The word FAILURE does not exist in my personal vocabulary. What people call like that are LIFE LESSONS, CHALLENGES, LIMIT SITUATIONS. Those are moments in which you have to stop, learn, overcome the obstacles, find a solution, act differently. The word FAILURE is a creation of sick EGOS who need to see others as LOSERS in order to feel well themselves, so they tag people who haven't achieved the same standards in order to elevate their own EGO to sick heights (from which they might eventually fall).
How I deal with failure:
It depends on what I have failed in my life, who's around me and my state of mental strength that day.
I'm a teacher, so I have years of training on how people who can overcome failure faster and grow from it are more likely to find success in happiness in life..in general. I radiate that message to all students who share their struggles with me. Sometimes listening is the most important thing.
On the other hand, if at home, I tend to ruminate on my failure and play it like a loop over and over in my mind. I feel angry when I cannot let things go faster. Seems that knowing what is correct and healthy doesn't always motivate me to help myself.
I've tried almost everything to speed up the process of dealing with failure. The only sure thing that works is time. Healthy choices and distractions work in the short term.
I take comfort in knowing that the grief I'm dealing with from failing can only last so long. It is literally impossible to feel terrible forever I tell myself. That thought brings me some measure of comfort and healing.
Failure is just another word for practice. Practic,practice, and more practice is the only way to achieve any goal
Failure is at times inevitable, as it not only tells us that our effort was a half-assed attempt, but it also requires us to look for a better way to translate the effort into the desired result. Other times, it also makes us realize that the intent and the focus aren't well connected. The goal, or the destination can also be wrong, and we might need to reconsider that. So, to conclude, failure means that some aspect of the plan is not in place and requires to start back from the drawing board, not a sign of my incompetance alone so, it becomes an opportunity to correct my oversight and nothing else. I don't worry if it doesn't come right in the first try.
@steelnerve
I appreciate the way you put that.
@energeticPlum8576 I appreciate the response here. Let's see what we can add to our thoughts by the time the thread goes cold. I'm sure we'll be getting pretty rad responses to make us think and improve upon our existing notion.
I let it sit there with me. And then I get used to it. :(
@Bunnyruru
me too....
Failure oftentimes come with negative emotions. But it's ok. I learn from the quote "there is no failure, only feedback". Give yourself time to grieve about it, but once you feel better, you can learn to pick yourself up and bravely move forward, one step at a time. It's all about being mindful of your emotions and learn from your mistakes
punishing my self for not being good enough.
I tend to have a hard time because I am a perfectionist,so I like to do things 'right'. I will have streaks where I am doing really well, and can continue but I can burnout and feel awful/lost don't know how to get back to a streak of productivity.
lots of ways.
I cry when I've failed in my relationships, although I think I've tried way to hard and put up with stuff way to long
at work failure is not an option. I'm number one in the region who is chasing myown numbers from last year and it sonly getting harder.so if I fail I have learned and move on accepting the value of the loss..
if only I could do that in my relationship.
if only I coulsm
As a recovering perfectionist, there have been times where failure has crippled me. But I've been getting better at accepting it for what it is and learning something from it. I still sometimes cry if it was really important though.
