Today, I'd like to change..... [finish this sentence]
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... My feelings of helplessness.
I am not helpless.
I am not lost.
I am strong.
I can do this.
I used to do this.
I can do it again.
My relationship
...my inability to let go.
I would love for my ex to leave me and my daughter alone for good for the rest of our lives but I know it might not happen I would like to see my family more then what I do now I want to change myself I want to be more happier and healthier I want to loose weight I want to fit into a dress even though I can now lol but a wedding dress some day I want my relationship to change a bit my fiancée to change a bit but I know that won't happen at all
I'd like to change there way I interact with people. I literally know hundreds of people but only seems to click with like ten people. But it never fails that a majority of those ten end up betraying our friendship and then I am left with no one. I don't like the idea of a few close friends anymore because what happens when those few people leave? I need to figure out how to fake it and interact with people differently and more people so all my eggs aren't in one basket.
@warmheartedHuman2014
You aren't alone ! We got this !
@warmheartedHuman2014 I feel the same way. I don't click with many people either and when I do I sometimes worry that they'll eventually leave. That's life -- people move, get married, have kids, have less time for you. Or they get comfortable with you and change into someone you don't recognize and they hurt you. Life is full of disappointment and uncertainty (stay with me, I'm getting to the positive lol). However, there are billions of people in this world and you WILL meet more people you click with. You will have adventures and conversations and they will help shape you into the person that you are. And sure, they too might leave someday or even betray you. But please never stop trying to connect. Your people are out there. They're trying to find you while you're trying to find them. It just takes time
@Butterfly927 thank you. I'm getting not to give up. It's just so disheartening. I work on a cruise ship and watch others click. I'm having some stress about a guy I kind of dated who is on another ship and also the person who knows me best in the world. I don't want too loose his best friendship but I can't continue along this line of ambiguity because it's what he has been comfortable with for the past year or more. It sucks because I'm in a ship with people I thought we friends from a previous contract but it's like working with strangers and now I'm really missing this guy and having to make a decision that will break my heart either way it seems..,
I would also like to change how much I miss his presence in my life. I would like to change how the acceptances and comfort I felt with him magnifies how uncomfortable and different I feel with others. It hurts so much missing him and it hurts so much realising I never really felt like I belonged until I met him.
@warmheartedHuman2014 you will feel that again, I promise. It's always hard for us to realize that our lives are filled with thousands of potential interactions. You literally never know who you will meet tomorrow, or the day after, and it's impossible for us to really truly imagine it. Things are constantly changing and we don't even realize it. One day you will meet someone new and it'll be the right moment for both of you. Or something will shift and someone you already know will see your relationship in a slightly different light. Or something completely out of the blue will happen. You just have to be patient and keep looking for it, and in the meantime take care of yourself and enjoy you for who you are.
@Protocol417 thank you so much. I am trying really hard. I'm just in the process of deciding if I can handle having him in my life just as a pen pal right now. I miss him so much and it hurts that he is afraid but also that hasn't made a real effort to PLAN spending timer with me. I understand its difficult because of the distance but its been 6 months. And school or no school, family planning stuffwithout asking u or not, he is an adult(almost 30) and should be able to make a plan if he wants it like he says he does. Without him though, I am alone and just a fan girl who is almost 32 and who some people find intimidating even though I'm usually quiet till you get to know me.
@warmheartedHuman2014 I know how that feels. I'm 33 myself and there is someone with whom I am involved who doesn't seem to spend as much time on me as I would like, and he is in another country. It bothers me because although he is busy, so am I, but I manage to find the time, so it makes me question his sincerity, especially given how long he and I have known one another. Our scenarios sound very similar.
Im approaching this by kind of just putting him on a shelf. I'm going out and having fun, sometimes with friends, sometimes by myself. I'm showing myself that there is nothing wrong with being "alone". The worth of my life is not dependent upon the attentions of another. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't, but the more I do it, the more success I seem to have. I'm slowly becoming happier. Eventually I hope I will have worked up to the point where I can let him know how I feel. We will see what happens then.
I wish you luck and love <3
@Protocol417 I'm sorry you are going through what you are going through. It is tough. I'm on a cruise ship working now and I don't have any friends here. And this ship is like the one he and i shared before. So, it makes it hard for me not to miss him and I have no one here to call friend. I often watt alone and sometimes drunk alone. I've told him how I felt and he is afraid of a relationship. He also can't say no to his family so he says it is hard for him to find time..,but you are right. If we can plan and arrange the time so can they. I often wonder why my guy keeps saying he wants to see me if he can't make an effort. :/ but its tough for me because he was the one I talked to when i was going through some things in life. I feel like he is the only one who cares but then I feel abandoned when he doesn't make seeing me a priority.
The way I interact with people. I want to be more open and confident with myself.
Today I'd like to change my eating/excel sizing habits!
Life my life again. Maybe start over and do the little changes that I would or could have done. I would like to change myself..
Today I would like to change the way it ended. I'm in tears yet again.
I would like to change everything especially my lazy body and brain
@shortuglystupidboy I wish you thinked higher of yourself! You're much better than you think
@shortuglystupidboy
me too really...
@shortuglystupidboy
Getting stuck in a rut, its really hard. I feel like I'm a failure and then again I'm really not. I have friends that push me and I have goals in mind. Making a list of things and having friends stand by your side really helps others out.
