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Do rebound relationships ever work?

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Anonymous
April 19th, 2018 6:06am
I'm not too sure... From my personal experience, the rebound relationship I have had after a bad breakup did not work because I was in a state where I just wanted physical company, which I had mistaken for general attraction.
magicallyNutella29
August 8th, 2018 10:37am
Relationships end for a reason. Rebounding a relationship is like re reading a book and expecting a different endings. There will be highs and lows but it will always end the same.
AndyVmuna
November 1st, 2018 6:58am
Rebound relationships never work. You're involving another person in your life to handle your dirty laundry. An emotional bell hop in lamens terms. It is not only unfair to the rebound but it does not solve the underlying problem of being lonely and grieving a major loss. A bond with someone is built on trust and love and affection and when that is broken it can leave you feeling lonely, broken and unable to feel happy. It may seem forever but it will pass eventually with help from friends and anonymous chat with people on 7 cups. But filling a void with another humans heart will not only hurt you in the future but you also thrust yourself into a relationship where you may not have anything in common or any shared interests or a deep understanding of each other. This ultimately ends up in another broken relationship. And now not only are you feeling lonely and sad and hurt and confused, hut now you formulate the idea that you're undesirable and many other emotions that will be harder to deal with. When you have your heart broken. Best to sweep up the pieces and break out the super glue. It takes time and effort to piece yourself back together but with someone to chat with, it can make the difference you need to make it through
Sinlua
November 9th, 2017 11:01pm
Yes and no. It depends on how you guys work together and how your relationship is overall. It doesn’t matter if you guys are a rebound relationship! If you make each other happy and healthy, stick with them!
TheFriendInNeed
September 29th, 2017 11:06am
It can work definitely, but the chance of that working is slim. But I realized most of the time it does not work because 1) One of them still may have feelings for their ex, and that means they are not giving their 100% feelings to you 2) They might be doing it to get rid of their loneliness, not because they "want you" but because they desperately "need you." A relationship should be based on honesty, trust, love and care... it should not be based on something as weak as "ok, do me a favour, help me get rid of my ex's thoughts." If you want a rebound relationship to work, make sure that you give your partner a lot of time to get over their ex, and ask them to be honest with you.
Power14
July 19th, 2018 4:29am
It really depends on both persons, if they want it to work it will work for sure. They were already in relationship it means they love each other and if they rebounded it means they still want to work on that relationship which had issues. If all issues are sorted and both act maturely relationship can work for sure.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 10:15pm
It's different for everyone, but usually no. You're still upset about your past relationship and moving having a rebound relationship will probably end up with one of you guys being hurt. If you want to go for it however, you do you.
eeveeon
December 6th, 2017 9:12am
It can't be defined for one person. It is subjective. Where a relationship that forms out of a rebound might work for some, it may not work for others.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 10:48pm
Rebound relationships are typically made to fill the void of the old one. I've never had a rebound relationship, but based off of what they were like for my friends, I would think that it is highly unlikely that they will go anywhere meaningful.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2018 8:12am
There are various definitions of a rebound relationship. To me, a rebound relationship is one where one knowingly leaves their partner within 24 hours for somebody else. It is intentional. And these relationships rarely work, especially if this person has a history of doing this in the past. Typically, the one being left behind feels like the weak one when in fact the other person lacks self esteem thinking “ the grass is always greener…” syndrome. They lack something inside themselves hoping someone else can fill it. True rebound relationships rarely work. If after a breakup, you meet someone without a deliberate attempt to find someone, of course it could work. When love finds you, success can be very likely. But when you're on the hunt for love without looking inside yourself, disaster often follows.
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 5:32am
Possible is you do fall in love with that rebound person at the end then it might just work out. But if you are just a rebound and nothing else then nope it will not.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 5:44am
No I don’t think they do. I’ve purposefully not dated for years for that very reason. I’ve never seen a rebound work out.
LoveAndMoonlight
May 10th, 2018 3:16pm
Rebound relationships often don't work because you're trying to cover a gaping wound with a band-aid. To quote Halsey, "If I close my eyes he looks just like you, but he'll never stay". Healing from a broken relationship is something that should be done naturally, rather than with another relationship.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2018 10:09am
Yes. I believe that rebound relationships do work. It is true that the reasons for entering the relationship were not right at first, but things can change and love can come into play. This vould mean that relationship would work. This doesn't happen often because of the unresolved feelings one may still have for one's ex, but it doesn't mean that it isn't possible for a rebound relationship to work. I have personally seen a rebound relationship work. In fact, there was more love in this relationship than in the original one and that made me understand that anything is possible. And love is very unpredictable.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2020 12:27pm
For me it personally did not. He asked me for a second chance so I decided to do just that. I fixed the mistakes I made the last time, such as having too many expectations. Yet, it didn't work out. He acted like he was doing me a favour by eing with me and ignored me the whole time we were supposed to be together. He indirectly ended up reminding me why I left him in the first place and that I had taken the right decision earlier. But the good thing about this experience was that it reminded me that I have good instincts and I should trust them.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2019 7:37am
Rebound relationships are tricky because as much as they can lead to a romantic connection, they have the potential to become unstable. If you still have feelings for your previous partner you may end up up with your new one out of spite, and this may project into your relationship. It is important to ask yourself if you truly like this person, if you are ready to dedicate yourself to them and forfeit any connection to your previous partner. If you are unsure take some time out to work on yourself and come to terms with your breakup before starting a new relationship, so that you and your partner can have the connection you deserve.
chefor
January 10th, 2018 7:21am
It depends. This person you rebound with might be a great friend to you and a source you can confide in. It really depends on the person. There's no right answer, you know what works best for you.
