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Shnnnn
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Relationship Stress / by Shnnnn
Last post
 December 28th, 2025
...See more I can't seem to free myself from someone I loved so deeply. I gave him everything: my love, effort, time, and all, but he ended up cheating on me. He cheated in October 2023, and I found out in January 2024. Even then, we never stopped contacting each other. I forgave him, but I can never forget. I constantly bring up the trauma he caused me. One month after he cheated, I found a random girl's picture on his phone in the "Recently Deleted" folder. I cried so hard in front of him, and when I checked his phone again after crying, he had deleted it. Then, in March 2025, I discovered that he had been talking to other girls. He said they were just friends from high school. There were many of them. Girl #2 kept blocking and unblocking him. He even made a new account that followed this so-called "high school friend." When I confronted him about it, he said he was blocked by her, so he created the account to say something important. He deleted the account after I found out. Yesterday, I had this feeling that something was really going on with, Girl #3. I stalked her and saw that he was always reacting to her posts. I asked him about it, wondering if there was something between them, and he denied it, claiming she was just a social media friend. I ended up messaging the girl because I knew he wouldn’t admit to what I was accusing him of. She sent me screenshots of their conversation, and it showed that he was always replying to her stories, notes, and even initiating chats. Fortunately, the girl wasn’t very responsive to him. She even comforted me and told me, "Let him go. I think he has a lot of girls he’s talking to. You don’t deserve to be treated like that." I asked him, "Why are you doing this to me? I'm always waiting for you to message me back, even if it takes 6 hours, 8 hours, or even days or weeks for you to reply." He said he was chatting with someone else just to pass the time. He's talking to them while talking to me, so he thinks it’s fair. He said I should change. That I should stop being so desperate to fix our relationship and change my behavior. He said we can fix things if I change. Am I the one who needs to change? I keep asking myself. I haven’t done anything wrong. I’ve just been discovering his cheating. He even said he wasn’t cheating because we’re not together anymore. He pushes me away every time, denies all my accusations, even though I find out they’re true. He reverses what happened and puts all the blame on me. Now, I bear all the mistakes. I’ve become the bad one. I know there’s a lot I don’t know and can’t figure out. I just keep finding out one thing after another. I don’t know how many girls are involved. I’m too tired to check every social media account. I know I’m stupid for holding on to the hope that he might change. Now, I regret it. I don’t know what to do anymore. I love him so much to the point that I forgot to love myself. How can I accept this? How can I be free from this? I know the advice is to stop, but I can’t do it. I kept lecturing him to treat me with respect, but my words had no effect. It just made him mad, and now I’ve been blocked on all social media. Please help me find a way to cope with this. I'm already tired and drained. I want to escape.
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Relationship Stress / by Shnnnn
Last post
 May 4th, 2025
...See more Hello. Lately, I'm having a hard time focusing. I constantly feel nervous, shaky, and overwhelmed by overthinking. I've lost trust in others and can't seem to regain it. I struggle with sleeping through the night, and my appetite is inconsistent—sometimes I have no desire to eat, and other times I feel like eating everything. I've also been experiencing breakouts on my face, which is unusual for me. I recently resigned from work, so I have plenty of time to rest, but I still feel constantly tired. I often feel like crying, but the tears just won't come out. 🥺 Has anyone here ever consulted a professional and found out they have anxiety or depression? Can you share what your symptoms were? How do you cope with it? What helps you? #RELATIONSHIPSTRESS
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Relationship Stress / by Shnnnn
Last post
 March 26th, 2025
...See more I’m in so much pain right now. I posted here a few days ago about the cheating issue with my boyfriend. It's been a year since he cheated on me, and we’ve never been okay after that. We always argue. I kept bringing up his mistakes, and he asked for space so we could breathe and try to bring back the love we once had. But yesterday, I found out that he’s been telling people we’ve already broken up. So, I confronted him, and he said that we’ve already broken up. I also discovered that he’s been chatting with another girl. I kept asking him why, and I told him to block her. He replied, "Why would I block her? I’d block you either. Why do you have so many demands? We're not together anymore." I can’t contain the pain I’m feeling right now. I can’t eat; I don’t feel hungry. I love him so much, but why does he keep hurting me and betraying me? I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have no point to continue in life. 😭😭😭😭
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Relationship Stress / by Shnnnn
Last post
 March 20th, 2025
...See more Have you ever experienced being the only one fighting for your relationship? Putting in all the effort, giving as much love as you can, supporting, and always giving even when there’s nothing in return? Being cheated on, not receiving assurance, not feeling valued, important, or loved? Always treated like an option, with him having time for his friends but not for you? He says he needs to prioritize his family over me, even though I treat him like part of mine, but to him, I’m just someone else. Feeling ignored, forgotten, but still staying? How did you all manage to get out of that kind of relationship? It’s getting worse. There's nothing left in me. All the love I gave was returned with nothing but pain. Yet, I'm still the one who's blamed just because of how I reacted. 😢
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Relationship Stress / by Shnnnn
Last post
 March 20th, 2025
...See more I caught my boyfriend cheating on me in January 2024. When I found out, he admitted to it, and it started in October 2023. He chose me over the other girl, so I forgave him. But I can’t forget what happened. At first, he was really sorry and tried to prove that he was changing, but after two months, we started arguing every day. I kept bringing up the issue, and he never understood me. He started saying harsh things like, "Your brain is damaged," "Your brain can’t function properly," and "Maybe you’re sick and need medication." It felt like he was blaming me for reacting the way I did. Now, he doesn’t care about me. When I message him, he replies after 6 hours, 8 hours, a day, or sometimes even weeks. He’s always online on his social media, so I can’t help but overthink that maybe he’s seeing someone else again. But when I ask him about it, he says there’s no one else. He told me we need space so that our relationship can go back to normal. But why is this happening? I don’t understand. I’m the one who’s been hurt, but why do I feel like it's my fault?Whenever I ask him why it takes so long for him to reply, he says he’s busy with work. I try to understand because he’s in the military, but I keep gaslighting myself. I’ve supported him throughout his journey, from when he had nothing to when he succeeded in his career. I feel like, for the entire 5 years of our relationship, I’ve been the one acting like the man.A year has passed, and I’m still stuck. All I do every day is cry and feel hurt. I can’t even sleep properly—it's always 3 a.m. when I finally fall asleep, and I always wake up with bad dreams about him cheating on me. I can’t eat properly, and I can’t function like I used to. I even ended up resigning from my job.On March 1, he told me that he loves me and that I’m the one he wants to marry. But after that day, he went back to his usual behavior, ignoring me again. When I questioned him about why he was acting so cold, he said he was just busy. He blocked me on all his social media accounts. I contacted all my friends who have his number and asked them to message him to unblock me. I even sent him an email, begging him not to leave me and to fix things.
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