How do I approach someone that frequently ignores my questions via text messages and then texts me back without acknowledging my question as if I never asked?
Last Updated: 07/12/2021 at 11:49am
Stacy Overton, PhD.
I am an enthusiastic life-long learner and also a professor of counseling. I have a passion for peoples stories and helping to guide and empower the human spirit.
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You could ask them if they have seen your question and if they have, let them know you have been wondering why they haven't answered. They might've missed it, something might be going on for them or they've felt uncomfortable answering that question. Either way, getting an answer will help you take it from there. You have mentioned it happens frequently and I'm sorry about that. Having questions or messages ignored can be hurtful and confusing, you can let them know how you feel. A person ignoring your question shouldn't necessarily mean they dont care. I hope you get a good answer. :)
It seems like they are avoiding those questions and do not want to answer them due to their reasons. When someone is ignoring replying to some specific text messages it is a sign that they are not interested in discussing it. Some people ignore it simply because they don't want to sound rude or they are not aware of how to politely say no to a certain thing asked to them. I can say that from my own experience as either I tend to ignore subjects that I am not interested in or let the speaker know about it. So, if being ignored is bothering you, the best way to approach such a person is to confront them by being straightforward. You could text them back asking if they overlooked those messages purposefully or it was unintentional. Another way is to phone/meet them and then seek answers to the questions that you thought they were ignoring. This way you would not only get answers to your questions but you would also get to know if they ignored you intentionally or not. In my opinion, phone calls and personal meet-ups should be given more preferences than texting as it could save us from frustration and save our relationship with people. I have seen a lot of confusion brewing between people over text messages that ruin the friendship and could have been avoided if people preferred phone calls over texting each other. Being an active user of messaging apps myself, I am not against texting at all but there are instances in life where text could create more chaos. Chances are more of being easily misunderstood over text. Thus, a face-to-face meeting/video call or a phone call should be preferred especially during a fight or when there is a lack of understanding.
Be straight forward. If you see them in person you need to be like "Hey, we really need to talk." Sit them down and be straight forward. Ask them why they keep ignoring the question you're asking. Tell them how it makes you feel. Make sure they hear you and don't change the subject and make sure that they answer. If they tell you they don't want to or the question makes them uncomfortable then maybe rethink the question you are asking them. Rethink it and wonder if knowing the answer is really that important to you that you absolutely need to push forward or if the question is something that really could be making them uncomfortable.
Ask the person if you can have some time with them as there is something bothering you and you would like to talk about with them. This will help open the channel of communication in a positive way and also advise the other person that what you have to say is important to you. If you feel like your request is not being taken seriously ask the person for their full attention and ask again. They may not be in a position to talk straight away so understand that it is okay to another time suitable for you both at a later time/date.
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