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Do rebound relationships ever work?

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Last Updated: 05/01/2022 at 9:16pm
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AliBuddyListening
December 19th, 2021 10:57pm
Often, the unresolved issues that you have confronted in your past relationship tend to resurface in rebound relationships. Be willing to put in the work and identify those struggles, and I think rebound relationships can indeed work. However, if you're not purely looking for a connection and more for someone to fill your time and the emotional hole left by your last relationship, this can cause problems. I'd say, it's better to learn how to be alone first, but if you happen to meet someone new who brings out the best in you, don't let it slide by. Look for honest connection, stability, and someone you can imagine being good friends with, rather than infatuation.
peachicus
December 24th, 2021 1:32pm
This very much depends on the person, there are some who simply want to be thrown in to a new relationship that distracts them from their own pain. Often physical and exhilarating it masks the pain they feel so they an move on in their life. They will then often leave that person to start a new "proper relationship". However rebounding isn't a healthy way to deal with your emotions. That person simply forces those feelings down and tries to hide from them and it works for some time. Down the line maybe 6 months to any time, they will be forced to experience those emotions they've repressed and it's often much more painful. Rebound relationships for people, in general, are harmful too. For example with most rebounds they're often risky, spontaneous and lustful; for many it compounds feelings that their worth is in their body and sexual desire. For the other person in the rebound it can be painful because they may not be aware that they're a rebound. Sorry this is very sporadic answer for you but in short. Hope it helped you.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2022 5:34pm
Rebound relationships do not work, speaking from experience. It is an approach I've done like many others and it only tends to hurt others. In my situation, my rebound fell in love and it only made things worse. Not only did I deal with a break up but also with the guilt of hurting someone else who I never had feelings for. Sometimes it is just better to heal on your own or be honest when seeking out someone to talk too. Let them know that you are not looking for a relationship but an ear to vent too.
Ruburtt
January 27th, 2022 7:52am
They may temporarily work, for your own self, but not permanently — especially on the severity of the breakup to cause the rebound relationship. Seeking a rebound relationship after a breakup may cause unresolved feelings to rise, which can cause negative emotions starting to surface. It is more safe (and less risky) to collect your thoughts and emotions before moving on to another individual. On the other hand, someone who is truly interested may take the idea of them being a “rebound” quite offensively. Overall on each side of the relationship, it will end in someone feeling a negative emotion.
greatfulSky
April 3rd, 2022 3:01pm
I suppose it depends on what we term 'work'. If a rebound relationship helps one navigate the deeper darker immediate moments, even as a temporary distraction, then yes, they work. As a long term relationship I would suggest that a rebound is just that, a rebound is a step, not a place to land, the place to land is with inward reflection, acceptance and evolving into a the person we need to be for our relationships, versus the relationship for me. Rebound in the long term supports the same thoughts feelings and behaviour to continue with no opportunity for personal growth.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2022 9:16pm
I think that depends on your definition of "working". Rebound relationships can be important; sometimes the only way to bring yourself out of a hole that an especially messy breakup put you in is to get yourself some company. And I don't think there's anything bad about that, especially if all parties are on the same page. Whether rebound relationships are the type that can turn into life-long partnerships is a different story. It's certainly possible, but probably more rare. Rebound relationships come at a time in someone's life when they're healing, and those relationships can aid that healing process, but they're also easy to outgrow. It's all about how you look at it :)