How can I stop being a pushover?
beautifulRecipe32
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Nov 19, 2014
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Voice your own opinions when you disagree with people, believe in yourself and stand by your judgements.
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danica
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Nov 23, 2014
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Recognize your needs and wants and think about how saying "yes" to something will affect you in the long run. Learn to realize that you do not need to always say "yes" to everything. Voice your opinion when you need to, even when it may clash with those of others.
Anonymous
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Jan 8, 2015
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Taking the first step to standing up for yourself is definitely tough, however once you've done it even for the smallest thing, it gets progressively easier.
supportiveMango15
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Nov 14, 2014
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I've had trouble with this for a while and have been trying to overcome this thanks to one quote from a negotiations book: "Don't be afraid to be a little pushy." What those 7 words told me, was that I don't always need to agree with everyone and I don't need to please everyone. I can say no or disagree sometimes. I've been a pushover because I'm often very passive, and reading those words made me feel that it's ok if I'm a bit pushy sometimes. I have needs, wants, and ideas too.
SashaMor
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Nov 17, 2014
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First of all, nobody is a pushover. Every person is very important. Self-esteem is a strange thing for some people, but without it there will be no happiness without self-respect.
peacefulemily99
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Nov 19, 2014
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Stand up for what you believe in! Don't let people force you to do things you aren't comfortable with
TheComedyTragedy
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Nov 30, 2014
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It sounds silly but potentially it may be a good idea to research assertiveness on the internet. These things don't happen in a day, it's so easy to say yes, yes I'll do everything for you but sometimes saying no can be the hardest thing in the world.
Anonymous
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Dec 7, 2014
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You can stop being a pushover by being assertive when it comes to what you want or do not want and make it known that you will not change your mind.
Erynn
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Dec 19, 2014
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There are many reasons that people may find it hard to stand up for their beliefs and opinions. First, it may help to examine why you are having a hard time speaking up for yourself. What emotions and thoughts are in your way? If it is a specific situation or person that makes it hard for you to speak up, it may help to practice what you want to say and prepare sentences or phrases you can uses when it comes up next time. It can also help to write it out in an email or letter sometimes if it is a specific situation. For more general situations, it can help to strengthen your self esteem through self-affirmations, self-acceptance, and possibly counseling depending what else is going on in your life and how significantly this has been impacting day-to-day life.
Anonymous
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Dec 24, 2014
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Learn how to say no to people and decline their offers. You don't want people to think that you do every little thing that they want to you to do.
DavidLee
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Dec 31, 2014
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I know its easier said than done, but you just need to get the courage to assert yourself. Stand up for you. I understand that's exactly what the problem is, but there isn't much of a better solution. Take it slow if you have to, start with small things, you're really busy and someone asks you to do a minor favor, just say no.
ForgottenDreams1
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Aug 17, 2015
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One way I learned to stop becoming a push over is.... I learned how to say no to people, even if they tried to make me feel guilty or sorry for them. I stopped putting other peoples and needs before my own.
Anonymous
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Jan 17, 2016
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Stop caring. Seriously, stop caring about the other person's life and what they are doing. Just accept their answer whether it is a lie or not.
Anonymous
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Jan 21, 2016
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Push over me? I dont think so. I am naturaly a person who does not let people push me however I am merciful
YoullNeverWalkAlone
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Jan 27, 2016
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The first step to stop being a pushover is to realize that you have value, and that you deserve to be respected. Once you respect yourself, people will respect you in turn. You teach people how to treat you, so be confident in the amazing person you are, and let people know that you won't be pushed around.
Anonymous
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Jan 27, 2016
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It depends on what you consider to be a pushover. Is it something that invokes negative feeling about yourself?
helpfulPeace78
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Jan 28, 2016
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First of all, try not to be so hard on yourself! I find the best way is to step back before making a decision and ask myself whether I am making that decision for myself, or if my decision is coming from an outside influence. Once you are able to differentiate the two, it will be easier to make your own choices and practice practice practice!
Kathlyng90
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Jan 29, 2016
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I think the best thing you can do in order to stop being pushed around by others is to stand tall and feel good about yourself. You need to realize- which you have I believe by asking this question- that you're worth more than being pushed around by others. So, tell the people who are doing it, simply to stop, that you don't like it. Or if they ask you to do something, learn to say "NO" and stick with it.
Mike8448
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Jan 31, 2016
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If you can find someone to practice saying NO to things, and who gives tips on how to say no without offending anyone, that will be good.
Anonymous
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Feb 3, 2016
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Have some confidence in yourself, be firm but civil. Don't let others tell you what you are and what you're not. Love yourself and understand that you deserve respect.
