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When is the right time to come out to people?

Profile: kindmusic
kindmusic on May 3, 2015
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Whenever you feel it's the right time. You don't have to come out to everyone all at once. You care share this deeply personal part of you with whoever you want, whenever you feel ready. Only you can decide when the right time is.
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Profile: Rebecca
Rebecca on Feb 23, 2015
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You should come out whenever you feel comfortable and safe doing so! There is no specific time you should come out, it is up to you! Some people never come out, and that is a-okay. if you do choose to come out, good luck!
Profile: RyanMegan14
RyanMegan14 on Jul 14, 2015
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You always come out when ever you feel ready. Make sure you are confident and happy! Always remember you are perfect and beautiful no matter what! Come out on your own time, no one can tell you when. Much love!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 21, 2016
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For me, the key thing is to, as dumb as it sounds, come out to yourself. Accept who you are, be happy, understand yourself. From there, as long as you are happy with who you are, no-one will take it as a big deal. (excluding the extremely ignorant). Most people in your life who you would tell want you to be happy, and if that's what they see when you tell them. They are going to be happy for you :). Those who care about you (again excluding very ignorant people as they are an exception sadly), just want to see you happy, and once you are happy with your sexuality, telling them becomes just notifying of the facts. :) Don't let anyone else's view on you make you unhappy or take what you love away from you. (or who you love). :) you got this.
Profile: LovelyguentahListener
LovelyguentahListener on May 22, 2015
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When ever you feel like it. Don't let a person or an event influence your decision. Coming out is something personal where you have to be very brave.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 17, 2015
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Normally when they are in a good mood. Happy so you don't get the the wraith of them through whatever is bothering them at the time.
Profile: DecisiveDeclan99
DecisiveDeclan99 on Feb 1, 2016
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whenever your ready, dont feel the need to blurt it out, only do it when your ready and you feel comfortable with people knowing
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 15, 2016
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Whenever you feel safe. Sometimes it'll take a long time, and that is okay. If you feel the environment is unsafe, I recommend against coming out. But before you come out to others, you need to come out to yourself. Accept your sexuality and love it.
Profile: Klovek
Klovek on Feb 25, 2015
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The right time is when you feel comfortable and safe to come out and tell people. If you don't feel both of those you should wait because it will feel much better when you do so at the right time.
Profile: miaesh
miaesh on Apr 10, 2015
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it depends on you, whenever you feel comfortable to come out to people. it may take some time but yo decide when and how.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 15, 2015
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When you are comfortable within yourself. When you accept yourself as who you are. Not when you're vulnerable, confused or insecure. You can't expect anyone to accept and embrace someone who doesn't feel the same about themselves.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 16, 2015
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i think the right time to come out to people is when they really need you and they have no one to talk to .
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 17, 2015
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Only when you feel comfortable. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure. And remember, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. ♥
Profile: lizzle
lizzle on Nov 30, 2015
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The right time is when you feel like you can't live in secret anymore and when you know that you are safe at all times, people often fear getting kicked out or something like that, so in that case, always having a backup plan is ideal. Sometimes people just risk it though and sometimes people are happy with the results other times not so and they end up homeless if they have homophobic parents. Sometimes homophobic parent can surprise you as some people love goes further then their belief system. You should come out when you feel like it's the right time only you will know that.
Profile: ConallBranagin
ConallBranagin on Dec 7, 2015
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It is different for everyone, there is no right or wrong time specifically. I am happy to talk to you and help you create a plan and choose the safest and most positive out come you can as you can.
Profile: DifferentJinx
DifferentJinx on Dec 11, 2015
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Whenever you feel emotionally ready, to share it with that person.
Profile: Emma16
Emma16 on Dec 11, 2015
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The first thing is to make sure that you are safe i.e. you have a place to sleep, go, etc. if things do not go as you hope. But beyond that, I know it sounds cheesy, but come out when you feel ready. Don't feel pressure to come out before you are ready, but at the same time, don't feel pressure to stay in the closet to make others happy. Best of luck to you
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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When you feel ready. When you feel like you are comfortable enough around this person and you feel that you are comfortable enough in yourself that you want to tell this person about a big important part of yourself.
Profile: DylanMoreland
DylanMoreland on Jun 28, 2016
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Wait until you're absolutely certain of your sexuality, because it can be very hard to go back after you tell people that you're a certain sexuality. Aside from that, whenever you feel comfortable is a perfectly good time. Don't feel as though you have to come out to everyone at once. It's definitely okay to come out to one or two people at a time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 27, 2016
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Whenever it feels that you are ready and that it is completely safe for you to come out. Make sure that you're coming out for yourself and not anybody else
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