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If you could choose, would you have preferred to have a different sexuality then you have?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 9, 2016
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Yes. I'm bisexual, and it would be easier, I think, to be either gay or straight. it's hard being any, I know, but being bi, one of the in the middle sexualites, you're subject to a lot of questions, and sometimes it's really difficult to be proud of it, and not ashamed.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 27, 2015
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Simple answer, no. (Longer answer)Throughout my life, there were moments when I felt so alone, broken and different...I wished and yearned to be accepted and for a long time that made me wished I was what everyone would consider normal...even got me to pretend and tried to force myself to be something I'm not. But as life taught me lessons, I learned that I didn't preferred to be a different sexuality, that "being straight" wouldn't solve the problem because I wasn't the only one struggling and everyone deserved the same love and acceptance. So I learned not to wish or dream to be something I'm not and instead to do my very best to be comfortable with who I am and give others a space to feel happy being who they are.
Profile: geovanisouza92
geovanisouza92 on Apr 6, 2015
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No. But I already asked myself how it could be. My spirituality teaches that every aspect of our lives is planned to be a challenge to self knowledge and spiritual growing. So, I'm fine with that. :D
Profile: deserve
deserve on Mar 2, 2015
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We all want to be accepted. Some time ago I would, but I came to a conclusion that it's the way I am, and to be truly happy I need to be proud of who I am. It may not be a easy thing to do, but it's worth it. Being happy with yourself.
Profile: BellaStorm17
BellaStorm17 on Feb 26, 2018
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That’s a very interesting question.Actually,no because I’m very happy with who I am right now and don’t feel the need to change that.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Aug 19, 2019
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Luckily, we can't choose! And I say luckily, because diversity is precious and beautiful. I wouldn't choose a different orientation but rather a different society, a more inclusive and open-minded one. But our orientations are part of who we are, they are our way to love and be happy, and they're all beautiful.
Profile: peacefulLight8704
peacefulLight8704 on Oct 15, 2019
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No, that isn't for me! I'm bi, and to be honest I'm pretty glad and comfortable in it. i honestly don't see why I would want to change it personally, and it is the best of both worlds! If you are a person who is questioning his or her sexuality, i think that the best thing that you can do is to for one, not force labels onto yourself. Those will come with time. And two, just try to accept it. Accept your wants, needs, and preferences. They are nothing for you to ever, ever be ashamed of. Best wishes!
Profile: Nicobaka
Nicobaka on Apr 12, 2015
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Most definitely not. In terms of sexuality, I consider myself to be pansexual, which is commonly refered to as being gender-blind, meaning that I experience attraction to all genders, basically regardless of what their gender idendity is. I would never choose to change my sexuality because it's what makes me who I am, and I personally consider it something great to not be affected by what's on the outside.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 23, 2015
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Short answer: No. Being bi has taught me openness and has allowed me to touch others like me. I also can always tell who the [insert negative word describing a person] is in the room because they give me an odd look when I announce that I'm bi (or say something about having a girlfriend) and that helps me filter out the dirt from my life. I am who I am because I'm bi and bi is what I am. If I were straight, I wouldn't be me.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 16, 2015
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No. Embrace your sexuality, as you embrace yourself. Your sexuality is only a part of who you are, but without your sexuality, you would not be who you are.
Profile: flagkind
flagkind on Jun 12, 2015
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No, I'm happy the way I am! Life may be a little easier if I was straight, but I feel good being me!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 23, 2015
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well many a time this decision is influenced by our society, the people we live around. we will choose whats good for us, we will also choose what's best for the society. the people who are very confident, brave and "ready to stand against the world" types can only make an independent decision on this topic....
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 27, 2015
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I know you mean orientation but I'm going to talk about a thing that's more important to me. I would choose to be able to enjoy sex even when I don't absolutely perfectly trust the person in every way. I know this has kept me out of a lot of bad situations but it's also making me miserable. I want to be able to have some fun with someone even when the conditions aren't absolutely perfect. I would also like to be attracted only to people who are attracted to me and will admit it.
Profile: Heavenlyhorizons
Heavenlyhorizons on Aug 31, 2015
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No not at all. I'm content with my sexuality. At first when I discovered I was bi I wished I could be straight to fit in. But I've learn a lot through the past couple of years. I know that being bisexual isn't a choice and I've learned to accept who I am. Being bi is just a small part of all that I have to offer as an individual so I wouldn't change it. I encourage all of you to love yourself for who you truly are! Don't change for anyone
Profile: justamoose
justamoose on Feb 10, 2016
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im pan so im really up for anything . so i think im good with my tastes. though it would be easier if i were straight i guess.
Profile: King0fclubs
King0fclubs on Feb 12, 2016
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Sometimes I wish I were asexual, (Straight Cis Hetero-normative Male) It would make my life a lot less frustrating and despairing. Like A-Romantic Asexual...
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 22, 2016
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No because I feel fine with who I am and I think that as long as I feel okay and enjoy living the life I do with who I want then it's okay. I'm fine with my sexuality whether or not other people accept it.
Profile: evalis
evalis on May 23, 2016
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No I won't. It was hard enough finding myself finally and I don't want to give that up even though my life would be a lot easier if I was of a different sexuality.
Profile: julesap3
julesap3 on May 30, 2016
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In my opinion, no not really. I am fine with being asexual, it's just who I am. Some people don't understand, and I've been told being asexual wasn't a real thing. I don't care. My feelings are valid.
Profile: Adoredmango
Adoredmango on May 31, 2016
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That's hard because it means I could be like everyone else but I'd answer no my sexuality is part of me and if that means I'm not like everyone then I'll do that
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