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Sexual attraction: What's the difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction?

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Sexual attraction: What's the difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction?
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Eluna
January 28th, 2016 12:20pm
The difference between the two is that romantic attraction is literally around someone's personality for the most part, wanting to spend time with that person not necessarily for sex. Sexual attraction is the opposite, you might find someone extremely attractive via their looks, but when it gets down to it you don't honestly feel compatible with them.
TobyBara
January 28th, 2016 4:02am
The different between sexual and romantic attraction is arousal. Being sexuallyt attracted to someone implies that you feel aroused towards them. You would want to sleep with them or have a sexual relationship. Romantic attraction is the opposite, You may not see them in a sexual manor but you may love them and want to be with them, go on dates. Sexual attraction is more physical, romantic attraction is emotional.
mountainPass10
January 28th, 2016 12:49am
Sexual attraction to put it simply is when you'd be interested in having sex with them. Romantic attraction is when you'd be interested in experiencing romantic interactions with them such as hold hands and/or kissing.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 3:36pm
Sexual attraction is when you're sexually attracted to someone or a gender/s while romantic attraction is when you're romantically attracted to someone or a gender/s
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 5:43am
Sexual attraction is primal. Its purely what your body wants. Romance appeals to the mind and the body.
kaizerwithaz
January 24th, 2016 5:44pm
The most simplistic way to explain it is that sexual attraction is just that: a natural desire to have sex with a specific person, it can be an immediate desire upon seeing them or a more gradual one that develops over time, but in the end the base desire is for sex with that person. Romantic attraction is a desire for whatever you perceive is a romantic relationship with a specific person, can also be immediate or more gradual.
MegCarson9
January 24th, 2016 3:55pm
Romantic attraction is the desire to have a romantic relationship with another but sexual attraction is the desire to have a physical or sexual relationship with another, for example if I only had a sexual attraction to the opposite sex but a romantic attraction to the same sex I would be heterosexual and homoromantic
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 1:57pm
Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are both different depending on who you are. Typically sexual attraction is when you are attracted to a person sexually, meaning that you want to partake in sexual activities with them. Depending on who you are, a sexual activity may be having sex or it may be kissing. Romantic attraction is being attracted to somebody romantically, meaning you want to do romantic things with them (Once again, this varies from person to person, so you can make up your own definition of what "romantic things" are) Romantic things for some may be just going on dates to the movies or holding hands or cuddling. Sexual attraction and romantic attraction really vary from person to person so if you are in a relationship with a person who is ___romantic/sexual make sure you ask what they consider to be romantic/sexual so they are as comfortable as possible :)
TheGreyFixer
January 22nd, 2016 9:42pm
Romantic attraction is focused around intimacy and companionship: think evenings on the couch curled up watching movies, coffee dates or even marriage. Sexual attraction is attraction to and arousal for a person physically: wanting to jump their bones, or similar. They can overlap sometimes, but they can also be independent of each other. Everyone is different.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:33pm
If you feel romanticly attracted to someone, you actually like them for their whole package. how they look, their personality etc. you would actually want to start a serious relationship with them. sexual attraction is more like being attracted to the outside, and has to do with lust.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:22pm
Romantic attraction is where you want to hug/kiss the person, sexual attraction is... well, wanting more than that.
musicalForest17
January 21st, 2016 7:24pm
Romantic attraction is like having a crush, or really being infatuated by someone, or love. It's the feeling of wanting to date someone. Sexual attraction is the feeling of wanting to have sex with someone.
