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What's the best way to get over someone who cheated on you?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 3, 2015
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First of all, keep in mind that your partner's cheating had nothing to do with you. Don't look for any faults in yourself to justify the cheating. Your partner made a commitment to you and they didn't follow through with it. The only fault there is, is in their character. That being said, your self esteem will still take some damage, no matter how aware you are that it's not your fault. I suggest taking the time to focus on your qualities, to do nice things for yourself, even spoil yourself a little. This person did not deserve you, you didn't deserve having your trust cheated, you are better off without them even if it hurts right now, the pain will pass, it's temporary and you will have a free spot for someone that deserves it when the time is right. :) Stay strong!
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Profile: MassacrX99
MassacrX99 on Apr 21, 2015
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For me, the best way to get over someone that has cheated on you is to forget them completely should you choose to break up with that person. Cheating is breaking the sacred bond of the relationship and is in my opinion unacceptable although some may choose to reconcile with their partner. BUT ways to get over them are to erase or eliminate any memories or items or anything that has to do with that partner. Get rid of mementos, photos, anything that reminds you of it. This should help ease the process and keep you from being reminded of the person and thus the pain they eventually caused. Another way I found that helped was releasing emotions. this can be done multiple ways such as crying, expressing yourself through writing or a notepad app on your smart device or of course the classic, expressing feelings to a confidant in your life such as a really good and supportive friend or even on here, 7 Cups of Tea. The final way to get over someone is simple. Be positive. Having a good outlook on the situation can really help. Find other things that make you happy to take your mind off of the recent loss and think about what good came out of the situation. If a partner cheated on you, that commitment is broken and thus wouldn't you be better without that kind of person? It's better to have someone who will always be faithful rather than give up their heart for a moment of selfish pleasure. In any case, keep your head up and you always have friends or supporters who can help, especially on this website here.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 7, 2015
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Keep your mind busy in things you love doing(hobbies) and start loving yourself and people who are already there for you(family and friends). Going after you passion and hobbies is important as in the process you get to know yourself and start accepting yourself, it also creates a distraction/diversion from thinking about your partner and feeling miserable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 20, 2015
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Being cheated on is always a difficult issue to deal with. The best way to get over someone who cheated on you is keeping in mind that they didn't respect you enough to remain faithful to you. If the relationship is over, it's your turn to find someone who will care about you and respect you.
Profile: MandyHappiful
MandyHappiful on Mar 5, 2018
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Take care of yourself and don't ever think you're not good enough or that there were something you could have done to prevent it. It was their decision, and a person who cheats has it in their persona to do so, and that immediately makes them someone not deserving of you.
Profile: zaix
zaix on Dec 7, 2015
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if they can cheat on you then they have no real feelings, you shouldn't give them a second chance either, I get that we all make mistakes but the trust you once had for this person is never going to be what it once was. It's not worth it and I understand from experience that we feel like we are in love with this person and letting them go and not giving them a second chance is basically not an option for us but in the long run it is what is best.
Profile: cuddlyComfort34
cuddlyComfort34 on Jul 25, 2016
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First, set limit days of mourning, second, free your mind and soul by letting go, third, filled your life with more energetic, positive and more healthier you, and fourth enjoy the new you!
Profile: turquoiseTiger2430
turquoiseTiger2430 on Apr 13, 2015
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There is no one best way. It will depend on the situation. It might have been a cry for more attention or something more fundamental. You can forgive them & try and move on from that by resolving the reasons behind the cheating, or you can move from the relationship. If you want to continue you need to decide will the cheating continue or stop and what you would like it to do. However as this is the break up section I'm going to assume you have walked away. So you need to fill your life with things where you are valued, this is a blow to how you value yourself. But each of us is more than just a partner. Look to social networks, hobbies, friends and family. Create new habits that do not remind you of him/her, where you will increase your value via your own life choices. Be aware that you will be wary of new relationship, and that is OK, but don't judge the present just by the past, but do learn from it. It is a fine balance, but what will help most is recognising where the feelings come from. The NOW situation or the THEN situation. Be kind to yourself, there may be reasons he/she cheated but they chose that path rather than addressing the reasons. Own any faults that were yours but don't accept those that were not yours. Learn to love yourself and the amazingness of you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 21, 2015
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avoid the person that cheated on you, don't look back at what you had with them & never talk to them ever again best way to get over them. try moving on & forget them they not worth it .
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 22, 2018
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Work on yourself, block them from all forms of social media, delete their pictures and messages. When you’re 100% happy with who you are, and you’ve healed and moved on, unblock them and make a comeback and show them your worth and how much better you are. Do it for yourself, take care of yourself, cause no one else will!
Profile: Marlocked21
Marlocked21 on Jun 6, 2015
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Remind yourself of your worth, and that life has it's up and downs and that hopefully one day someone is going to make it up to you
Profile: strawberryLake18
strawberryLake18 on Sep 28, 2015
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The best way is to remind yourself that he did that because he is a cheater not because of anything wrong inyou .. Remember that you are a good person find the best in you and try to be active and don't stop living for that .
Profile: VanessaD92
VanessaD92 on May 28, 2015
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Realize that you are better off without them. If someone was stupid enough to cheat on you, you should be smart enough to find someone who won't do it to you :)
Profile: FindingPeaceWithin
FindingPeaceWithin on Jun 23, 2015
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The best way to get over someone who cheated on you is to constantly keep yourself busy but make sure you express how you feel and allow yourself to cry because it's not healthy to completely ignore the fact that you're hurt.
Profile: slightlyodd99
slightlyodd99 on Aug 31, 2015
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Know that,the person that cheated on you did not deserve you. If they were unhappy with you they didn't have to cheat and that you deserve so much better. Pre-occupy yourself with some other activities to keep your mind off. Don't fall into despair, after a while try dating again...maybe you'll find someone that makes you really happy and stays with you :) (sorry if this was inadequate)
Profile: JackM
JackM on Feb 14, 2015
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Read books, watch movies, talk to friends and family. Do anything to stop you thinking about the problem.
Profile: PerfectlyCalm
PerfectlyCalm on Mar 15, 2015
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Forgive that person and understand that although it did happen to you, it didn't happen because of you.
Profile: Dyvine
Dyvine on Feb 16, 2016
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I believe it's a very hard task. And you really have to want to do it, and do it. The first step to get over it is to realize your better than what they perceive you. Surround yourself around with caring people, family and friends, ones that you know won't judge you. Keep yourself busy, going to the gym is one of the places to keep yourself busy. Your not only relieving stress. Your also beginning a new healthy lifestyle. Delete them from your phone, all pictures and any thing that reminds you of them, something that may trigger emotions. Stay away from places yall shared together. And most important...... Mourn, give yourself time to heal, cry, scream if you have too. But don't hold it in and don't dwell. Give yourself as much time as possible to heal, but don't get stuck.
Profile: Remina
Remina on Jul 5, 2016
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There really is no best way to get over someone who cheated on you. There's different things you can try but how they work depends on you. You can see a lot of good ways to try to get over someone by going to the self-help guides which you can find under Path. There's one on breakups. Read it. It can help.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 7, 2017
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Just know that it was not your fault and the person who cheated on you made the choice all on their own. Don't blame yourself and know that you gave your 110%.
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