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Does being a teen mom really negatively affect my child?

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Last Updated: 05/30/2017 at 4:27pm
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MarcusAM
November 2nd, 2014 4:40am
From my personal experience my roommate has been raising her child since she was a teenager and she has a very healthy child. She had the baby when she was 16 years old and the child is now 8 years old! She is a bright young child and is excelling in everything she puts her mind to. She is super creative and compassionate. The mother just taught her child to always be mindful of herself and the people around her. Having it a kid will make you grow up faster but sometimes this isn't a bad thing and it will put you well ahead of your peers! Don't be discouraged and surround yourself with positive uplifting people and you and your baby will excel in life!
LusyaS
December 16th, 2014 8:37am
I personally was a teen mother, and I do not think that it has negatively affected my children. I think what matters most is that they get the nourishment and care that they need. They need to be shown that they are loved.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 5:47am
There are many teen mums who do a fantastic job. You can do the best you can for your child. as long as you provide love, food, warmth and shelter it doesn't matter if you are a teen or not.
Addie2
June 7th, 2015 2:03pm
As the teenage parent of a lovely daughter, and the adoptive parent of a beautiful boy, I can say that neither one of my children have been negatively affected by my age. I raise my children the same way my mother raised me, and my mother was one of the most respectable parents I've ever known. My children are taught to love everyone, and treat everyone the same way they'd want to be treated. They are taught to share, and put others before themselves. Just because you are a teenager does not mean your age will negatively affect your child, as long as you raise them right.
CerysValentina
November 3rd, 2015 8:43pm
No! Your child is affected by how you raise them - No matter how old you are. Just raise your child positively, and I am sure your child will be brilliant :)
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 4:17am
Yes I feel it does because you are still a baby yourself you have alot of growing up yourself
Anonymous
May 30th, 2017 4:27pm
As the daughter of a teen mom, I can say that as a child, I felt like it did. I felt like my family was a statistic; we were low-income, and technically a minority. Now as I am older, I see things a little differently. I realize now that while some of my peers had it better, others were in the same boat as me and others had it even tougher. Now I can truly appreciate all of my mother's hard work, and forget all of the mistakes. I am grateful to have had the childhood that I did, and to have grown up with the family I had. There is nothing but love now when I come home to visit. I am a sophomore in college working towards my BSN, then onto MSN, and I am happy that I get to be the one to break the cycle of teen pregnancy in my family. If this experience had one lasting negative affect on me... It would be that I am now terrified of having children. I want to be a mother someday, but I am so afraid that I will never have enough to provide for them. I want to give my children the world, as I'm sure my mom did with me. And I'm terrified of not being able to. I didn't see many responses from the perspective of the child, so I wanted to offer mine. All-in-all, I was a fairly average child. I was considered to be at the top of my classes throughout most of elementary, I took AP and Honors classes in high school, played sports, volunteered, graduated with honors... So having a teen mom definitely did not hinder my performance in that way. If anything, it motivated me more.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2014 12:42am
No, but I don't suggest it. It's not good for your body. It's not fully developed and ready for delivery.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2014 10:33pm
NO What makes a bad mom is one who makes a child see negative things and that's what makes a bad child
Letmeknowbts
December 18th, 2014 3:07am
The age is just a number, they way you love it and behave with it tell how good mother you are.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2014 12:57pm
No, it won't. You aren't alone in your concerns, all moms worry about the impact that they will have on their child. Younger moms often find they have more energy, creativity, and time to give their little ones. Older moms that they have more stability and patience. I have been both. By about six months they started to become their own people.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2014 9:30pm
Look at your resources. Is the child having enough financial security? Is the child is a comfortable and safe home? Will the child be supported easily by your and others? Will the child have food and water everyday when needed? Will the child also have a supportive community in and out of home? If you can say yes to all of these things then no. Not at all.
Anonymous - Expert in Parenting
March 26th, 2015 10:21pm
The only time age matters is how you handle yourself. Sometimes teen moms can be the best mothers. It only has a negative affect if you allow your age to interfere with your ability to parent.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 4:38pm
No, a teen mom can do as good as a older mom. It just depends on how you take care of them and if you still fight for your future. It might be more difficult for teen moms but you can do it.
HaleyP9
July 20th, 2015 3:00am
No, As long as you do your research and know what youre doing, and show that child as much love and devotion as any mother would, Your child will turn out just fine, if not better
blissfulRainfall14
August 31st, 2015 9:35pm
Well there are pros and cons with being a teen mom , it can affect things like sleep school work etc or if you dont have a job it makes things even worse because you cannot provide for your child
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 1:04am
from my point of view, I do not think it would affect "negatively" the child. Of course we dont prepare to become fathers, but we do our best to make them grow as great individuals :)
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 6:53pm
I don't think it would negatively affect your child, but it may put stress on the mother as she now has to juggle around school, friends and a child. The child needs to be shown that they are loved and steered away from any form of the idea that they were a mistake. Make sure that you organise everything so that you can live a successful life, even if it means that life will become a bit more difficult. Also, don't be afraid to ask your family for help - they will gladly help out when you need them to.
seekandyouwillfind
January 10th, 2016 11:26pm
as a teen mom this was something I really worried about when I had my child, I worried about what would happen at school or when they grew up and asked why they didn't have a proper house but now my child has started play group I noticed that she is in fact a lot more happier than the other kids and that's because as a teen mom you give more love to that child than most because it takes so much dedication to stay by the child, so no it dosen't
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2016 11:56pm
Although scientific studies may suggest such, being a teen mom is a growth path for not only just you, but also your child. Things are the way they are, and who knows? Maybe raising your own child is better than giving them up for adoption, because the adoption system, as it is, worldwide, is not perfect and your child could possibly end up in danger or living a worse life than they would have had you raised them yourself.
Spangles
November 15th, 2016 1:17pm
Age doesn't affect negatively on my child, just my ability to raise him. As long as I teach him to be a kind and compassionate human being then age, in my opinion, doesn't matter.
gentleHorizon27
March 20th, 2017 2:34am
I was a teen mom at age 16. I am currently 38 and my son is 21. It wasn't an easy life as a young single mom and I often felt like I wasn't good enough as a mom. As long as you stay clean from drugs and alcohol, are not abusive, and are there for your child, I personally don't believe simply being a teen mom negatively affects a child. There are many "grown-ups" who stink at being a parent- but that doesn't mean all grown ups stink at parenting. Love your child, be there physically and emotionally for that child, listen when they speak, be a parent- not their friend. Take walks, go to parks, help with homework. Listen to your heart. And NEVER be afraid to ask for help.