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I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?

Profile: TheColumn
TheColumn on Feb 20, 2018
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Did you tell him? Does he know? Honestly, this is what makes all the difference... if he knows, it is time for deep and serious conversation. If he does not know.. and you are sure he never will find out.. personally I think you should just let it go, you slipped once.. you are only human. And forgive yourself. Learn from your mistake. Be good and better to him. Forgive yourself. (there are many who will not agree with me. It is your choice, ultimately.. )
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Profile: wishfulCaramel30
wishfulCaramel30 on May 25, 2016
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If you "love" him then you wouldn't have cheated. There is no excuse for cheating. Cheating is unacceptable on all levels.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 18, 2016
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You can start by telling him what you did. Hiding it won't help anything. Express your remorse and love towards him. He may not like that you cheated and not trust you for a while but overtime your relationship will heal. I'm only speaking from my personal experience, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years in the beginning of our relationship. Our relationship isn't fixed because it was never broken. It took us some time to figure that out.
Profile: deedee1909
deedee1909 on May 13, 2016
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Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. The truth always comes out in the end. Mistakes do happen, we are only human after all. I can't guarantee that you will be forgiven, but you will most certainly be respected for telling truth. If you truly love your partner, and he sincerely loves you in return, then there is nothing stopping you from working through this. You must be honest with yourself! Ask yourself... Why did I do this? Was there an element of diminished responsibility involved? Am I 100% happy in my relationship, or is something missing? Be honest with yourself, and be honest with your partner. If you ever need to talk one on one then do not hesitate to contact me. Best of luck!
Profile: Helpinghuman13
Helpinghuman13 on Apr 29, 2016
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You don't love him! If you have ever loved him what's the point of cheating on him? Leave him alone and let him be happy
Profile: WaterAndAFlame
WaterAndAFlame on Apr 16, 2016
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Be honest with your boyfriend. Honesty is very important in a relationship. Tell him your side - the motive for your actions and what you can do to help better the situation. Be open minded and understand that he'll feel hurt and may not respond in a way you might like or expect. Then, calmly talk about what you two can work on if you want to continue the relationship.
Profile: brilliantDreamer
brilliantDreamer on Jul 18, 2016
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The question here should be, how do I live with the decision I made. Learn. Accept you cannot change the past, ask for forgiveness, and move on.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 8, 2016
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If your boyfriend knows you cheated then you may not have the ability to fix things between you. Firstly I suspect he will be feeling, betrayed and hurt and he may or may not be able to get over these feelings. You may have to be prepared to answer lots of questions he may have and your answers may hurt him even further. You will have to give him time and maybe space to recover. Secondly you should consider the reasons behind what happened, are you sure your relationship with your boyfriend was in good shape at the time of your slip. I think you just have to accept you have hurt him, and he may not trust you again for a long time...but if you love him, just let him recover at his own pace.
Profile: peppermintlove
peppermintlove on Sep 6, 2016
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If you love him you have to remain open, honest and truthful with him for the relationship to work. There shouldn't be any secrets between you two, so be honest and tell him what happened. But tell him you love him and tell him that you really do care, and if he feels the same then he should understand and forgive you. It may be hard for him to forgive you but if he really loves you then everything will work out in the end ;)
Profile: reeyseelbeel05
reeyseelbeel05 on Mar 27, 2016
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First try to keep this on your mind "Not everything that is broken could be fix but their is always no harm on trying." Accept that fact that it your mistake first, try to give your partner enough time to think. Do everything that you can to gain his trust again and to fix your relationship with him. But don't be too pushy, accept and respect his decision maybe you guys just need time and space,
Profile: Mia27Elephants
Mia27Elephants on Mar 24, 2016
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A great way to fix anything is with communication! its always great to communicate to the person and tell the truth. I know thats very hard to do but the best thing to do is tell the truth and help your boyfriend understand how much you love him. Its not good to keep lies in.
Profile: sunnycappuccino
sunnycappuccino on Mar 25, 2016
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By being honest and talking about what you did ...apologising sincerely for the hurt , and doing whatever you can do to repair the relationship. Trust is very hard to build and so easy to lose ... think about whether you can be faithful going forward before trying to patch things up....
Profile: erenflowers
erenflowers on Apr 16, 2016
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Everyone makes mistakes, because we're only human. But as you can imagine, he'll probably be pretty hurt. The most you can do is show that you still love him and he means a lot to you. If he doesn't know, depending on the situation, it might be best to tell him. Trust is better than lying, but it all depends on your situation.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 22, 2016
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Everyone makes mistake, and just because you did something terrible doesn't mean you're a bad person. Make sure he knows you made a mistake, and you have to work with him and the emotions he is feeling
Profile: healer0613
healer0613 on Jul 1, 2016
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Tell him what you did. Be honest, if you really love him, and he really loves you, he will forgive you.
Profile: mysticmagic
mysticmagic on Mar 26, 2016
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understand that it is completely up to your boyfriend if he wants to leave or not. you CANNOT stop that. know that you did do the wrong thing, you broke his trust and much more. be honest with him about it, tell him why you did it ect. many people cheat because something is wrong in there current relationship - make sure you tell him what this is WITHOUT accusing him or being harsh (phrase it "I feel like we have a problem with.." ect)
Profile: JessicaMae
JessicaMae on Aug 16, 2016
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You said "love." This is a very strong word. I recommend that you See a concealer because You need to figure out what brought you to cheat. You have to explain this to him in the best way you can. Say to him what you would want him to say to you in this situation. If he stays or if he goes is up to him. But you will be okay. I promise.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 26, 2016
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First thing, you should be honest with him. Seriously, honesty will help you a lot. When you're honest with him there's a fat chance that he'll understand. Of course it's horrible to know that you've been cheated so be ready for some reaction. Adopt the actions speak louder than words and 'show' that you truly care for him. Instead of telling him that you love him, show it to him. Repeatedly let him know that you regret what you've done and you're sorry and that you love him. And last but not the least, give him time because only time can heal his wounds. However in giving him time, don't forget to always let him know that you love him.
Profile: NamelessKnight
NamelessKnight on Apr 28, 2016
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You can apologize and hopes that he still loves you after what you have done. There is no garanteed way to secure your relationship, for what you have done is wrong, although can still be forgiven if he can look over your mistake.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 4, 2016
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You must tell him, hiding this will only make matters worse. And after lying to him by cheating the risk of having him find out for himself will show him that you are not honest and it often makes people feel like you will never be honest. Whereas if you told him now, admitted, confessed and apologised letting him know you could go on pretending nothing happened because it hurts you. He could see that you care for his wellbeing and told him to begin mending that trust back together. Everything will hopefully work out in the end. Promise to never tell a lie to him again and what you had was special and what happened with the other person wasn’t. If you never wanted to hurt him and/or were under the influence of alcohol let him know.
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