Today, I'd like to change..... [finish this sentence]
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Today I would like to change how anxious I get over the idea of leaving the house to go to work. Every Sunday I get very worked up about it, but today I'm going to try my best not to think of it and enjoy my weekend.
I'd like to change my mind. I wanna have a positive mind (because i always overthink)
everything about myself
The feelings of emptiness and loneliness I feel
@Taylorhs
Your not alone there are a lot of people out there including myself who feel that way I'm with someone and I still feel that way at times you'll be alright :)
@BrightRedFlower2322 thanks
The fact that i'm still breathing
@yellowCity4232
That doesn't sound good :( why do you want to change the fact that your breathing for hope things will be okay for you there are a lot of nice caring supportive people on here and they will probably say the same thing why do you want to change your breathing for
@BrightRedFlower2322 i just feel like my being here is pointless. I no i'm not alone going through this but no matter how many people are here for me i still feel it. I'm hopeful that things will get better but so far no luck
@yellowCity4232
It just takes time we may think that our lives are going slow and going no where but its up to you to make the most of your life and lead you and your life on the right track it will take time but once you'll find that right path you will know what to do your a strong independent person do what you want to do in life don't let anyone stop you or tell you different It may seem like your alone with thousands of people I feel like that in my relationship alone no one wants me which is true for me but I don't let that stop me i don't care if I feel alone I still do what I want to do hope this helps being alone is good at times cause you can do what you want to do and enjoy it
@BrightRedFlower2322 you are not alone, and i no deep down neither am i no matter how i feel at the moment. As long as we have people that understand us and will be there for us in our worst moments we'll make it through this hard time in our lives.
@yellowCity4232
Exactly alone isn't really all that bad, you can accomplish so much. Sometimes having some breathing room can help you refocus on what needs to improve.
My attitude, and my perspective, being a good looking and available single young man.
Today, I would like to change how most listeners present themselves on this site.
I've vented on this issue several times and I will continue to vent this over and over and over again until someone within 7cups can address this issue.
Listeners tend to make their profiles very inviting, especially if it concerns issues and topics that matter. Once you're able to start chatting with them, four things usually happen (there are many more but these are the most common):
1. They're trying to chat with several people at a time which means you get little attention or you are ignored all together.
2. They claim to be open-minded, accepting, and non-judgemental but they end up being everything but that. They tell you that there is something wrong with you.
3. If you are able to get into a reasonable conversation with a listener, they will suddenly "disappear". And this seems to happen when you are most vulnerable and sensitive. And you never hear from them again.
4. The one that's the most annoying is when a listener claims to have knowledge on a subject and can engage in meaningful conversation when in fact, all they tell you is if you have talked to other people about, or just get over it, or go talk to a therapist. It's at this point that I question why they include topics in their profiles that they cannot or will not discuss. I will usually suggest to have those topics removed if they can't talk about them.
And then they disappear never to be seen again.
Some of this I attribute to the fact that many listeners here are "kids". Yeah, sure, they have gone through some rough times but they lack any real experience in being able to have mature and caring dialogue with those who come to them. And who knows how many teenaged listeners are listening to those over 18 or claim to be able to talk to adults. It's nonsense. And the truth is, real adults aren't that much better.
I don't think anyone takes this service seriously. And the ones I deal with definitely don't! Profiles are meaningless and topics for discussion are vague. Listeners make bold claims about who they are and what they're about.
Why is this a problem?
@Ranmusic I thought it was just me. I've had about ten listeners just disappear on me. And it's so frustrating having to explain my situation over again to another one when they end up disappearing too...
@Ranmusic i've had similar experiences.. as well as that i waited so long to get to a listener that i ended up having to leave the screen to go to the restroom and they try once or twice to message me, then they leave... and don't answer again...
I've also had one that made a very harsh comment when i was in the middle of telling them how an experience affected me... just blunt, harsh, and somewhat mean-spirited. What do you say to that?
I do wish that
1-the opinion survey on the listener would come at the END of the conversation and ONLY at the end... no one knows how the listener performed in the first two minutes if the conversation goes on for ten... to get an accurate rating on the listener, it should be overall of the WHOLE conversation... not the first minute or two. When the listener gets short with us or just ignores us... that doesn't usually happen in the first minute...
2-give a contact button in case there is a specific issue... someone can contact to report bad listener behaviors (and i don't mean minor things.. small mistakes... i mean the nasty, cruel comments and ignoring people ... as bad behaviors.
I can't think of anything else right now.. memory issues...
@inventiveHouse2965 hi, I completely understand where you're coming from. Here's a link that takes this matter further.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/CommunityGuidelinesandProtocol_446/TheBiggestProblemon7cups_127070
I would like to change all concerning my bad memories..
the way that I perceive myself
Today, I'd like to change how awesome I am so that I could relate to people that are less awesome.
