my last straw

my brother has a history of throwing away his food. sounds simple or something thats not too deep, right? well no.

it all started in april. i'd give him breakfast and a few snacks in bed. you see, he's a very slow eater. and i when i say slow, i mean VERY SLOW; it takes him 2 hours on 1 simple bread/sandwich. and no, it's not a mental problem or whatever; he could down that same sandwich within 30 minutes in another random day.

so yeah i became sick of waiting for him to finish his meals in the bedroom, so i started giving him a time limit — about 2-3 hours before going downstairs. he would then go down minutes before the given time limit, giving me a thumbs up each time and tellinf me he's done. guess what? all of that was a lie.

A MONTH STRAIGHT he's been lying straight to my face. in the middle of may, i found it. i found a whole stash of food thrown away under our bed. it took about 5 trash bags to really empty everything — all weighing 8kg+. gosh. if only someone else saw my breakdown that time. but whatever, i gave him another chance, as long as he never threw away his food again.

then, his school year started. of course i still had doubts. i kept on reminding and warning him to not throw away his food; it's better to have come home with the food i packed him rather than throwing it away. so after 3 weeks, i decided to ask him what were inside his sandwich (ham, egg, cheese, mayo). ham, cheese, and some "white sauce", he replied. i asked him whether he even tasted a hint of eggs or what. after a few minutes, he finally did admit that he threw away the eggs. actually, i found it reasonable as he excused that it tasted different. i didn't even get mad at him: instead, i even thanked him for telling me the truth.

still, i was not at ease; i created a contract with him the following morning. it consisted of our promises to each other and some rules. basically, the main point written was that there'd be NO problem, as in ZERO punishment, yelling, whatsover if he threw away his food AS LONG AS he tells me the truth. he even promised me in the contract that he'll never throw away his food.

well guess what. fast forward to today. classes were suspended. any way, i left him his dinner: pork and tofu. i even saw him take a bite of the tofu. asked him, how was the tofu? he had the nerve to reply it tasted good. so i left the house and went back home after 2 hours. of course i was in doubt.

so i checked the trash bag. and there it was. tofu and some bits of rice and pork. what even was more maddening was that he had the nerve to try and hid ethe tofu inside an empty bag of chips. so i gave him a chance. did you finish your tofu? yes. you didn't throw away your food? no. i was damn sick of being lied to STRAIGHT TO MY FACE. i confronted his ***. i gave him a chance to confess everything cause i knew damn well that wasn't the only thing he's thrown away.

it was everything all at once. he mentioned about 10 sandwiches that he's thrown away even after the contract. and what *** me off more was a damn plain peanut butter sandwich. he liked pb sandwiches.

i talked to this about my parents and they just told me that he's a growing child and i should just LET??HIM??BE?? gosh i even contacted a local organisation and the guidance office from my past school. no help given 🤷‍♀️

idk what to do at this point. he's just wasting his food and all. "ask him what he wants" thats the thing. i've been packing him everything he wants and everything ended up in the trash. i can't not pack him food, he wouldn't eat at all. his brain just revolves around YouTube and all.

please i need your help. this has been giving me a huge chunk of stress.