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Alphi
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Angry when my boyfriend goes on a trip without me
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 March 18th, 2023
...See more Hi, I have a problem and dont know why I feel this way. My boyfriend of almost 1 year recently told me, that he will go on a 4 day trip with his 2 coworkers. I was immidiately angry and dont even know why. I want to come with them but it is only them 3 so no girlfriens, the two of them even dont have a girlfriend. I hate it that he goes somewhere without me, i think i am jealous he can have fun without me. How can i stop this? I dont want to feel this way.
My boyfriend going out with friends
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 February 12th, 2023
...See more Hi, i need some help. My boyfriend of almost one year sometimes (like twice a month) goes out with his frieds, colleges etc. without me. I want him to have fun, but i am always so stressed and cant sleep until he calls me, that he is home. He is often drinking lots of alcohol and then he goes clubbing. I am scared that he looks there at other women and thinks about them. He told me multiple times, that he would never cheat on me, he has only me in his mind and does not have a reason to do that, but i am still scared. I am also scared that he will be so drunk, he wont be able to control his behavior, even when this has never happened. I dont know why i always think about stuff like that, its so hard to sleep and i only think about him, if he is okay and if hes not flirting with other women. How can i stop doing that? I also think that i am kind of jealous that he is having fun without me and therefore i think that with me is not that kind of fun for him and other people are better.
Wanting him to be with me all the time
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 February 3rd, 2023
...See more Hi, I have a problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He has lots of activities (he plays football) and he has so many friends, that is sometimes hard do see often. For me, I want to see him as often as possible and when I hear that he is planning on going somewhere with his friends, I get angry and sad. How do I stop this? We see each other like 3 times a week and for me it is still too little, he is okay with like two times a week or once a week. It is very hard for me to not get jealous and I kinda want him to be only with me, even I know it is unhealthy. Second thing is, that we are planning to go down the river in boats with his friends. I dont know most of them (they are not that close, so they see only in summer) and my boyfriend wants to be in a boat with his boys and not me. I cant understand why? I will be lost with some people I dont know, he wants me to go with him but then he will leave me in a boat with sb else. I am very confused. Please help.
How to overcome jealousy
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 December 8th, 2022
...See more Hi, i have a problem with jealousy. I am with my boyfriend for almost 7 months and recently, i have been very jealous of lots of things. How to overcome it? For example, I am jealous when he spends time with sb else cause I want him to be with me. I am jealous of girls on the street that he looks at or girls in porn. I am jealous when he likes pictures of girls, especially half naked famous women, which he follows (3 of his favourite djs). I trust him that he loves me and he tells me all the time, but i hate these things. I think it is because I dont love myself, but it is hard to start loving myself. What sould I do? Is it reasonable or am i just crazy? Please help me, I do not want to loose him.
He kissed another girl
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 December 2nd, 2022
...See more Hi, I have a story to share. I am with my boyfriend for 6 months and 3 months ago he cheated on me with another girl. It was like this - or he told me this. He has 2 girl friends and they were partying. One of them got very drunk and he walked her home, cause she was so drunk. It was very late and he had to go to work in like 3 hours and her apartement was close to his work, so he decided to stay here and sleep at her place. As he was sleeping, she got on top of him and started to kiss him. He said, that at first he didnt get that hey were kissing cause he was tired and drunk also, but then he stopped. There were also some touching but he claims that he had boxers on and they did not sleep together. He is very sorry. I know he loves me and he does not feel anything for her, but it is very hard to forget this. I think all the time about what they did and what if hes not telling me the whole true. What sould i do to get through this? I dont want to loose him.
I feel like im not enough for him
Relationship Stress / by Alphi
Last post
 October 11th, 2022
...See more Hi, i want to share a problem in my new relationship (we've been together for 5 months). I have never been in a relationship before, he has some experiences but is not that experienced too. He does not misses me when we dont see each other for a longer time and he always tells me, that he wants more time alone, cause he is lazy to hang out with me. He says that it does not mean he doesnt care for me, but i feel like it does. For example, his birthday is in a week and he says he want to spend it alone at home, not with me. Why? I dont understand. I also feel like i am not attractive for him. When we're together, he does not need sex and is okay to not sleep with me, he tells me that cuddles and kisses are enought for him. But then, when he is alone, he has a problem with masturbating too much and watching porn. I dont understand, are the girls in porn better for him than me irl? Am I not attractive for him? He has some preferences in bed (for example tights), and when we sleep together, i most of the time wear them. When i dont, he does not have appetite for sex. Am I good for him only when i wear that? I am so confused and think, that im nothing for him, even when he tells me that he loves me and that im amazing. I dont know what to do and we've disscused this several times and come to nothing. He tells me that my thoughs arent right, that it is not like i think but he acts still the same. He is trying to reduse watching porn, cause even he thinks that it is not normal, but it is very hard for him. He also looks very often at girls, especially with tights and i feel very uncomfortable when he does that. Are other girls attractive and I am not? Please help me.
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