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Why can't I stop thinking about the need of losing weight?

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Last Updated: 07/16/2018 at 6:08am
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December 1st, 2015 12:12am
Hi, I'm really sorry you're experiencing the crushing expectation to lose weight. Many times, people say "You're just telling yourself that," or "You're perfect just the way you are." This can be very hard when you feel the constant pressure to drop a pant size, and it's the kind of pressure that you feel like you can't control. The need to lose weight can come from many different sources. From the constant barrage of too-thin celebrities, to the body type or our family and friends, to the opinions or bullying from others, to genetic predisposition, we might be left unsatisfied with our body image. Sometimes, this dissatisfaction can lead to an eating disorder. Eating disorders are serious mental illnesses that need to be treated as such. If you find yourself experiencing disordered thoughts or behavior, such as restricting, binge and then purging, abuse of laxatives or diuretics, then I strongly strongly advise that you tell a trusted adult about these things that you're experiencing. I can atone to this from my own personal experience. During my freshman year in high school, not only was my mom starting a huge diet plan and very open about her calorie count, but I was also dealing with bullies. I turned to anorexia to help me feel better, to help me control something in my life when it seemed like I couldn't control anything else. Although I dropped weight very, very quickly, I also passed out a lot, I was always cold, my nails turned blue and my hair is now stringy and thin, even after I've self-recovered. And even though its now over a year since I started eating healthy again, I can't look at any food the same way I did before, without seeing calorie count, fat content, macros. If you really feel the intense need to lose weight, do it the right way. I promise you, the results will be permanent, and you'll feel incredible. Eat fruits and vegetables, whole grain bread and lean meat. Cut back a bit on the desserts. Join your track team, get a membership to your local gym! Just don't forget to always let yourself have days of rest, and a splurge now and then is ok... pie happens to be my favorite food. Overall, we do have some degree of control over the way we see ourselves. Try positive reinforcement such as looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself that you are a lovely person. Even if you don't truly believe it, just hearing anyone say it out loud (even if it's yourself) will help you to feel a bit better. Good luck, love. My inbox is always open. Stay strong, stay safe
December 11th, 2014 2:41pm
Because of pressure from society, like in magazines has many girls showing bones in clothes, and many girls try everything to be thinner, and this influence young people, you feel like you should be part of it, but no, you should be just yourself.
December 27th, 2014 11:58pm
You have programmed your mind to think you need to be smaller to the point that it has consumed your thoughts.
December 11th, 2014 9:10pm
Honestly, it could be any number of reasons depending on your own mindset and your daily life, but typically it's peer pressure, self esteem, and maybe even a serious obsession stemming from an eating disorder. Either way you're not alone and there's help for you. Your weight is not your identity.
December 15th, 2014 1:49am
Honestly, society plays a huge influence in this. Society makes people feel like they are never good enough, and I have felt this way as well. I am definitely not a size 1, with a perfect body. I've always been self conscious because of this. Instead of focusing on the parts of your body that you do not like, I like to focus on the parts of my body that I do like. I have amazing eyes, my smile is great, and I have great hair. It definitely helps me get my mind off of my weight.
January 1st, 2015 8:58am
you don't need to lose weight love, you need to focus on taking care of yourself. weight can correlate with this, however if you're that concerned about the shape of your body or condition, it's better you focus on health. putting health first can have many positive outcomes including weight and most importantly, better body perception and acceptance.
December 12th, 2014 1:21am
In today's society, everything is about conformity. People feel like if they don't have the same body shape as the people around them, then automatically they need to change to fit in. That's how it is today, everyone goes through it at some point or another.
January 5th, 2015 7:26pm
Because today's society thinks that you need to be a stick to be pretty. Though this is not true, we're all pretty, we just don't know it. Please, if you feel like the amount of time you spend thinking about food or your weight or anything related, seek help.
October 3rd, 2016 10:00pm
Its best to ask yourself "WHY do I feel the need to lose weight?" There are many reasons why people feel that they themselves need to lose weight. Once you can pin-point the reason you want to lose weight, then you can start working out ways to fulfill that need healthily without having the overwhelming thoughts of having to lose weight.
March 7th, 2017 1:38pm
I, myself seem to currently be feeling the same way. Constantly worrying about what I eat, how many carbs I need to burn, what exercises to do that burn the most calories, and worrying about if I gain weight, ect. Sometimes the act of wanting to lose weight can be due to other mind processes. It could be used kind of like a tool to try and fill a space where your mind would overthink about something else. Think about other things that you worry about or possibly think about as much as losing weight. Maybe it could be an anxiety thing or something such as that. It is not always a bad thing, but once it becomes unhealthy is most likely a good time to seek out more help.
April 2nd, 2018 7:55pm
Maybe you have a problem where you think that you always need to lose weight. Some people have that.
June 11th, 2018 3:38am
Losing weight is often associated with beauty, and the urge to look beautiful is strong is most people. But remember, your body is beautiful already. You are amazing the way you are already, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to change it.
July 2nd, 2018 4:56pm
The persistent thoughts regarding weight loss can be symptoms of eating disorders or precursors of it. They stem from a thought pattern revolving around low self esteem and lack of love for oneself. A way of tackling them is to nite them down , and the use positive affirmations like ' my body is perfect and I love it ' so as to change and control those thoughts :)
July 16th, 2018 6:08am
Pressure, In magazines in TV shows Even right on Your Phone screen They portray Girls and Men as “Perfect”. And everyone on the TVs have perfect Bodies! Don’t get sucked into the nonsense! Be yourself, it’s okay to try to eat healthier and exercise but don’t go to Extreme!