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What is the best way to help someone get over a break up?

Profile: amiableAmy
amiableAmy on Jun 4, 2015
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Give them the time & space they need to mourn the loss of their relationship - being upset doesn't feel good but it can be a crucial part of recovery. Be there to support them & listen to them. Once they are feeling up to it, try to distract them with pleasant topics & activities to keep their mind off of their ex. Don't push them into new relationships before they are ready, but once they are encourage them to pursue new healthy relationships.
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Profile: tinyiris
tinyiris on Jan 18, 2016
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It is so tough to see a close friend or family member go through the grieving process after a breakup, and I know it can be difficult to know how to help them. The real healer after a breakup is time, but you can still certainly help them through. The most important thing you can do for the person is be there for them. Be there to sit and rub their back while they cry it out, be there to listen when they need to vent, or rehash what happened over and over to try to figure out went wrong. Be there even when you've heard what they're saying for the millionth time and just want to shake some sense in to them for being so hung up on someone that no longer cares about them (if that's the case, in your person's situation). Be there to support them if they do something they regret in an effort to move on (e.g., call the person and leave an angry message, have "move on sex", get into a bad rebound relationship). Just be there. If you're there, you'll start to see openings to help them in other ways...when you see the glimmer of a smile, tell them a story to turn it into a laugh. When you can tell they need a break from being sad, find ways to distract them (e.g., plan an outing, play a game, watch a movie). When they need encouragement, say things to help build them up. Your presence and love is the best help you can give them.
Profile: ListeningDaniela
ListeningDaniela on Apr 2, 2015
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One way to get over a break-up is to get a new hobby or activity to fill the hours you had spent with your ex.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 22, 2015
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To help them modify their expectations by realizing the fact that all relationships are prone to change, and certain changes may end relationships. One should not look at it as a disaster. This is the natural dynamics of human relationships and may happen to anyone.
Profile: kindSmiles70
kindSmiles70 on Nov 15, 2016
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Be there to listen, to comfort, to empathize. Focus on positive thoughts, try not to be negative. Let them cry, be angry but encourage them to give themselves a specific time during the day to focus on those feelings otherwise the person can be swallowed up in those feelings. Try to get them to go for a daily walk with you, the exercise and fresh air is great for helping with moods. Make sure they are eating mostly healthy food and drinking lots of water.
Profile: Becs
Becs on Feb 28, 2015
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In my experience, it is usually most helpful if you are simply there to listen and help the individual express all of the emotional pain that they are feeling. One of the hardest things about going through a breakup is keeping everything inside and trying to hold it all together which can often lead to withdrawal and loneliness. For me, I have always found it most helpful to spend time with people who care about me and who are willing to listen to me even if I need to talk for hours and hours about the same thing over and over. Listen to them for as long as they need you to listen. Sometimes that's all it takes!
Profile: Xxavian
Xxavian on Jun 23, 2015
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To let all the feelings pour out, cry all you want, talk all you want. Then as time moves on learn to accept it and move on. Sooner or later you WILL find the right person for you, just don't rush into anything and take it slow.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 10, 2015
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Watch a favorite Movie, TV show And or netflix and Youtube. You could also watch movies or Tv shows related to the situation.
Profile: MatthewMurdock
MatthewMurdock on Jan 9, 2017
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It really depends on the person. Some people like letting there feeling out by talking about the relationship, other's might cope better by being distracted by the event of the breakup (going to the movies or doing other fun activities) until it they have gotten used to it. The best thing to do is to just be there for them and help them with whatever they need :)
Profile: WalkingOnSunshine
WalkingOnSunshine on Apr 15, 2015
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I realize that break ups are hard to get over. The most important and often forgotten step is to realize why breaking up was the best decision for them. Once there is no danger of falling back in old habit, new habits will be what help them to move on with their life. It is important to find something new to do, even if it is something small like taking an evening walk everyday. It is also important to have a good social life. Remember though, that healing takes time, you can't expect immediate results. Just keep going and eventually things will get better.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 22, 2015
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Be there for them! When they are feeling down, give them a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on or just be a presence for them.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 18, 2015
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Be there for them and comfort them, its the best anyone can get. If they dont mind advice or being told certain things like it will pass or so on. then go from there.
Profile: charmingNarwhal24
charmingNarwhal24 on Jun 30, 2015
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You may think that eating ice cream or a lot of junk food will help and it does but after a while you might feel disgusted with yourself and feel worse I suggest eating fruit and just know that people come and go they always will.
Profile: Ametrine
Ametrine on Jul 21, 2015
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Provide support and opportunities for that person to get their mind off of their breakup. Listen to their feelings when they do want to talk through them.
Profile: tinkerbella00
tinkerbella00 on Oct 7, 2015
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be there for them! show them that your dedicated to helping them and that you only want what's best for them, you can help them by giving them tips on how to get there mind off of someone and maybe organise some things for you to do, e.g. plan a day out or do their favourite thing
Profile: Dani24
Dani24 on Nov 17, 2015
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Be there for them when they need you. Listen to them and support them. Give them your time. Time is really important factor in a breakup as well as knowing you have somewhere there for you
Profile: CielIsMe
CielIsMe on Jan 19, 2016
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Remind them that they are perfect. That there are over 7 billion people in the world and that just because one person treated them badly or wasn't "the one" doesn't mean that they are destined to die alone.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on May 16, 2016
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Best way is to be a ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. Always remind the person that there is a reason for the breakup and over time he/she will be laughing over the whole thing.
Profile: magicalhope75
magicalhope75 on Jun 28, 2016
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Making him accept that the relationship is over and bringing him closer to his real self...getting him to trust himself
Profile: justIzzie
justIzzie on Jan 3, 2017
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Getting over a break up is hard for a lot of people! To begin with it's important to understand that ending a serious relationship is like ending a chapter of your life. A lot of emotions will be going through this persons head so try not to rush them into automatically moving on from the situation. Take this person out to do something they really enjoy. If they like music, take them to a concert, or perhaps a karaoke bar. If they enjoy swimming, take them to a local water park or maybe the beach. This person is probably feeling down, and may want to do something they enjoy to make themselves feel better, so try to focus on something you know they love to do. However make sure you're not encouraging them to bottle up their feelings into things they love. Give them time to cry or mourn being careful not to let it go on for too long.
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