Are you born gay or is it society which makes a person gay?
roy13
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Jan 25, 2015
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A gay person is born gay(lesbian) as a straight is born straight. Society can't make a person gay. Loving someone comes from inside.
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ClaireSkies
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Aug 14, 2015
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I believe that people are born gay. Being gay is not a choice. You cannot force a straight person to be gay, and vice versa.
Freewillsky
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Dec 7, 2015
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Does it matter? When we become more concerned with "what makes a person gay" rather than the fact that gay people deserve safety, respect and the opportunity for healthy relationships, we're missing the point. I am gay, have no idea why, and don't care. I feel fortunate to live the life I do and am lucky enough to live in a supportive society. I wish that every person -- regardless of sexual orientation -- lived in a society that supported their love and relationship.
Itsacrazylifewelive
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Jun 30, 2015
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I believe that people are born gay and that society impacts the individual in a way that their homosexuality comes out.
Anonymous
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Oct 11, 2016
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I know for a fact that you can't "choose" to be gay, or "choose" to be straight. Trust me, I've tried to be straight. Doesn't work. You are born with it in your genes, and in your genes is your sexual preference. Many scientists believe that if you are a male and are gay, you most likely inhibited the "gay gene" from your mother, and girls, their fathers. There are many sites to help with this, Just Google the question and behold, the internet :)
hereToListen29
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Jan 24, 2015
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Personally, as a gay person, I believe that most gay people are born this way and cannot help their hormonal feelings.
palywaly77
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May 23, 2015
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I think its a persons way of feeling toesrds the same or opposite sex. That then gives you the idea of what you're into. A person isn't born gay and society doesnt make a person gay. Its a choice a person makes.
Rainbows94
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May 8, 2015
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Many researchers have found that being gay is not determined by how you were raised but is mostly biological. A majority of identical twins identify with the same sexuality, yet there others who do not. These researchers suggest that factors during pregnancy might affect but being gay is still determined before birth.
Anonymous
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Jul 6, 2015
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you cannot make anyone BE gay just either are or arent...if its born with you? well thats a matter of perspective and what u believe. but since u cannot outrun being gay u can say u r born gay cause its omething u cant change no matter how hard u try, its part of you
Ajdaubner
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Nov 2, 2015
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I think people are born gay. Nothing can make a person gay or straight or transgender or anything that they aren't. People may "try on" new identities and sexualities to see if it fits them, or they may try to hide the fact that they are gay, but I think people are born with their gender identity and sexuality.
Anonymous
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Oct 10, 2016
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You aren't gay but you choose to be gay society has no affect on making someone gay if it did I would be gay right now
Aayla
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Jul 8, 2019
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Sexual orientations are innate, they are born with us. Society cannot change anyone's identity, because sexual orientations are natural parts of us, not social constructs. It may look like homosexuality is something that people "develop" because not everyone realizes very soon that they are gay. But it's not because something changed in their sexuality. Simply, social conventions lead people to believe that heterosexuality is the norm, and so they might need more time to find out what their sexuality really is. But it's nothing something new, simply something that has always been there and is finally uncovered.
sweetgrandpa
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Dec 10, 2019
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I think first of all it is important to understand how much it matters to each other, if it is okay for her to be gay to herself, that is not the basis of her personal characteristics. Character, honesty, kindness, etc. These are much more important characteristics of a person than their choice at the time of sex. Maybe a healthy person has sex 2-3 hours a week, so much less than the time we spend working, studying and taking care of other subjects that makes me question the relevance. However, in order not to escape the subject, we may be born heterosexual, since our most primitive principle is biological, then comes the culture that makes us "experiment" with other sources of pleasure, and eventually one chooses to live this or another form of life. relationship that provides such pleasure.
mysteriousWillow50
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Apr 10, 2015
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Contrary to belief, one does not "choose" to be gay or lesbian or straight or any other part of the spectrum. We're 'born that way'-- which there's nothing wrong with being one sexual orientation or another, it's just a matter of being who we are and accepting and caring about one another.
Anonymous
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May 10, 2015
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its simply what you prefer. some people enjoy the opposit sex and other want the same. so id say youd be semi bron with it. because many young kids knew the fact that something was different about them
OliverC
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May 27, 2015
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I don't think it's either. Sexuality can be very fluid--you may find for many years of your life that you're absolutely straight, but then there's this one person who comes along, and they're an exception. You may find that if you're bisexual with a preference towards women, if you fall in love with a man, you now usually prefer men (since they remind you of your partner). I don't believe that the "born [sexuality]" "born [gender]" model can encompass the depth and complexity of our human potential for love, growth, and self-discovery. Similarly, it can't be "society" that "makes" someone gay because different societies throughout the millennia have supported different genders and customs of attraction. A society with three accepted genders, for example, doesn't fit a model where someone can be "gay" or "straight." It just doesn't make sense. I'd wonder if society doesn't in fact "make" more people straight than otherwise, since many complex animal species (giraffes, dolphins, birds, etc) frequently engage in gay sex, sometimes even more so than procreative sex. These animals don't have a gender preference, just as they don't have a complex society. Food for thought.
Anonymous
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Jun 7, 2015
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Nature Vs. Nurture argument? I would say both genetics and social environment play a role to shaping a gay individual.
theoceansblue
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Jun 22, 2015
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People are born gay. There's nothing society can do to make a person become gay/stop being gay. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and the LQBT community should feel accepted by society.
Chaliercy
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Jul 7, 2015
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The society changes your opinion, not yourr sexuality. That's why there are people who are dissatisfied with their sexuality, because the opinion of society. You are born with a certain sexuality, and although your curiosity may allow new experiences, you are yourself. Be proud of yourself.
Waterbear
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Aug 3, 2015
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The answer is that sexual orientation is complicated and its origins appear to be influenced by a number of different factors, including prenatal factors. Some people's sexuality is fluid and some is rigid and unchanging. Twin studies show that identical twins are more likely than fraternal twins to have the same sexual orientation, but often have different sexual orientations. The only thing that seems clear so far is that you can't consciously choose your orientation.