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Is it normal for you to be mentally scarred from bullying?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2015
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Yes its is very normal. Bullying is a very hard thing to go through and a lot of the time it changes the way you think about things and how you think about yourself. Sometimes the mental scars it leaves last forever.
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Profile: Altdorf
Altdorf on Apr 7, 2015
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Absolutely- and its okay not to be able to forget things or find yourself getting hitched on them. But its always possible to heal, though the mark may remain. Just remember that just because those words or actions hurt you, doesn't mean that they were true or at all justified. Pain is not validation for cruelty.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 10, 2015
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Yes. I was bullied all throughout middle school and high school, and didn't realize its impact on me until later in college. I wound up having trouble forming friendships with other women (mostly girls were the ones that bullied me), maintaining trusting relationships, and eventually started therapy for anxiety and depression. Even though things aren't perfect now (I am currently almost 24), I have learned to address this issue and work through the residual feelings I have associated with my past. In short, yes, it is normal to experience a variety of feelings in the years to come after having been bullied. You are not alone.
Profile: Emily619
Emily619 on Jul 2, 2015
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It is completely normal to be mentally scarred from bullying. Bullying is just like a traumatic event, once it happens, it can never be forgotten. Sometimes you may even be scared that it may happen again, whether it's by the same person or not. After a person is bullied, it (most of the time) lowers their self-esteem, and makes them feel unwanted, like they are useless. In some cases, it can sometimes eventually lead to self harming, even suicide, all because of a bully.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 21, 2015
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Bullying is often a traumatic experience for the victim and can leave the person feeling ashamed, weak, and vulnerable. These feelings can continue long after the bullying has stopped. When you say 'mentally scarred', it sounds as if you may be referring to recurring thoughts or feelings around the times when a person was bullied. If so, yes it is absolutely possible to have recurring thoughts about the events that have taken place. This is a form of post-traumatic stress; essentially this means that after a traumatic experience (post-trauma) the person experiences stress. This can come in many forms, including nightmares, recurring thoughts or fears of being bullied again, feelings of weakness or helplessness, and even guilt or shame. If you or someone you know is being, or have been, bullied, speak out to someone. Talk to a parent, a school counsellor, or someone here at 7 Cups. You are not alone. There is help available to work through these emotions and feelings.
Profile: AshleighYG
AshleighYG on Jul 28, 2015
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Absolutely. It is completely normal and sometimes it can make us feel as though we deserve it. However, we DON'T!
Profile: passionatepanda
passionatepanda on Feb 8, 2016
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Absolutely. Bullying is a form of pattern, and acts like classical conditioning. Classical conditioning is basically like if you always open a closet to access the pet food, and so now your pet runs over to you whenever you open the closet. Bullying conditions you in several ways, most negative. They harm your self esteem, and make you doubt yourself. It is ABSOLUTELY ok to feel mentally scarred after having been bullied, There is nothing about that that is weird. :)
Profile: jenmid248
jenmid248 on Jun 6, 2016
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Absolutely, this is completely normal. When you are bullied you feel alone and scared but then you come out of your shell and show those bullies who is scared now. It is normal but don't be normal, step out of your comfort zone ! :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 5, 2017
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I would have to say normal is a bit of a dangerous word, it's certainly common for people to be deeply hurt by mental abuse, and scars that no one can see.
Profile: CaliforniaGurl56
CaliforniaGurl56 on May 2, 2018
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Yes, it is not uncommon for one to be mentally scarred from bullying. Bullying is extremely tough to go through and can not only mentally, but physically hurt you. Those scars can last the rest of your life...
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 16, 2015
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yes, anything that happens that hurt you in the past it's normal to be scared it will happen again. having fears that everyone thinks whatever the bullies said is normal.
Profile: MoonshineStrider
MoonshineStrider on Apr 11, 2015
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Yes, bullying, especially depending on the severity, can leave long lasting mental and emotional effects on the person bullied. A good way to cope with this is to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feeling, and try and get help with your emotions.
Profile: mysterioussound
mysterioussound on May 6, 2015
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Yes it is completely normal. Its normal to be scared of practically anything. You are not the one who decides what to be scared and what not to be. If that was in ones control no one would had ever been scared of anything. But yes it depends on you, how you take your fear. You could try to work something for it, fight against the fear and emerge victoriously and make it go away, that's pretty much in ones hand. Or else can loose yourself without fighting against it. Not something I or anyone would like the thought of.
Profile: positiveSummer89
positiveSummer89 on Jul 6, 2015
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Yea it is normal because now one wants to now what it feels like to be bullied no one wants to be in the situation anyways.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 4, 2015
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Yes it is normal because bullying does affect people mentally and physically. But if you are seriously scarred mentally then you should probably speak to someone like a therapist or someone else that can help you deal with it.
Profile: ShadowGirlGamer
ShadowGirlGamer on Jan 25, 2016
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Yes, even if people don't bully you anymore, you will always remeber it. It won't help if the bullying lasted a long time
Profile: ListnerNorwich88
ListnerNorwich88 on May 16, 2016
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I feel that this is completely normal, bullying is an awful thing and cave have a real affect on a person. Sometimes speaking about it, and talking through experiences can help a person get through it and move forward.
Profile: SupremeCourtJustice
SupremeCourtJustice on Jul 25, 2016
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Of course, it is! Bullies sometimes make you feel small and scared and that's what I hate about them!
Profile: calmOcean86
calmOcean86 on Jul 26, 2016
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I would hate to say that it is a "normal" thing, but sadly, it is. People can get scarred sometimes, but there is ways to cope and over come the issue though.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 9, 2016
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Yes it is, I was bullied all my school life & still to this day I have flashbacks & memories it's horrible
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