but understand that sometimes you have to fight that battle depending on your own feelings.
@Reaper17 I respect that, don't take everything to heart but speak up when it matters, thank you, your input is greatfully received 💜🥰
@Amanda84 sometimes you gotta let go to be able to stand up for yourself though
@adaptiveMelody7976 thank you, I respect that 💜🥰
@Amanda84
I believe each person has to converse with themselves and decide together where the fine line is between standing up for yourself and letting something go.
I try letting something go first by not responding to what’s going on or walking away from it if it’s something like an argument. Sometimes it’s better to just leave instead of continually arguing back n forth bc eventually that can make everyone in the argument including yourself reach your breaking point which everyone also has and explode/blow up in anger.
However it’s also sometimes good and important to stand up for yourself. So when that’s happening, try your best to keep calm, sensible, logical, rational, reasonable, respectful, etc and if at some point you sense yourself getting away from that, then I’d suggest it’s time to end the conversation at least for now by saying something like “this is pointless and not getting any of us anywhere. let’s take a break from this for now and continue later if any of us want to” and walking away.
I’m here for you if you ever want or need to talk or let anything out just for the healthiness of getting it out. Journaling helps getting things out too.
Endless hugs to you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown not reacting out of emotions is a great insight, and I agree, it would be pointless, thank you for taking the time to share and yes, journaling is vital 💜🥰