ughhitshaley
January 20th, 2016 5:46am
romantic you actually love the person and care about them, sexual you just want to do things with them such as having sex you really dont care or love the person as much as you would if you was romatically attracted
kittenguts
January 16th, 2016 11:12am
If you're romantically attracted to someone, you just want to be with them all the time. If you're sexually attracted to someone (often connected to being romantically attracted), you simply want to have sex with them.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 7:01pm
sexual is when you want to have sex with someone and romantic is when you want to be with someone but not for sex
Ourfaithinhuemanatee
January 14th, 2016 8:09pm
If you are sexualy attracted to someone you want / can imagine to perfom the act of sex with this person. This feeling is often mistaken to be just based on the physical appearence.. but also a personality can make you feel like having sex with a person. Romantic attraction is basically all whats left.. like feeling the urge to kiss someone ... wanting to be near someone.. an so on... its about performing all aspects of a romantic-relationship only the sexual interaction is distinguished ... these attraction can be absolutely seperate from each other... you can be sexualy atracted to someone without wanting to be in a relationship with this person and the other way round
33kirstiechu33
January 14th, 2016 1:33pm
Romantic attraction is like "I want to hold hands with and go on dates with" and sexual attraction is more like "I want to sleep with"
Crest
January 14th, 2016 3:11am
Basically, the difference between who/what you get hard/wet over versus what your heart melts over.
allthelove99
January 13th, 2016 7:39pm
Romantic attraction is the emotional response to the desire to have a romantic relation with someone, It can usually be described as innocent compared to sexual attraction. You may not want a sexual relationship with someone just because you have a romantic relationship with them. Sexual attraction is the physical and mental response of the desire to have a sexual relationship with someone. You may not necessarily want a romantic relationship with someone just because you want a sexual relationship with them.
kindDreamer93
January 10th, 2016 1:49pm
The difference between sexual attraction is lusting for a person, Lust is where you have strong sexual desires for someone wanting to have sexual intercourse with them mostly, romantic attraction is when you find that person that you are attracted to that you want to do things with them like go on dates, go to movies ect.
LoyalLouie
January 9th, 2016 11:55pm
Sexual attraction is all about their appearance and whether they fit the traits by which you define 'attractive'. In contrast to romantic attraction you don't need any kind of emotional bond for it. Romantic attraction, on the other hand, is all about the feelings you have for a certain person. It's a strong emotional bond that makes you deeply caring about the other person, whereas you can be sexually attracted without actually caring about how the person is doing. However, they very often appear together or one leads to the other.
gentleBeauty65
January 9th, 2016 6:59pm
Romantic means you get butterflies when you see them or the things they do make you feel a certain way in your heart but sexual attraction means they turn you on and you have a sexual appeal towards them. Theres not a full connect with that person on a person level unless you have romantic attraction too.
devin00
January 9th, 2016 4:32pm
Romantic attraction has to do with an emotional attachment to one. for example their personality. Sexual attraction has to do with someone only wanting you for sex sometimes they just use one for that.
CaseyC
January 9th, 2016 2:25pm
Romantic attractions are who you want to be romantic with, in terms of dating or hugging/kissing. Sexual attractions are people who you want to be involved with sexually.
Michelle0621
January 9th, 2016 2:04pm
Romantic attraction is about mental communication, sexual attraction is about physical communication.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 1:49pm
Romantic attraction is when you like every piece of someone. Sexual attraction is when you only want the person's body.
Zer0Carter
January 7th, 2016 6:13pm
Romantic attraction seems to be when you genuinely love and care about someone, wanting only the best for them. Sexual attraction tends to revolve around the body, how people dress themselves and/or the things they do.
SupaMega
January 7th, 2016 3:28pm
Romantic attraction is the feeling of wanting to be with someone for a long time. Sexual is the feeling of wanting to be in bed with them and that's all.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 12:47pm
Sexual attraction is about a desire for the physical sex action, or playful activities that leads to sex with another person. The romantic attraction is the desire for a social, intimate, connection involving personal feelings and trust with someone. Some people might feel sexual attraction for a specific gender, while having a romantic attraction for a different gender.
MyNameIsOlli99
January 7th, 2016 4:55am
Romantic attraction is the attraction to someone's personality, skills, morals, ect. Sexual attraction is the attraction to a person's body.