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How come that me being a sexual orientation that is not straight or gay or lesbian feel alienated within LGBTQ communitity? What can I do to feel more accepted?

Profile: sgtcloo28
sgtcloo28 on Apr 21, 2015
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I am personaly bisexual so I feel not really aceppted by either community. Straight people think it is a phase and lgbt people think im greedy. What i did is i became more happy with myself and became more confident. Also i found amaezing friends to help
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Profile: SoulfulBanana07
SoulfulBanana07 on Jan 25, 2016
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Sometimes, when groups of people are fighting super hard to be accepted for something that a large part of society considers wrong, they can get a little exclusive. It's not like you can force your way in or anything. I guess a large part is just being confident and accepting yourself, and most of all, being patient. The LGBTQ community, (while super badass), can sometimes feel alien to those with a sexual orientation other than L/G. Don't sweat it. If nothing, express yourself - talk to people from the community and they will understand where you're coming from. After all, most of them have faced difficulties regarding sexual orientations themselves. Hang in there, it gets better. Love :)
Profile: DeeLuna23
DeeLuna23 on May 22, 2015
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I think its better to accept yourself. Not everyone will accept you ,but you should love yourself
Profile: PhoenixMozza
PhoenixMozza on May 5, 2015
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As someone who at first identified as homosexual but then realized theyre probably pansexual, and whos greatly concerned with gender issues, I feel like sexual orientations that do not conform to the gender binary can be a bit 'invisible', even within the LGBT+ community, and I feel that thats a problem that needs to be adressed
Profile: KaoriHenson96
KaoriHenson96 on May 24, 2015
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Everyone should feel accepted, no matter what. Try to find others that feel similarly, so you don't feel so alone. Lesbian, Gay, Straight, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transsexual, Questioning, Asexual or anything else, is doesn't matter. Know that you are loved, and once you surround yourself with people of the same ideals, you will be happier.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 3, 2015
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It is true that some people in the LGBTQ+ community are alienated because of their sexuality by others in that community, but that is only because there are so many sexualities and genders that some are just easier to accept than others. Instead of thinking LGBTQ+ as a community, start thinking of it as a nation where inside there are many different communities. Find that community you fit in, even if it's super-duper-small, and try to make a connection.
Profile: RachxTheLight
RachxTheLight on Jun 22, 2015
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You should not be seen as different in the LGBTQ community. That community is for anyone with any sexual orientation. That being said,bringing more information to the community about your sexual orientation will help others understand more about it, instead of having no clue and assuming it shouldn't be accepted.
Profile: JaimieF
JaimieF on Jul 7, 2015
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Finding one or two other people whom you can relate to can be of great help and support. Then, if connecting with more people is difficult because they do not accept you as much, building self-esteem should help. Remember that you deserve to treasure yourself, and you don't need someone to complete you. When you do feel the need for help or acceptance, and friends are not available, 7 Cups of Tea is here!
Profile: andrewhines
andrewhines on Aug 4, 2015
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To feel more accepted you can join the LGBTQ alliance at your school or go to or find your local pride parade :)
Profile: Xuan
Xuan on Aug 17, 2015
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Unfortunelately, being a part of the MOGAI community doesn't mean being knowledgeable or kind. You will encounter other MOGAI people who won't accept you or who will tell you you're not 'gay enough', or that you can't speak as yourself as gay, queer or trans. There will be people of the community saying your sexual orientation doesn't exist, or that your gender identity is fake. Let me tell you: you know better than them. What you feel is valid and you have the right to name it the way you want. Stay with people who understand that and who will support you. You can begin your research for safe spaces by trying to find other people/organisations in your area (or if that's out of question, an online community like on reddit or tumblr) that share the same experiences or who support your identity. By building this kind of circles, you'll be able to shield yourself from the harmful part of the community.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 14, 2015
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People fear things that they do not understand. It does not mean that there is anything wrong with your sexual orientation. Education is key but people have to be willing to learn also. They have to meet you halfway. I would say to continue being your true self and acceptance shall fall into your lap.
Profile: lizzle
lizzle on Nov 30, 2015
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Well first you have to try and face what sexual orientation you are, if it something like asexual and you can find that alienating, you need to first kinda realize that no community is always going to have the same beliefs within that community. You don't have to label oneself and that is fine also. Trying to fit into a community that isn't accepting of you isn't something that you should worry too much about unless it affects your rights as a person. You should self define and make your own community or reach out further into the internet to see if there are people that are like you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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I understand you here, darling. See, I identify as aromantic asexual and many LGBTQ individuals (not all, thank heavens) don't even recognize that we're any different than the straight community. I've found that the best way to deal with this is to find some people who *do* accept and recognize you for who you are. Even if it's some online group or something, the feeling of other-people-are-like-me is wonderful.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 1, 2018
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Find other people with similar orientations. They will have advice for you that people with different orientations won't. Plus it'll help you feel more accepted.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Jun 18, 2019
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Unfortunately, internal discrimination in the community is a phenomenon that still exists. That's due to prejudice and ignorance, just like all types of discrimination. Spreading the knowledge about your identity to all willing to listen is something you can do to help limiting this phenomenon. I know it's frustrating to have to explain your identity over and over again, but if you can change even just one person's mind, it's worth trying to build a more inclusive world. You can encourage people to ask you questions about things they don't understand, and the rest will be up to them. Meanwhile, you can surround yourself with supportive people - I ensure you that there are a lot in the community! - to feel supported and gain enough strength to fight this discrimination.
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It doesn't matter who you are, if you like someone then that's ok. All communities that you are a part of will accept you for who you are. Don't feel like you need to change yourself in order to fit in, because then only bad things will happen. You are special and you need to know that. Everyone is different and that is amazing. It doesn't matter who you are, if you like someone then that's ok. All communities that you are a part of will accept you for who you are. Don't feel like you need to change yourself in order to fit in, because then only bad things will happen. You are special and you need to know that. Everyone is different and that is amazing.
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