Afraid of intimacy?

@stxrrynightz

I do not know your age or if this is a first dating type thing and being nervous and shy if you have not had experience is common...

if you are experienced and yet the thought with this person turns you cold then perhaps this should just be a friend not a romantic interest. 

It's not unusual to feel hesitant when a relationship starts to deepen. Have you reflected on why you might be pulling away?

@stxrrynightz it's not uncommon at all. There may be a lot of reasons for this, but it is generally more common among women because there's a lot of pressure, expectations and prejudice about our sexuality. Some of us had bad experiences, including harassment, others are afraid because we're taught to be modest all the time but we have to be perfect when we decide to finally explore our sexuality. There are beauty standards, behavior standards, social standard that measure a woman's worth based on her sexuality...

A good way to face this would be to explore the reasons behind your fears and unpack them with the support of your loved ones, or even a therapist if you feel like this is becoming a huge burden. But remember, you can take all the time you need, your sexuality is yours to live and there is no right or wrong way to approach it as long as you're doing what makes you feel comfortable.

@stxrrynightz Sounds perfectly reasonable to me 

@stxrrynightz Thank you for sharing. I can really hear it can be tough to hear criticism.  By the sounds of it you can ask yourself these questions:

*What do you value and believe in relationships? 

*Is fear of abandonment a theme for you?

*What is the communication like with you and boyfriend (your own prospective) ? What are your love languages? 

* What is going well in the relationship? 

* How do you communicate your boundaries? 

It’s absolutely ok to have a chat 1-1 if needing that too with a listener . Feel free to pm 🤍

@stxrrynightz yes I believe so