I'm feeling vulernable because I'm realizing how abusive my relationship was. & it's bittersweet bc this relationship has just ended. So much emotional abuse occurred and guilting me into doing things. I'm even more sad that I'm still being guilted into helping her.
@brightFig4640 better late than dead lol
@Miramoh17 although I don't feel that was your intention. That reply was ignorant and not funny.
@brightFig4640 no I'm so sorry that's really not what I meant ..I just got out of an abusive relationship that lasted 3 years myself and if you need someone there ..I'd be honored to listen :)
@Miramoh17 thank you for that! Mine lasted 4 years and it's a fresh breakup and it really just sucks right now. A lot of emotional abuse & intimidation and I became kind of conditioned to being made to feel guilty and obligated to take care of that person even when they weren't taking care of me. It's hard.
@brightFig4640 I'm so sorry for all the pain you are feeling. 
*hugs*
Today I today I am feeling vulnerable because I feel like I have lost grip on my masks. I used to have such a strong grip on which side of myself I showed everyone around me, but today, not so much...
Because I'm changing to the better and I feel like a new chapter of my life is coming soon. I'm afraid of big decisions. #confession
@Miramoh17 congratulations on the new chapter, Mira. I'm sure it will be as great and beautiful as you are ❤️
@LilaKenn thank you lovely Lila <3 I wish you all the happiness in the world
@Miramoh17 I get what you mean! I recently realized that I might be afraid of change, and I'm lowkey wondering if I'm so afraid that I'm actually ruining every chance I have? But anyway, that's wonderful that you're changing for the better, I wish you the best! 🙆🏻
I had sort of made a plan what i was going to do today but when the time came i felt completely demotivated. Some days you just have to take a break from 'doing'.
I can't understand men. I'm flirting in different ways, being smart or stupid, talkative or listening, calm or crazy, complimenting them or being demanding, being just myself or playing, but they still behave in a way I absolutely can't understand and try to offend me.
i have a bad migraine and it isnt easing off.
Today I'm feeling vulernable bc one of my dearest friends doesn't hold me in the same regard as I do him. I feel like I have no one.
@brightFig4640 I have the same feelings towards my friend. She is my best friend or so I thought she is but she just disappeared on me.
@wittyEyes1529 I've spoken with my friend to let him know how I feel and he still doesn't care. We have been friends for 3 years and when I needed him most he was not there for me and I've always supported him. Smh I'm so sad
@brightFig4640 same feeling here! We've been best of friends for almost 6 years but we just kinda fell apart because she's got herself a new boyfriend and everything in her life is going well. It sucks to lose someone important to you
@wittyEyes1529 it's her loss then. Some ppl truly do not know how to be a friend. I'm trying to accept that.
@brightFig4640 we can be friends! Though i know it will be hard because we dont really know each other personally
@wittyEyes1529 I would love to be your friend & get to know you :)
@brightFig4640
I had trouble finding this thread because I am new here in 7cups. But I will gladly accept this and become your friend too!
Today I feel vulnerable because I never feel like I am heard unless I am yelling.
@Rebekahwriter13 feel you
I'm feeling vulnerable because a friend seems to only like me when it's convenient for them. One day when they are having a hard day I make sure to give them extra encouragement but at the end they just end up ignoring me and I feel like a real loser yet again. Like what did I do wrong this time?
Because, and this is going to be extremely negative but- a lot of the listeners on this site really suck...
Whenever there are moments when I'm at my most vulnerable (having anxiety attacks/deep clouts of depression) and I get the courage to actually seek out a listener the following occurs:
- The availability is practically non-existent. If I look through the profiles of listeners that I think are good based on ratings, verification, and overall experience and seek them out, a lot of the ones that say they are available aren't actually available.
- Because of what happened earlier, I'm stuck with a listener that is new and extremely inexperienced. Usually the listner fails at listening to the problem and instead suggests things without actually understanding the gist of the problem. They make assumptions and give advice about stuff that they have no knowledge to give. They give general platitudes about life which just shows they aren't listening to the actual problem and just providing generic crap assuming it can apply to everyone. All they want is for someone to pat them on the back for doing the job without actually making the effort of doing it.
Now I've tried to look for long-term listeners under the classified section which is difficult to do because frankly I might be miserable for several weeks but fine for the next few weeks so its not consistent. Its extremely rare to find anyone who's actually there for the long term to begin with but add the fact that its cyclical with my bad days, makes it more difficult to make a connection.
They really need to fix the listener situation on this site... I know there is a shortage of listeners to member ratios but a bad listener can cause a lot more damage to someone who is already in a vulnerable situation.
