What is the best way to break up with someone in a healthy way?
Wanda05
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Nov 7, 2014
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We all know that breaking up is a very difficult thing to do. The best way to break up with someone in a healthy way is to pick up the right time and place, do it in person and talk in a calm way to bring closure to the relationship. Nobody wants to be dumped but it is still the best to try to be honest so as not to make things more complicated. And most of all, try to be civil when your partner turns out to be yelling or screaming. Understand that not all people can handle rejections well. Try to be more considerate and act accordingly.
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smileforawhile
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Nov 4, 2014
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Be direct and honest with them. Be kind, polite, and respectful of the other person and their feelings. Gently explain your reasoning as to why you want to break up and why you feel that way. In my opinion, I think it's important to allow the other person to speak about how they feel about what's going on too.
Lifenote
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Apr 24, 2015
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First you must face up to the truth. Problems are plenty and many, and unhealthy relationships are caused by the fact those in them know it should be ended but drag it out causing alot of mental stress and in most causes a minor depression, since there are alot more worse cases of depression.
I find that women tend to already get mentally broken up a month before the actual breakup, but a more healthy way would be to face the problem direct, express your breaking up, opinions won't matter at this point because they only cause circles, its best to say it simple and leave.
focusing on your own state of mind is more important than trying to figure out everyone else's feelings on the subject, you need to start afresh start afresh, you can recover from anything.
Uniqueg
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Oct 30, 2014
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There's no way that I know because no matter what feelings are going to be hurt, the best you can do is be compassionate and explain why politely. Think of how you would want to be treated in that situation.
Asparagus515
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Nov 5, 2014
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Sit down and talk to your significant other in person. It might be terrifying but the best thing you can do is be honest and remain calm. They may be upset which is okay but remain firm yet kind. Set your boundaries. Do you still want to be friends? Are you going to block each other on social media?
Schneeglocke
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Nov 5, 2014
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Tell them that somehow you can't love them unconditionally and that they deserve someone who truly loves them.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2014
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Just tell that person what you really feel...Be nice and talk things out.. Respect each other's feelings.
Anonymous
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Nov 14, 2014
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Tell them carefully, be warm, be kind, say that you are sorry for your mistakes, explain them why you want to break up, tell them that you will always remember them and tell them that you will miss them
StrawberryFieldsForeverE
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May 24, 2015
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First of all, make sure that you go to a comfortable place and meet up face to face. Explain to the person how meaningful the relationship has been to you up to this point and all the things that you like about them. Then start a conversation on all the things that you are unhappy with in the relationship. It's really important that you keep these reasons pertaining to you. Don't blame the other person or accuse them of not being a proper partner. Just express your own values, boundaries and limits and how this relationship is no longer in line with them. Ex. I am no longer happy with the distance I have to travel to see you. It has been really difficult for me to do this regularly and I have decided I can no longer handle it. Make sure that you are adamant about this being the end. Don't give them hope that maybe one day you will get back together or offer friendship. It is far healthier to cut contact and keep to yourselves than to leave the relationship on confusing ground.
ChaiChelsea
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Oct 31, 2014
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It is best to break up with someone in person if possible, even if breaking up over the phone, text, or e-mail is tempting. Talking about it in person shows maturity and can help to bring some closure. It is also best to choose a time that is relatively stress-free for the both of you. It is important to be clear and concise about it while also being as kind and gentle at the same time -- to find a balance between making it clear that you are breaking up with them while also not doing or saying anything hurtful or out of anger. If you feel comfortable, try practicing what you want to say to someone else you trust and see what their feedback is.
Anonymous
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Oct 31, 2014
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Just sit, discuss why you want to break up. Be calm and patient with the other person as they are bound to feel upset and hurt, be prepared for it and dont expect things to go smooth. You being prepared will probably make it a little easier to deal with.
Anonymous
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Nov 2, 2014
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Be honest, but not insensitive. Don't beat around the bush. Be clean, be understanding, do it in person.
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2014
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Confront them in the best way you can. Explain them the situation, have a long conversation, and make sure that you mutually agree on the topic. Otherwise it won't be a healthy one.
GoodGuyChad
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Nov 5, 2014
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If you are determined to break up, you will inevitably have to have a difficult conversation. Realize that your partner may not react well and try your best to be mature and patient. Let the person deal with the difficult news and give him/her time to fully process it before you judge his/her reaction.
ContendingBand
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Nov 13, 2014
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I believe that every situation is different, but I think the best way to end a relationship is to be honest with the person. Meet with them in person if you can and simply talk it out.
MarcusAM
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Nov 18, 2014
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I personally believe that you need to confront all of your problems head on. The only way through something is to face it. It is healthier in the long run to talk to the person face to face even if it is uncomfortable for you and them. This will make you a stronger more respectable person.
MichaAmy
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Apr 1, 2015
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Sit down with them and calmly discuss why you believe it isn't working and how it is making you feel. This will help them to understand the break up and leave them without the pain of wondering why.
Eluna
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Apr 4, 2015
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The best way to break up with someone is to just tell them in person, don't lead them on and be sure to tell them why you broke up with them. Don't be mean about it though.
ghostPastry
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Apr 10, 2015
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Talk to them! Sit down with them, and tell them your true feelings. If your heart is set on breaking up, make sure to be very clear and firm about that. Don't try to spare their feelings, but also try to be as kind about it as you can. If you need space after the relationship, let them know that.
lucy1013
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Jun 5, 2015
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A good break up is one that both parties kind of sense is on its way, so when you talk about its reality, it shouldn't come as a surprise. If you have a problem, breaking up is not the right way to solve it. Talk to your partner about your feelings and in all likelihood you will be able to sort it out. However, if there are certain things about your relationship that you will never be happy with, it is time to break up. Talk in person and try to be as calm as possible. When you are emotional, you start saying things you don't actually mean, so it wouldn't be a bad idea to write some points down. Make sure your partner understands why you think a break up is the only solution and make it a conversation so the other person can talk too. Although it will be difficult to know if you will remain friends after, it is important to end things amicably.