I feel everyone is looking at me which makes me overly conscious of my body, but how can I overcome that?
Last Updated: 09/19/2017 at 11:50pm
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You may feel this way now, but you wont later. 'Awkward' years will pass soon enough. You shouldn't feel this way about your body, love yourself.
stop judging yourself by the standard of others. Be happy with your body because it is a great gift you have in the first place :)
Find ways to gain self-appreciation and self-confidence. Know that you are an awesome person and become comfortable with your body. If you think something bad about yourself that you can change then change it in a healthy way. If you can't change it than embrace it that thing makes you part of who you are. An awesome human being!
By getting comfortable in your own body. I know that this can be very hard but that's what really helped me. Building confidence takes a lot of time and practice but that's okay. Try do exercises that help you with your self esteem, for example write down 3 things you're proud of and 3 things you like about yourself. It's also important to remember that just because you feel like everybody is looking at you, doesn't mean it's true. Usually thoughts like that are irrational. It could be helpful for you to try to rationalize your thoughts by asking yourself challenging questions such as: What would my friend think of this situation? If I were positive what would I think if I were being positive? What is prove that I am being right? Etc. Also it's important that you talk to someone about this. Coping with all these feelings and emotions can be very hard. I totally understand that. Talking can help with coping. I hope this helped!
That doesn't sound like a simple thing to overcome. For some people counselling really helps, for others they can explore themselves, read self help books and learn about how to improve their own self esteem and for others sites like this help. Talking and being aware of this are good first steps.
By realising whether or not people are looking at you doesn't change your confidence level. You are beautiful the way you are. People looking at you is just what people do; humans stare at random things all the time. Just take a deep breath and ignore humans' natural behaviour :).
Oh yes, that's a completely valid and common fear. In all honesty, we can't really stop other people from judging since that's out of our control but we can surround ourselves with people who are positive and help validate us. They don't necessarily need to tell you you are stunning or beautiful, but simply be around people that don't see a body size as a determining factor. Over time, since you're around them so often, I feel that it tends to rub off onto you as well.
I know how you feel. I too can be very self-conscious when people are staring at me and I am usually afraid that they are judging me. It helps to really think about why they are looking at you, though. Perhaps, they are staring at you not because you are unattractive or making a fool of yourself, but because they are (innocently) interested in watching what you are doing. They may be absentmindedly staring at you without any intention to which people often do when they are lost in thought. But assume that these people ARE judging you, in which case, you shouldn't have to mind their opinion. Unfortunately, there will always be someone who is going to judge us for our actions and behaviors. That does not mean that there is anything inherently wrong with you though.
Try to think about what makes you look at people. Usually it's because you like their style, makeup, vibe or smile. Maybe that's what makes people look at you too? When I feel like people are looking at me I smile at them and then I show them that no matter what they must think of me I am confident in who I am.
When I was younger I was really concerned about how people were judging me about the way I looked. I felt like hiding and shying away from the world but these days I have learnt to accept me for what I am and discovered that people generally look because we are all naturally curious. Mostly people are NOT judging you but rather are interested in getting to know you - believe me, it is better to be noticed than not noticed at all!
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