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Should I cut a family member out of my life because she causes me so much stress?

Profile: Ej
Ej on Jan 10, 2015
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A lot of people will offer advice in terms what you should or shouldn't do. Some may suggest family is everything while others will suggest otherwise. What I will suggest is that's purely your decision. Only you can weigh that choice because there will simply be too many variables in your life that no one here would grasp in a mere conversation. What I also will say is I am glad you're at least reaching out because it shows you're truly looking into your options. I hope you continue reaching out further because a professional, for example, would be able to hear your story, analyze your situation, and provide recommendations depending on the circumstances.
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Profile: Amicus9
Amicus9 on Dec 5, 2017
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If a family member, or any loved one, adds more negativity to your life than love or support then you can be very justified in cutting ties. Family is meant to be supportive, but if a family member puts you in distress or has a negative impact on your emotional/mental health then you need to make the choice that will cultivate the most health and positivity for you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 22, 2015
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There’s times in certain situations when it may be best to develop some emotional distance from our relatives and with enough pain, sometimes even walk away from them and never look back. Everyone has a right to choose their own path and find their own peace.
Profile: Meowbuddy
Meowbuddy on May 2, 2015
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Everybody has different views on this, but personally I think cutting someone out of your life is the best thing you can do, if you've tried everything and communication is not working. You don't even need to necessarily tell the person you're even cutting them off. And it doesn't have to be forever. You can reconnect with them one day in the future. But some of us are unlucky enough to be closely related to people who are very, very difficult to deal with. I think it's important to have periods in your life that are completely free of this stress. So don't feel guilty. Cutting people off can be temporary. Or it can be forever – you might find "No Contact" so peaceful that you never go back! But usually, taking that break for yourself makes you more able to appreciate that family member and reconnect with them later with a little more energy and patience.
Profile: knowledge57
knowledge57 on Aug 1, 2016
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I don't think there is a need to cut family member out, just avoid them where necessary, and when you do meet, keep conversation to a limited comfort zone. Keep yourself composed and let them take their own stress.
Profile: WoundedHappyHeart
WoundedHappyHeart on Feb 16, 2015
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No, family will always be there for you in the long run. For all you know she could be the one that puts your life back on track. Keep her and just tell her time to time that she is stressing you out.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 18, 2015
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Sometimes it's best to cut the bad people out of the picture. Do what you feel is right. If she is causing you stress and dragging you down, cut them off.
Profile: QuidditchWitch
QuidditchWitch on Nov 2, 2015
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Ultimately, that's something only you can decide upon. It's never nice or easy to just banish someone from your life, especially a relative - maybe limit the amount you see them, or speak with them about how they make you feel.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 12, 2015
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Don't isolate yourself completely from this person, simply disconnect and only respond to them when you're in a stable headspace. Your health comes first, and if you cannot find a solution around this issue, then it will be necessary to remove yourself from this negative environment.
Profile: Mila76
Mila76 on Jan 8, 2018
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Maybe you should first approach them about this. Tell them that this stress is really bothering you, and that you want it to stop. If they don't listen to you and keep stressing you out then you can cut them out.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 27, 2015
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no I think stress will go away if you give up your family member what that gonna do I mean what if ever thing resolves itself then what will you do
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 9, 2015
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you should talk to them about it first. maybe they dont do it on purpose. family memebers dont come and go like friends
Profile: Flags
Flags on May 17, 2015
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Of course not. Causing stress is no reason to cut out a family member out of your life because someday, they will come back to you and whatever negative action you've done to them will just haunt. The best action is just to avoid them as much as possible without cutting them out and if circumstances still throw them at you, you should manage them the way you manage to feed yourself. Simple.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 30, 2015
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NOO, never do that just take deep breaths and just be lucky you have that person in your life. if its or mother/farther/brother/sister there all gonna give you streesss
Profile: Lynch
Lynch on Aug 18, 2015
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Honestly it depends on why they cause you stress. Have you ever told them that they cause you this? It could be just they don't understand what your current situation is. And think if you were in their shoes, would you want someone who you probably love cut you out of the family without a reason?
Profile: Mushly
Mushly on Aug 25, 2015
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It can be wise to begin separating yourself a little. If they're placing stress about things that are out of your control, it can unhealthy and can easily overwhelm you. See if less contact makes the stress lessen. If nothing changes, consider some time away from him/her. You need to take care of yourself too
Profile: OpenEarsAndHeart
OpenEarsAndHeart on Oct 26, 2015
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I know exactly how you feel. Family is power however, it is important to think about yourself and your needs. Family is hard to deal with because we feel as though there is an obligation to keep them in the loop and in our lives however if the relationship seems too venomous to keep around, you should let that person find their way separate from yourself.
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How close are you with this person? If you have to see them often, I would suggest a civil, and proper break of communication, in which you can still act friendly towards each other. Otherwise, I would say yes. You do you! Always! You are #1!
Profile: IamtheGuardianAngel
IamtheGuardianAngel on Nov 24, 2015
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Essentially. If someone's attitude/behaviour is damaging to you in any way, shape or form and they won't change it, then you have the right to cut them out.
Profile: Bulelo
Bulelo on Jan 5, 2016
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No, talk to them. Tell her that she causes you stress and makes you feel a certain type of way; if they respond negatively that is her issue. You should always seek peace with yourself and expressing your feelings achieves exactly that; cutting her out only adds stress and strain as well as awkward family dinners or reunions.
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