Is it my fault that my parents are on the verge of separation?
Anonymous
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Jun 13, 2015
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In my personal experience, the answer to your question is that you are absolutely not the reason your parents are on the verge of separation. The relationship your parents have, in my opinion, is between the tow of them. Whatever choices they make about their relationship has everything to do with them as a couple, and in my opinion is no reflection at all of you as their child. Please take good care of yourself as you go throughout this part of your life, and reach out for the support you deserve.
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Anonymous
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Jan 16, 2015
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You are not to blame for the choices of others. I understand that it can feel very overwhelming for you and am sorry you are going through these emotions.
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2015
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No, I know it is very easy to feel like this but you must know that your parents split is never your fault and you should never feel that way! there are many people you can talk to who have went through or are going through the exact same situation
Cerebralreflections1
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Mar 31, 2015
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It is absolutely not your fault. People don't separate from each other because they have children. They separate because they grow apart. they grow in different directions of life. It doesn't mean that they didn't love each other at the time that they were married, and it doesn't mean they don't love you. They've just decided that being married, that journey was over, and that things are better without marriage.
Anonymous
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Feb 14, 2015
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No! Don't ever think that way. They're two mature adults who married on their own volition and now they're deciding to go their separate ways, on their own volition. You have nothing to do with it. Your parents love you and you love them and it's all that really matters.
Jaelin
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Apr 9, 2015
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No, Absolutely not. It may feel that way because when your a kid or a teen, it seems like everything you do wrong is the end of the world. But parents have their own world, that we arent even privy too. We have no idea what they talk about when we arent around, what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe its no ones fault at all. Maybe it just IS.
Randy1
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Mar 15, 2015
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No it almost certainly is not. While children can make things easier or harder in a marriage, there are always other contributing factors that account for separation or divorce. It is rarely just one thing. It is also very normal for a child to believe that divorce is their fault.
Anonymous
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Apr 29, 2015
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Don't allow yourself to take blame for the problems others are experiencing. If possible, look for ways that you can help them find reconciliation.
Luv4eva
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May 27, 2015
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Never. That is a sad thing that happens when 2 people that have been together have their own disagreements. It is a decision that the parents have made due to their own feelings. It is not based on their children it is based on their feelings and their feeling alone what ever it may be.
Anonymous
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Sep 1, 2015
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No. The only ones at fault are your parents. It is not your job to be your parents' relationship counselor. It is up to them to keep their relationship working well.
amazingGrace99
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Sep 8, 2015
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In a word, "no". Relationships are complicated, organic systems which revolve around multitudinous factors. Fault and blame are often inappropriate with regard to relationship issues, and the responsibility for dealing with relationship issues belongs to the adults.
purplesunny98
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Dec 21, 2015
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No!!!!!
My parents got divorced and for the longest time I thought it was my fault. Most likely you helped them last as long as they did! Know that they both still love you.
Anonymous
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Oct 15, 2015
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Absolutely not! Whatever issues there might be, they are strictly between your parents. Even, for arguments sake, if they were having battles over how to discipline you, you would not be responsible. They are at odds with each other. I'm sorry that you are asking this question, at all.
TheIncredibleMrEgg
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Nov 23, 2015
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Your parents have their own issues that they've been struggling with since before you were born, most likely. But that doesn't mean that you're the root cause of any of that or that you have anything to do with how they feel about each other. Some couples are forced into a relationship while others stay together well past a healthy separation point. Stress is a complex thing, try to be supportive of each parent.
oliviablue5
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Nov 23, 2015
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So your parents are considering separating? That must be very hard on you; I can relate. How can I help?
Antonia1996
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Feb 8, 2016
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No, It is not your fault at all. You are a very a good person and sometimes parents just don't end up working out, But that has nothing to do with you because people love you
Alethiology
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Feb 8, 2016
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No, no. It is never ever the child's fault. It is quite common for the child to feel at fault but just know they had their issues with each other.
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2016
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do not ever feel like that is your fault, that is always their decisions and it is normal to feel like it's your fault and that's because you feel so down but it'll be okay
awesomeGrace
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Apr 18, 2016
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It sounds like you feel guilty about what's going on. Some situations we have no control over. You are allowed to have feelings but you should talk to your parents and communicate how you feel. They can help you feel better and explain the situation better.
Greatlistener87
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Apr 19, 2016
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No it is not. Your parents are responsible and adults, they are responsible for the choices they make as well as their own happiness.