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Kjump33
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Lying
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 October 21st, 2021
...See more So backstory: last year my guy cheated on me. Not phisicaly but cheating with girls on dateing apps and reconnected reconnected an old fling. We've been working on it and while i have my days for the most part it's really good. However I caught him in a lie a few days ago and it was such a stupid lie. Basicaly I asked if he picked up a Gatorade for his sick dog to keep her hydrated and he said he did but when I went to check on her the next morning there wasn't one in the fridge or trash can but the following day when I went to check on her he had gotten her one. I don't care that he hadn't done it the first day I'm upset because he lied to me and if he's going to lie about something as stupid and simple as this what elce is he lying about? Should I bring it up to him? Am I over reacting? I grew up with abusive parents so I get that sometimes we lie when we forget to do somthing and don't want to start a fight. But he should know me better than that. I wouldn't have gotten mad at him just told him to make sure she has access to water. What do you guys think? Do I let it go or ask him about it?
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Mental health affecting my job. Do I quit?
General Support / by Kjump33
Last post
 September 2nd, 2021
...See more This year has been really rough and has significantly impacted my mental health which in turn is causing me to make a lot of mistakes at my job. Right now I'm at risk of being fired. Do I ask to go part time before? (they do know about my mental health issues and everything that's gone on this year they just don't really care) I know it's better to quit than be fired but I don't have another job lined up yet. Should I wait or put in my 2 week?
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Over reacting?
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 August 12th, 2021
...See more I'm trying to figure out if I'm over reacting to this. I woak up this morning just full of anxiety and it's just one of those days so i donxt know if this is just my anxiety or an actual problem. Basicaly I see my guy about once per week. This week my job has been insanely busy and it's usually the other way around. Sunday he didn't get off work till 1am and had to be in at 8 Monday so when we both got off at a decent time Monday I understand why we didn't see eachother. He was exhausted. Yesterday he got off at 9 and were were going to see eachother but I was stuck at work till 2am. Today i will be off at a decent time (he doesn't know what time he'll be off til closer to evening) and I kind of got my hopes up about seeing him today. Earlier we were texting and I had mentioned I'm hoping to be off at a decent time and he responded with he hopes I'm not going to be stuck at work hella late so I thought he was thinking about having me over but I didn't ask because I know he still doesn't know what time he'll be off. But a little bit ago I had asked him how his day was going and he said it sucks and he can't wait to get off work so he can go home and clean dished and do laundry and go to bed. Mind you he was off early yesterday and could have done those things but to me I kind of broke down because I was exited to be able to see him and he's acting like he's not even thinking about seeing me today. Plus when I'm over I do his dishes and laundry so it's not like that stuff wouldn't get done. He's always telling me how he misses me but I feel like he'd rather sleep or be alone half the time. I just donxt know if it's my anxiety that's blowing everything out of proportion or if I'm justified in being upset.
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Dog hair
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 July 29th, 2021
...See more Hello folks. Honestly this is probably gonna be a bit of a rant because I'm frustrated. My guy has this big German shepherd dog that tends to sleep in the bed with him when I'm not there. Typicaly I would have no problem with this but right now she is blowing out her coat (German shepherds she'd consistently but twice a year they blow out their undercoat) and I've been dealing with infections as he picks up dog hair from his clothing or bedding or wherever it is and it gets transferd inside of me during sex which results in an infection. It took me a little bit to figure out what was causing. I had told him multiple times before that he should make her an apointment at leas when she's shedding bad bjt he refuses to take her to the groomers because he can supposedly just do it him self. A week ago after realizing what was causing the infections I asked him to take her in and he said he understood and he would. It's been a week and he still hasn't made an appointment and I'm frustrated. I never ask him to do anything and this is the one thing I've asked of him. I dog sit for him, I help him with homework, I clean his house, and he canxt make a simple groomer apointment. Now he has a crazy busy job. And I've told him I'll take her he just has to make the appointment. I texted him earlier today (this the first time I've asked him about it since initially telling him) and I can see he read it but is ignoring me. I'm just frustrated. I Get he's busy and it's probably just kept slipping his mind and he hadn't gotten around to it but it's the one thing I've asked of him and it kind of hurts to see him not put in an effort when I'm always there the second he needs me.
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Left on read
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 July 1st, 2021
...See more Hi so I have a question and I'm sure it's just an anxiety thing but this is my first relationship so I want to know if this is normal or a cause for concern. So I'm a 22 year old female dating a 27 year old male. He has a very demanding job which has him on the road most days and I typicaly see him once per week but lately he's been getting off work really late so it's been more like every other. He also only gets one day off per month. But the past few days he's been leaving me on read a lot. Typicaly I doesn't bother me I just assume he's on the road and read my message (Because the car reads it to him) and he'll answer when he gets done but he's been doing it a lot at night. Typixaly he gets off work around 10 or 11 pm and will play video games for an hour and will go to bed. He basically plugs his phone in and doesn't touch it after he gets home and it's his decompression time. But he's been reading my messages and not responding to them in the evening and the next morning will compleatly disregard it and say good morning. Mind you it's typicaly humdrum stuff like how's your day been or just typicall daily stuff but it just makes me concerned that he's pulling away. He's been super stressed with work so i can understand if it's just stress or depression but I'm anxious and he kind of just brushes it off when i ask saying he just got distracted with his games and then went to sleep.
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Dating outside your religion
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 May 18th
...See more Does anyone have any tips for when your in a relationship with diferent beliefs. For a bit of background, my guy is atheist and I'm Christian. I've always told him I don't care what you belive as long as you have a reason for it because if you don't know why you belive that then you don't actually belive it you're just blindly following. Now I'm very respectful of his beliefs and when we do talk about religion I am in now way shape or form trying to shove my beliefs onto him. But I often feel like he doesn't respect my beliefs and takes any chance he can to try to shove his onto me. We rarely talk about religion but when we do it's frustrating because I can agree to disagree and know how to stop talking when it's needed but he always has to have the final word which I don't understand. Neither of us are going to change our opinions so I don't understand why he has to keep pushing me. I also haven't said anything because I don't want to feel like I'm attacking him because I honestly don't think he realizes he's doing it.
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Military girlfriend
Relationship Stress / by Kjump33
Last post
 June 16th, 2021
...See more So, I really don't know if this is a breaking point or not. My guy is military and will be leaving at the end of the year. We were chatting yesterday and he was telling me how his boss was trying to convince him to live in an RV if he gets sent back to California. And I mean, I get it. Rent is rediculus there, but I don't know what the hell he's thinking. After he leaves I'll still have 3 months on my lease so I thought the game plan is for me to follow him to where ever if he's in a place that I can once my lease is up. He also has a big dog. I will not live in an RV with him and his big freaking dog. It's like he's not even planning for me to follow and I don't know how to bring it up. Every time I ask about what comes next he tells me how he can't give me any answers untill he knows where he's going which won't be untill 3 months before he leaves. Do I just wait untill we know where he's going to bring it up? It just scares me that he doesn't seem to be planning a future and ive told him time and time again that I don't date with out the intent for a future and if at any point he's done just to tell me. I'd rather him be honest then to string me along.
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