What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?
107 Answers
Moderated by Joe Nelson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Doctor of Social Work
Updated: Jun 1, 2020
Freebirdie
on
Apr 21, 2016
...read more
Befriend yourself! You're the only one who'll stay with you forever. Talk to yourself, write,dance,exercise, listen to music, read, find a hobby. Learn to live with yourself. That way, realtions will be a choice and not necessity
Struggling with depression?
Takes less than a minute. Keeps 7 Cups free for someone else.
A small contribution goes straight to keeping the community running.
nourdennaoui
on
May 29, 2016
...read more
oh maybe try to interact with new people that u like & be their friend or make some online friends + if u want im here 4 youu
Beblessedwithkindness2
on
Jun 12, 2016
...read more
If you are feeling lonely, maybe you can go out and feel the wind! There's so much that life has to offer, why don't you take advantage of it? One thing I always say is, you don't have to have friends to be happy. You have to be happy with yourself first. Even if you did have friends, if you weren't happy with yourself, you'd still be unsatisfied. Spend time with yourself first & then friends will find you!
Barliebluejay
on
Dec 7, 2017
...read more
I Am feeling lonely right now. Having my dinner alone. Just wondering what to do while reads all the comment. Just not my day.
Photography99
on
Apr 10, 2016
...read more
I go to parks and share smiles with some people. I go to stores and help those those with ailments or disabilities get through their shopping. Wherever I go, I'll smile to or help those who seem to need it and will accept it.
naturalRose97
on
May 30, 2016
...read more
You can try to approach someone who has common similarity or interest with you, or anyone who is likely you'll be comfortable with. But I know,sometimes there are times when you don't feel fit in with anyone AT ALL. Just really,no one. As I do believe the comfort in friendship is built naturally,you can't force this situation. Be your own best friend and company, do not let yourself sink into this feeling. Focus to do things you enjoy (writing,listening music,reading,etc) and don't put yourself under pressure during the process of seeking friends, Don't bottle up your negative feelings or let yourself lonely,try to discuss with someone (for example your family,siblings,or simply people here in 7 Cups of Tea). Try to create a good atmosphere towards people,be nice to them. The right people will come to you at the right time.
Skoglandskap
on
May 20, 2016
...read more
Find yourself a pet.
Nicechatter
on
Jun 10, 2016
...read more
Actually,i think loneliness is about ourself.If we think that we are lonely we will be lonely.There are always some people that love us.If you think that there is anyone to love you,come here.Cause we love you and we will always be with you.That's what 7CupsofTea means.But if you can't reach us,i suggest you reading books.Books will always listen you and they won't judge you.
ari88
on
Jun 9, 2016
...read more
Spend some time to get to know yourself. there will always be people out there who are willing to love you and embrace you as a person but you first need to become the person you're capable of being before seeking friendships or relationships anyway. So many of us waste our time on fruitless, meaningless relationships/friendships when we could treasure that time and instead get to know ourselves as a person, learn from mistakes and grow.
disconsolate
on
Apr 8, 2016
...read more
there is a different between living by yourself and being able to live with yourself. my favorite writer taught me that. being alone doesnt mean you have to feel lonely. you have you. and being surrounded by a dozen of people doesnt automatically mean you wont feel lonely. in fact, it hurts more. to feel so lonely even if youre surrounded by so many people.
MajesticTurtle
on
Jun 12, 2016
...read more
Just do what I did, it may sound like you are mentally insane but make up your own world. Imaginary friends, fake reality. It helps a lot.
Anonymous
on
Apr 28, 2016
...read more
I curl up with a nice book and make a mug of coca. I put on my pyjamas and sit in my chair before I begin reading and sip my cocoa to the sounds of the bees
calmspirit
on
Apr 30, 2016
...read more
I think it's vital to take care of yourself, and remember that you always have yourself. Remember you are not defined by how many friends you know, or how many you don't. Feeling lonely is normal if you aren't around others as much. It's something many can relate to.
Anonymous
on
May 1, 2016
...read more
When you are lonely and have no friends perhaps the best course of action would be to occupy yourself with things you truly enjoy such as exercise, reading, writing, journaling or something like that. It sounds like when your lonely things don't go well and you get caught in negative thoughts which makes you feel worse.
booklover1224
on
Apr 27, 2016
...read more
You can try approaching people. Perhaps join an activity or volunteer somewhere that makes you happy, and then try and talk to other there so you can find someone you have something on common with?
LemonToLemonade
on
May 12, 2016
...read more
You can always talk with someone here when you're feeling lonely. If you're shy in real life then maybe you could try signing up on a forum with people who share the same interests and make friends like that. Otherwise just ask someone from school or work to hang out sometime, maybe you two will click and make very good friends.
EmilyAnnMarie
on
Jun 15, 2016
...read more
Sometimes the closest friend you can have is yourself. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else
LifeAddict1
on
Jun 2, 2016
...read more
When I relocated to a town miles and miles away from friends and family TV was my only friend. To start making other friends I listed my passions and how I could continue pursuing them in this new town. I joined a hiking club. I met new friends and in no time I was getting invited to dinners, book clubs etc. My lonely days became my past.
Jessicka
on
Jun 17, 2016
...read more
Well you can do a variety of things such as.. Reading, doing volunteer work, reconnecting with old friends, getting a job, taking classes, and you could meet people online in your area if you look on google! :) Hope this helps!
Anonymous
on
May 1, 2016
...read more
Alone time is needed at times- to self evaluate, to introspect. Often times the best way to spend a few time without friends is to listen to music, read books, or even look over the internet and browse through a few good sites on one's interests.
