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I've stopped self-harming, but I have existing wounds. What should I do without telling anyone?

Profile: Cadence
Cadence on Feb 16, 2015
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If you're worried about anyone knowing, you could always wear some sort of clothing overtop of it. Long sleeves, pants, long shorts -- Anything that would keep the wounds covered until they heal. Other options might be bracelets, or perhaps tying a bandana on your arm. If push comes to shove, you could place a bandage on it, and say that you fell, or something like that, as we're not infallible, and injuries are common enough to not raise suspicion. Also, if they're healed, you can try concealer, or even tattoo hiding foundation, as it will take all of the color out of it. Sure it's not good to hide if you're in pain, but sometimes hiding the marks is a lot easier than explaining everything, and making people uncomfortable.
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Profile: TaylorRain08
TaylorRain08 on Jan 11, 2016
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Remind yourself that every wound and scar you have is proof that you have overcome obstacles in life that have helped shape who you are today. Do not be ashamed of having a past, and do not let anyone make you feel like you are somehow less because of those wounds. You do not owe them an explanation, nor do you owe them anything else and I hope that you know that overcoming self-harming takes a lot of courage and strength and that is something you should not feel the need to hide.
Profile: peaceful20
peaceful20 on Jan 25, 2015
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Depending on where they are tattoos would be your best bet. I have scars from cutting on my thighs and I embrace them. I think of them as battle scars. I fought for my life and I have the scars to prove it.
Profile: WaitingForTheSun
WaitingForTheSun on Mar 12, 2015
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You can try cream/oitment for scars, they work pretty good (you can get it in every drug store)! it won't make invisible or erase them but will make them less visible, though it'll take some time and cream. While putting it on gently massage the scars. If the wounds are pretty new wait with the cream until they're completely closed and with no scabs. Also make up excuses before going out anywhere so you're not too nervous if asked and wear clothes over the scars. I hoped I helped you or maybe someone alse with that problem despite answering so late :) Take care :)
Profile: faintlyglowing
faintlyglowing on Jun 5, 2015
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Should you prefer to hide it, there are several means. You can use clothing like a scarf or a long sleeved shirt if you are comfortable with that or you can use a strong foundation like the ones you can use to hide tattoos.
Profile: Abz001
Abz001 on Jun 7, 2015
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Well I definitely think that you should be confident despite anything that you've done, you should be proud that you have powered through self harming, and turning your life around. Be proud of yourself, and be you.
Profile: ZeMightyGiant
ZeMightyGiant on Jun 17, 2015
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If they are on your wrist and you really don't want to show them, you can hide them with some bracelet. If it's on your leg, simple pa ts can hide them perfectly
Profile: Riss8456
Riss8456 on Jul 13, 2015
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You said that you still have wounds from previous self-harming. How do you feel about this wounds still being there?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 21, 2015
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If you feel uncomfortable with people seeing them, cover them up with long sleeves, makeup or bracelets until they heal. Then never cut again. It's really not worth it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 30, 2015
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I have scars from doing what I used to do, but I heard that cocoa butter helps along with lotion/creams that help with scarring
Profile: SilentSerenityy
SilentSerenityy on Dec 7, 2015
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Congrats on stopping! :) There are oils and other treatments which can reduce the appearance of scars so buying something like that might be beneficial.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 7, 2015
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Take care of yourself! It's amazing that you stopped harming yourself, now start taking care instead. You can try to put some oil on it, then the scars will fade over time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 28, 2016
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your on your way to happiness now you have been able to stop self harming. don't hide away. Live your life if anyone asks quistions you can answer or just get away from the situation but either way you can walk away knowing you have over come whatever it is you have been dealing with
Profile: Iauren
Iauren on Apr 19, 2016
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You can tell people that you did struggle, but you over came it and you are stronger than you were. It shows growth and acceptance despite what you did to yourself
Profile: hreedi007
hreedi007 on May 24, 2016
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Glad to hear you are back on track and feeling better of yourself. It is alright if you don't want to share it with other right now. For now you could wear full sleeves or cover with some makeup. However, do share your feelings with someone trustworthy, when you are feeling more comfortable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 31, 2016
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It depends how the wounds are! If they're early scabs or something along the same line, then I suggest you should cover them with clothing, however, if it's markings on your skin, you could cover them with make-up or just lighten them with a mix of lemon (1part) and water (3parts) - Only do this if it's painless and quite well healed!!
Profile: StayStrong152
StayStrong152 on Jun 28, 2016
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If you have stopped self harming, I don't see any reason as to why you can't tell anyone. You should tell your loved ones so that they can encourage and help you through your recovery.
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