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I don't identify as either gender consistently. What does this mean?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 10, 2015
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Essentially it means whatever you want it to mean, but I would guess you might relate to the idea of having a fluid gender, which is a gender identity that can change depending on the day. There might be a particular set of genders you switch between, and they may be drastically different, or they may be similar. There is also gender flux for if you find your gender more fluctuates rather than changes completely. Also keep in mind "either gender" isn't accurate, as there are far more than two genders. Your identity may lie somewhere on the non-binary spectrum -- genders that aren't wholly male or wholly female. These identities include being genderless, as well as terms that describe being partially one gender and partially another (or several others). Gender identity can be really confusing, but it's okay if you don't know what label suits you right now, which pronouns you identify with, if you change your mind later, or if you don't want a label at all. It's okay to take your time figuring it all out. Your feelings are real and valid no matter what.
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Profile: Tias1899
Tias1899 on Feb 8, 2015
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The term for this that's usually used is Gender Queer, which can be an umbrella term or an identity. If you feel like you flip flop between genders, it's likely you're gender fluid. If you feel like you identify as neither, it's likely you're genderqueer. Remember any and al identities are valid and whatever you feel is who you are is right :)
Profile: Anthony563
Anthony563 on Jan 12, 2015
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I would most likely think that you're Non-binary which means gender identity that don't fit within the accepted binary of male and female. People can feel they are both, neither, or some mixture thereof. Though it's really up to you what you'd like to label it as, you don't even have to label at all.
Profile: melodyowl130
melodyowl130 on Apr 3, 2015
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This could mean many things - you can be genderfluid [your gender switches constantly between any gender], or maybe even agender [identifying as no gender].
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 15, 2015
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This could mean that you're still figuring out how you identify or it's totally possible to be gender fluid, or agender, or many other labels. Don't limit yourself and give yourself plenty of time. :)
Profile: plumnectarine
plumnectarine on May 17, 2015
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That would mean you're gender queer or gender fluid or whatever. You don't like the boy or girl labels that much, that's cool
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 30, 2015
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You could be still trying to figure out who you are or you could be agender / non-binary. Give yourself time and you will soon figure out who you are.
Profile: oopsolie12
oopsolie12 on Sep 14, 2015
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with personal expericence it can mean that you are genderfluid or another gender but i can't lable you. you know you (:
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 16, 2015
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It means whatever you'd like :) It could be that you're non-binary, or genderfluid. You identify as whatever you identify as
Profile: CupcakeAce
CupcakeAce on Nov 27, 2015
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you could be genderfluid, which means the gender you identify with fluxuates, sometimes on a day to day basis.
Profile: amazingHeart17
amazingHeart17 on Nov 29, 2015
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Well there are actually a lot more genders other than just male and female. You could be genderfluid, non-binary, bigender, trigender, etc. You don't have to rush to put a label on yourself, but just know that there are plenty of people who identify the same as you do, and not defining with one particular gender is completely normal!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 21, 2015
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Not identifying with a single gender is usually known as being gender fluid or non-binary. It can be scary to think about it, and it can be even scarier to talk to someone about it. Starting with someone you're close to can help. If you're worried about talking to somone who knows you so why not chat to a listener anonymously!
Profile: ashbradbury42
ashbradbury42 on Feb 22, 2016
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It means you are gender fluid. Your gender changes frequently. It's perfectly normal. There are plently of online resources for nonbinary people.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 23, 2016
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It means you might have a gender identity outside of the gender binary.
Profile: GentleShadows
GentleShadows on Mar 1, 2016
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You may be genderfluid, dear! And I know how that feels. Gender fluidity can be a little odd at first, but once you get used to it, it's easy to deal with. I, for example, have found a pattern in the fluctuations in my gender. Of course, you could also be some other form of non-binary too.
Profile: Mark5
Mark5 on Mar 7, 2016
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It could mean that you identify as genderqueer or genderfluid. Typically people who identify this way feel masculine on some days and feminine on others, or neither! Often they will prefer gender neutral pronouns or use the pronouns depending on how they identify that day. Perfectly okay to identify this way!
Profile: Probius
Probius on May 24, 2016
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It might mean that you are gender fluid. Some people's gender identity changes over time, and can be one thing one day, and something else on another day. This is okay, and says nothing bad about your character.
Profile: freshLove97
freshLove97 on Jun 13, 2016
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We all have a lot of different traits. No man is 100% manly, no woman is 100% feminine. This is normal.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Jun 27, 2016
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You could be Bisexual or some other gender you can google to know more about different types of gender and what they mean to be sure.
Profile: Jason144
Jason144 on Jul 4, 2016
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It means a person is Agender, which means they don't identify as male or female or any other gender.
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