Discussion Question: Is a problem still a problem if you don't think it's a problem?
Discussion Question: Is a problem still a problem if you don't think it's a problem?
It really depends on what the problem is.
Obviously some things are purely psychological or due to an individuals perception.
Other times it's a problem regardless of whether or not how you see it or whether or not it affects you.
It depends a bit I think on the problem, but generally I think problems are still problems and I agree with others here about the issues with denial and how they can affect others.
A problem may still be a problem even if one does not think it so. The reason for this is because deciding whether something is a problem depends on one's perspective. For example, some people do not believe in global warming. They think that it is false; for them, it is not a problem. While they do not believe this is a problem, for the rest of the world, it is. Overall, believing that something is problem is a matter of perception. While one person may not think of something as a problem, another person may.
This is kind of a difficult question and I suppose it really depends on the problem, but in general I'm pretty sure that, yes, it is a problem. Denying it won't make it disappear.
Personally I think that all different things are problems to some and not others ... for example ... a toddler sees a scratch on his daddy's car ... he isn't fussed ... the dad sees the scratch on his car and is furious ... toddle drops his icecream and is beside himself ... dad watches toddler drop the icecream and it isn't the end of the world ... whether we think problems are problems or not they are still a problem and we need to work together to make the solutions for the problems not just for ourselves but each other
It still a problem and if you don't see it as a problem then it's a bigger problem.
Yes its called throwing under the rug. No matter how you cover its still there
Honestly, I think if it would bother someone else then it is a problem. Only the degrees vary
If a problem is still affecting aspects of your life, even if you have disregarded it, then the problem is still valid.
Yes...I don't want to go all the way to the negative hypotheticals but the way I first thought of this is if someone is abusing you (a family member, friend, significant other, etc) but you don't realize it is abuse and think it is normal-then yes it definitely is a problem. How many times have people brushed aside an issue they had because while it may be their normal, it is not healthy behavior. While I never experienced an abusive relationship or an eating disorder, I've read that many people who have been through such ordeals in the beginning denied it being an issue even though it was. That doesn't mean that there isn't a problem but it may not be obvious to the person experiencing it, which is why we should look out for each other if we do see a problem that the other person may not be able to see.
@FantasiaSweetShock
I think that people with eating disorders have a problem, they just think it is something else - their real problem is an eating disorder, but they think they are fat.
People who abuse their partners probably also perceive some problem, though I don't know much about this topic, so I don't know which one. But I've read about narcissism, that was pretty interesting, the people feel like they have no problem... but they think that everybody else is behaving badly. Are they in "no problem" situation? No. They are just not naming it correctly.
I have anxiety issues and I've always had them. I was not aware of that, but I thought that my feelings are caused by something else (family issues, lack of money). For example I wanted to get a job (while in high school), and I was super anxious about meeting someone because I have anxiety issues. I was not aware of that... but my interpretation was "I don't have any shoes except for sneakers, and you should not wear it to a job interview, but I cannot buy new shoes without money and I cannot earn money without new shoes, what am I supposed to do?".
@carefulBike3504 Well the way I thought of it was when a friend of mine several years back was in a really bad relationship and she thought it was perfectly fine despite the fact that the guy pressured her to do things she was uncomfortable with. My other friend and I said that it was unhealthy but she honestly didn't believe that it was a problem and even at one point thought we couldn't be happy for her. After the relationship ended she later admitted we were right to point out the problem she can't see. While I do agree with anxiety that there's a tendency to make mountains out of molehills and to run around in circles over an issue that is not perceived as one to others, I think the fact that the worry exists indicates there is a problem
@FantasiaSweetShock
i have been in a relationship with a narcissist for over 13 years now. I have felt to blame for a lot of things but still wake up happy to be alive and happy to send the time with the same person that blames me. (Just throwing it out there... I guess)
@FantasiaSweetShock I definitely agree... However if the situation was that someone was born without a left arm, and they grew up like that, they would be used to it and it would not see it as a problem and if it didn't hinder them much, it would be one
Does that make sense? Sorry if it's confusing 😬
