I have very rapid mood swings, what's the best way to manage them so no one gets hurt?
truthSeeker71
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Oct 16, 2016
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I am learning that if I slow down I can change my thoughts, which in turn can change my feelings. Learning to become aware that there is a space between our feelings and our reactions has been really empowering for me. It is tricky at first because the normal old emotional reactions still came into play but the more I practice the more I have control over how my moods affect the people around me.
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Greatlistener87
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Jul 30, 2016
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Mood swings could be caused by something that you have not solved in yourself, best is to find out what triggers this moods swings and deal with them.
Ele1987
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Jul 28, 2016
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Be aware and non judgmental about what you're feeling, mindfulness exercises can help with this. Also know that your emotions cannot control you or your behavior, you can accept what you're feeling but decide how you will act, the fact that you want to work to control your emotions and avoid hurting others is a great first step.
Anonymous
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Aug 26, 2016
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when you get angry walk out. Go to your own place and wait till you calm down. Best to let others know you are in a bad mood which will make it easier for them to understand and let you be.
beautifulMelody28
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May 26, 2018
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Communication is often the best tool. Be aware of your mood changes and say things like "right now, I feel angry so I think I should go to another room to calm down" or " at the moment, I feel blue so I think I should not stay alone". The problem with rapid mood swings is that those around you often do not know what happened so talking about it ( how you are feeling, what triggered it, how you'd like to deal with it) makes it easier for the people around you.
Anonymous
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Aug 26, 2016
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Focusing on positive thoughts instead of negatives helps a lot. If any negative thought occurs then come up with a counter positive thought. Another way is to boost your self-esteem. Helping people increases self-esteem. To give a massive boost to your self-esteem, help someone in such a way who cannot repay back your help. You can also try helping your mom in household chores, your father in outdoor stuffs and any other family member. Doing these for some weeks you will start to notice a positive change in you, you will feel more happy and delighted. I have walked this path and hence can say that it is incredibly beneficial.
Textingpals
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Oct 30, 2020
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Rapid mood swings are something many can relate to. While they are common, they aren't pleasant experiences for us and the people around us. I believe, they can affect our relationships a lot. To handle that, I try a whole lot of things like writing journals, distracting myself, painting, drawing, reading, etc.
Maintaining journals is an excellent way of keeping a track on your mood swings. Especially when you have trust issues. Talking to someone might help, in the alternate case. Try to go deep into why you are feeling what you are feeling, what makes you feel like that, what are you actually feeling, what do you think the emotion might be, what upsets you, what, according to you, is the reason behind the mood, etc. Try asking a lots of similar questions to yourself and try to answer them in the form of journals, enteries or as a self interview. After the episode, when you reflect back on it, you will com across many things you weren't aware of, about you.
Distracting helps a lot if you don't want to talk/think about it. Try grounding techniques, colouring ready made pictures, painting or drawing pictures. You may try reading, listening to music if you aren't a big fan of drawing. Anything that distracts your brain is good enough.
You may also try to think of a pleasant experience/moment or someone you are grateful to have in your life. Try to word out a memory where you feel cherished, loved or describe a person you feel blessed to have.
If nothing works, you may also try to describe a situation/place/person in as much details as you can.
succourears
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Aug 4, 2016
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I should do some research about mood swings and find ways to control myself. By being in control of my mood I will feel stronger and better.
thesunwillrise02
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Aug 2, 2020
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Hello, I can totally relate to you! I think what really helped my mood swings is to look around my surrounding and force myself to find something that I like. I would focus on the object and tell myself that everything will be ok. Sounds dumb but it actually helps a lot!
You could also bring a mini pack of your favourite treats with you wherever you go. View the treat as the source of happiness so that when you’re feeling low, just eat something from the pack to make you feel better :)
If you find these tips to be helpful, we could chat and you could update me on your progress!
Anonymous
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Jul 26, 2016
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It's easier said than done. However, if you want to manage your emotions better...you should always find a solution to a problem before you react with emotion.
miraculousBeauty49
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Aug 4, 2016
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Find a creative outlet or safe space for you to retreat to in these moments. If you are in school, ask for 5 minutes to be outside
Supergirl94
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Aug 10, 2016
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You may have Bipolar or emotional disorder/condition. Usually being positive, maybe taking some herbal supplements can help. Try to figure out when your mood swings happen, if there are triggers and avoiding them or finding ways to better cope and express your emotions.
Here4u2smile
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Aug 10, 2016
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Write. Write. Write. Is my way of managing my mood swings. Breath. Or even mediation is also good to learn how to deal with the mood changes.
Anonymous
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Aug 11, 2016
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communication is key, Explain what happens and then no one will be surprised/negatively impacted by your mood swings.
Anonymous
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Aug 20, 2016
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This sounds ridiculous, I am sure, but turn everything into a joke. That's what I do, I make everything funny, make jokes, seeing people laugh takes away my anger as soon as it happens. whenever I feel I'm getting angry I will bring out my inner clown.
goldenVision2112
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Nov 10, 2016
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The best way to manage them is actually prevention, in the sense that you must come to know yourself and your triggers. When you feel a swing coming on or right when you realize you may be in a swing, you must distance yourself from the situation. Have your friends and family know that when you say "Pause" or another codeword, you must leave and will come back when you are ready. This and a good diet free from alcohol and drugs will help to control the mood swings.
CastielIsPerfect
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Aug 3, 2017
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Whenever I had big mood swings I would write about it. I have a diary and it really helps me manage how I feel on a regular basis. I have been able to find patterns in my behavior and my journal has answered a lot of questions about why I do things. The more I explored my emotions in my journal, the easier it was to control them.
Chynecheremsworld
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Jul 19, 2018
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Well dont think too much about it walk away when you are angry try to be more tolerating when someone is being annoying and dont always push people away be more understanding and put yourself in their shoes
hopefulParadise73
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Aug 3, 2018
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By thinking before you speak.By practicing patience. Taking deep breaths to calm down. By keeping your voice tone low.
Tommy27
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Oct 20, 2018
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Telling others about this can really help this situation because, if you have a mood swing and the person is aware that this is something you're struggling with, then he or she can come to terms with whats happening, instead of being offended, for example.
I can imagine that it must be tough for you because you don't want anyone to judge you or for you to hurt anyone, and I do have a lot of sympathy for you. If you ever feel like things are getting a bit difficult, maybe there is something your Doctor can help you with, and although they may not be a counsellor, it can also give you a person to talk to. I wish you all the best :)