Simpledelicatewords
January 5th, 2018 4:47pm
Sometimes, but the thing about rebounds are you're usually really sensitive and looking for the feelings you once had. You deceive yourself this is what you want and fall way to fast without taking the time to get to know them. Rebound relationships work if you think of it as pursuing a normal relationship and going slow like you would there. Reserving your feelings to make sure this is what you want is best in my opinion.
ConsolingPenguin
December 14th, 2017 11:51pm
It's very possible! Recognizing where a relationship went wrong and building on the past problem means dedication! However, not learning from the mistakes can just lead to another downfall.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 6:02am
As regards rebound relationationships I personally feel to be our best we need to rediscover ourselves. We learn in relationships to a way of being with a person and ourselves. I is always good to take some time out afterwards and maybe re evaluate what our personal goals are. What was the reason for our breakup. What we learnt about ourselves. What worked or didn't work for us. Make sure we are following a good plan to move forward in. Look at our lives ie living space, job, ambition, location, health, friends, hobbies, holidays. I would advise where possible to learn new skills. Anything that give you a reason to smile. All too often relationships stop us actually being the person we think we actually are. Learn to have lots of fun without getting involved with someone new before jumping into the dating water too quickly. Self love is the most important thing. When we have worked on ourselves we can look for a partner who is on the same page as ourselves. We need very little in life however love- trust- friendship- honesty- self respect- support are a few of my standards. However there are now right or wrongs things either make you smile or frown and frowning is draining- dramatic and doesn't create happiness.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 4:06am
I personally think that if your going to go out with someone is because you have feelings for that person and because you want to be with it because of how he/she is I don't see it fair that u use someone else and play around with there heart just to get someone else from your mind and to distract yourself tbh I don't know of they work but from my point of view I don't think so but everyone is different it's ok to have different opinions
enchantingRose58
August 17th, 2017 9:08pm
They can sometimes work it depends on the people and where they are mentally, people deal with break ups differently
Anonymous
April 26th, 2019 9:43pm
Rebound relationships really aren't the best sometimes. You always need time to heal in a healthy way. Self care and healing is the healthier way to get over a relationship. Based on personal experience I wouldn't recommend getting into a relationship right after a break up. I told myself that I couldn't trust the person because of problems in my previous relationship. I had trust issues, I felt constantly hurt and took out my anger on them knowing at the end that they didn't deserve it. Guilt is something that none of us want to feel. So in conclusion , before getting into another relationship , take care of yourself first. Put yourself first so that when it is time to get serious again you have the confidence and you have strong will power. It all benefits you at the end because you'll then learn your worth.
Arkelight
December 27th, 2014 10:00pm
This is entirely subjective. They do and they don't. Most will fail but will have given a person their self-esteem back after having left their last relationship, but we can't always tell the future on this one.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 10:30am
It depends on how forgiving you are, and whether you're ready to accept each other again despite all the differences and setbacks you've had in your previous relationships.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2021 3:23am
I strongly believe that rebound relationships don't work. Using someone to get over another person is not the best idea. You end up hurting yourself and others more than actually healing. Making someone think that you are genuinely into them can cause some serious emotional pain to the person being used as the rebound if they were to ever find out of the real situation and plans intended. In the long run you also end up making it harder to let yourself emotionally recover from the heartache. It's always best to give yourself some time before getting into a new relationship.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 7:19pm
No, if they didn't work the first time, why would they work the second time? There is always a reason why it isn't meant to be.
iamgoodandwell
February 7th, 2019 2:17pm
That depends on how you take it, its a real famous thing I have heard that to get over someone just get under someone else, if that is the cause then it probably not work as it is just a rebound, but if you really have a good connection with the person, love can happen anywhere anytime without a warning in that case it will work, just know if you want a rebound relationship to work don't take it as a rebound relationship, take it in a better approach if that makes sense, meaning not to get over someone but to be happy :)
magneticHand2937
April 4th, 2020 6:49am
I am going to answer this question as simple as possible. It really depends on the "jump" from relationship to another. If you're done with the past and plan on firmly sticking to that then getting into a new relationship that last is plausible. If you're starting a new relationship with old feelings yes it will fail. Why? Because while your ex may give you time to cool off, if and when they decide to contact you again you will most likely respond and engage with the conversation. I hope this helps you determine whether or not to follow through with that rebound.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:53am
They can if both people try their upmost best, if only one person is giving their all then the answer is no