Can someone help?
Hello! Im new here, I have a problem with low self esteem and I don't know what to do...Im 14 yo and there is this one girl that im jealous of, she's super pretty, skinny, plays guitar and skateboards and dresses alt and unique. I always feel like a loser next to her...I mean my style is kinda unique too, my friends say that I look original and pretty but I don't really believe it, that girl is very rebelious, she is liked and everyday posts on social about her life, I feel like my life is boring next to her. I found out that she gossips about me too, she is rude and lies that I copy her even though when I was friends with her she "supported" me and I have different style than hers, she said that I cut my hair because she did so, even though I had short hair way before her(Not saying she copied me but why is she lying?) and she goes to scouting...she Has super interesting life and I feel dull and ugly and like a total loser. Im learning to play an euphonium, like drawing and do some diy stuff(necklaces etc) and try to express myself through style too but I feel more boring than her because I don't know many people and her stories she posts or has during school are do interesting, like she is the main character, I feel like a side character...
So I want to ask if someone had similiar experience or maybe knows how to deal with it better...I gry to not envy but I can't...
@Glitteryprincess17
Hello, nice to meet you 😊
I understand, we are human, we all fall into a pit if being envy.
I'm sorry that she is rude and taking about you.
That's not acceptable .
It's important for you to focus on your own style and passions and just be yourself, that's good enough and never bring someone else down while being you 💜💕
@Glitteryprincess17
Anyone who resorts to gossip and spreading misinformation is no friend of yours nor anyone else's. It seems SHE is the one with the problem here, not you. I suggest you stay away this woman and her clique of friends. Be yourself and pay no mind to whatever she does. You come off as a very fine woman anyone would want to be friends with.
If you want to *** her off, be the person who is totally unaffected by what she does, and by your actions make sure she knows it.
You sound wonderful! <3 She doesn’t sound so pretty on the inside. You are kind and have wonderful interests. Don’t sell yourself short <3
Just be yourself and do things YOU like to do. In life, some people may talk about you behind your back. Don't worry one thing about it. The people who know you the best will know the truth.
When it comes to people who gossip behind others' backs, people eventually figure out if they gossip behind your back, they'll gossip behind theirs too and she'll have to come to terms with being a gossip that no one wants to be around except maybe other gossips. Don't be a gossip yourself.
Be yourself and be a good person and you'll be happy with your life without envy.
Some people are like stink bugs, they will always stink and be smelly and we must avoid those people at all costs. 👎🏼The grass is always greener on the other side kiddo🤗 they want to bring you down, speak ill on your name.
Take the high road, be you, the best version of you, you can be, there are so many people who don't want to be themself because they are afraid they won't be liked.. the way I see it your very brave for being the most authentic version of you you can be. 😃Unfortunately for self-esteem that comes in time and it's something that is built, find you the right people, the people who are the best version of themselves!
I hope this helps you some kiddo I'm sorry if it's not what your looking for. 💓
i’ve been through that, and kinda have a bit of it rn too. One thing that helped me a lot is accepting myself. its a slow process, you cant do it in one night. But believe me its all worth it once you gain self confidence, it all feels so good. The first thing you can do to help yourself is stop comparing. you are YOU and don’t need to be someone else. i know how it feels going through such situation, but first thing is confidence and self-validation. Many people in the world play guitar and do many activities, doesn’t mean they are copying each other. And if someone feels like people copy them, unfortunately those people cant be helped. Let them be, and gain confidence in yourself with small steps, do whatever you like, and dont wait for people’s validation, be your own admirer. I would love to have a talk with you about it. I believe you can do it.❤️
Thank you everyone❤️ I really appreciate it💕
