How do I hold back my tears when I'm in public?
MusicalMima55
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Jan 4, 2016
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This is what I do while I'm trying to think of a distraction: Open your eyes wide and look up, this will keep the tears in and they'll eventually dry before spilling.
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YellowSunshine20
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Nov 27, 2017
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Try your best to think happy thoughts. Perhaps something that makes you laugh. I know it helps me :)
Anonymous
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Mar 15, 2015
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The Best way to hold back tears in Public is to keep yourself distracted with happy thoughts,Music or even pretending to be busy on your phone just try harder and harder or have someone close with you for company.
kindMoment44
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Oct 29, 2015
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It's hard, but why not take a minute somewhere alone. Take deep breathes, tell yourself to be strong.
WesternCanada1
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Mar 16, 2015
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The first thing we could ask is why you would have to hold your tears, even when in public, since crying is no crime
MissMaryMack
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May 7, 2015
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Don't hold them back, just go to a somewhat private place and try to calm down. Maybe take a close friend and have them help you through it.
contentedForest51
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May 20, 2015
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Just think about something happy and breath. In case you felt the tears can't be held try to avoid looking at people and the feeling will fade , hopefully
magneticPomegranate96
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Jan 5, 2016
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Give yourself a chance to experience the emotions. I can relate, if you would like to talk to me just schedule a time. :)
0Sara0
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Sep 27, 2016
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You shouldn't hold back your tears because suppressing your emotions makes it worse. Maybe crying in the bathroom is a good choice in public if you are afraid of being judged.
mightylove2014
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Nov 20, 2018
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For myself this is very hard to do, if it’s someone I have to deal with what their saying or doing if possible I turn away while still listening to them but if it is possible my first move would be to excuse myself for a few minutes to calm down. Also looking down at the floor or talking to myself in my head to keep me calmed down. Also when excusing myself I explain why I need to excuse myself and it’s my right to do so and they should except it. If they don’t I just keep repeating myself until they allow me to step away cause it’s my right
Anonymous
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Dec 25, 2018
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If you are already in public a good way is to breathe deeply a few times while trying to direct your thought to something positive. Try to keep your thought under control and push away the ones that makes you sad as soon as they arise. It is not the easiest exercise, if you manage this you should be very proud of you, especially if it is your first attempt.
It is a bit easier if you are still by yourself and you still need to go out in public. Then you could use your favorite playlist, like a "cheer up" playlist of songs that are able to empower you, that makes you happy. At the same time you still do the above exercise, by pushing away difficult thought.
This is how you can hold back your tears, but in the end you cannot deny your feelings, they will just grow deeper otherwise, once you have time for yourself again, explore them, do mindfulness exercises, find someone who can listen to you.
Anonymous
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Jun 1, 2021
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A trick I've learned to do was to take deep breaths. Although that seems cliche, I found that it helped stop the constriction in my chest that I felt whenever I was going to cry. Blinking helps, too, but sometimes it just pushes the tears out. Another thing is to focus really hard on something, whether it be a random passerby, a window, or something on your shoe. If you distract yourself from whatever is troubling you at the moment, the less likely you'll feel the urge to break down. Lastly, you can always have and inner mantra! Mine was basically to sing the lyrics in my head of this song I liked to divert my thoughts to the enunciation of the lyrics than the thoughts that unsettled me.
