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My parents keep fighting, what can I do about it?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 28, 2014
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Tell them.Tell them that you don't like it when they fight and it makes you feel uncomfortable and you feel scared
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 5, 2014
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It's normal to have conflict in relationships, and sometimes that can lead to fighting. But all relationships are different, and it's difficult to have one solution that fits all problems. However, with a bit of preparation and the right attitude, it is possible that you can move them slightly closer towards positive communication, and maybe eventually less tension. Talk it through with a listener... they will be able to help you come up with ideas about things you could do.
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Anonymous on Oct 29, 2014
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Ask them to sit down and try talking it out with them tell them how their fighting is effecting you.
Profile: Lienki
Lienki on Sep 28, 2014
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Well, there is not much you can do, because it is between them. But you can sit down with them and have calm chat about the situation with them. Tell them this bothers you .and then take it from there.
Profile: Seremonia
Seremonia on Oct 23, 2014
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Write a letter to them, via post office, or test them, or try getting closer to them. Care for both, and slowly talk to them and say how happy you are with their condition. It will take longer time but, sooner or later it will work fixing their relation.
Profile: WonderlandDream3
WonderlandDream3 on Oct 28, 2014
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There really isn't anything you can do since the issue is between your parents. Perhaps you can try asking you parents if they would like seeks some help whether it be from a counselor or a relgious figure.
Profile: GoodGuyChad
GoodGuyChad on Oct 28, 2014
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There are all kinds of fighting. Some is for a good reason. Maybe they need to work through some challenges. I hope they are being somewhat constructive and mature about how they fight, with an eye toward resolution and trust building. If they are not, then just realize that you love them and they are imperfect (just like everyone else). It's probably best not to take sides.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 1, 2014
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Please talk with someone you trust, know that your parents fights are not your fault, and keep yourself safe!
Profile: calmMuse
calmMuse on Nov 2, 2014
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I tell will tell them separately how their argument makes me feel. I will remind them how their love for each other has been in the past, and that "I love you", and "I am sorry" are 2 very strong phrases that are often forgotten between families.
Profile: DouglasListens
DouglasListens on Nov 2, 2014
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There's very little you can do to actual stop the fighting, unfortunately. However, that does not mean you have to sit there and let their troubles unfairly impact you. Be honest with your parents about how their fighting makes you feel. Ask them if they need support, remember that they're people too, but do not get in the middle of their issues or take sides. It's a crappy situation to be in, but you are under absolutely no obligation to 'fix' them or their relationship.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 8, 2014
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Pick a time when both parents are together and everyone is in a pretty good mood. Then ask them if you can talk to them for a few minutes. Tell them that because you love them so much their fighting really upsets you. Tell them exactly how their fighting is affecting you. Do not be offensive; simply tell them how their fighting is affecting you.
Profile: MariaX
MariaX on Nov 13, 2014
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Sit them both down and tell them to sort their issues out when you're not around as it's causing you large amounts of pain and grief.
Profile: MarcoTheCreativeGuy
MarcoTheCreativeGuy on Mar 14, 2015
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Tell them that thair fight dont just goes around you. Tell them you hear every word they say and that you want to be the family you was back then, when everything was good. Help them to remember the time before the fights, and they will notice how good their life was with the love they got.
Profile: Zinnia
Zinnia on Apr 12, 2015
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I've had this problem before myself. I had to tell them that enough was enough and that the fighting was ripping the family apart. Although I had to yell, I made my point across loud and clear. Also, family counseling can help.
Profile: DipityEnigma
DipityEnigma on Apr 16, 2015
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The best thing you can do in your position is to see it from both sides and never take sides. There's always two sides to one story and the best thing to do is to be the logical person. As the outsider of the argument, you can see things clearly. Listen to what each other have to say about the other (one person at a time on their own) and tell them what you think about the situation without taking sides. It all depends on what they're arguing about but at the end of the day, all some people need is someone who can see both sides and help to make sense of the feelings and thoughts they have.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 16, 2015
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Try confronting them. Be direct, tell your parents its bothering you, they them how it makes you feel. It's better they know than for you to suffer in silence.
Profile: LadyElisabeth
LadyElisabeth on Apr 25, 2015
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Talk to them. Talk about your feelings about this situation. Maybe then they will understand what consequences their fights have.
Profile: KathyTheHealer
KathyTheHealer on May 15, 2015
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I feel so sorry that you are in this situation. it must be very hard for you. But you should know that every husband and wife fights. this happens to every family. So take this easy. The reason why they are fighting is that the two wont compromise for each other. They keep their ieal and wont change for the other. You should know that no one can force or make your parents to change. Your parents either keep fighting or recognize themselves. The best thing you can do, is to talk to them, privately with each person to sincerely know why they are angry, and dont judge them, say that they are right even though you think they are worng. that's the best thing to you can do for them , that is to understand them, and wait for them solve the problem themselfves. as your part, try to take a good care of yourself, academically or physically, etc.. Your parents are fighting, you must be the strong one. After you take good care of yourself, take care of the family. Patienly wait, everything gonna be fine if you do your part well. I believe everything of yours gonna be fine. I wish you all the best luck.
Profile: Glareofyesterday
Glareofyesterday on May 20, 2015
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Intervention seems to be a good idea
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 30, 2015
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I think that the best thing to do is not interfere at the time. This sounds difficult, I know, but just pop your earphones into your ears for the time being, and then after tell your parents that it pains you and makes you feel sad when they are arguing, and you can have a heart to heart chat about it.
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