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Songbird2526
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PathStep 15 Compassion hearts48 Forum posts28 Forum upvotes41 Current upvotes41 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2022 Member sinceMarch 9, 2018
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How do I overcome my phobia of sex?
Relationship Stress / by Songbird2526
Last post
 November 5th, 2025
...See more Okay so I have an issue that I've been dealing with and I have no idea what to do about it and I'm horribly frustrated sorry if this is a smidge TMI I don't know where else to talk about this I think I have a phobia of sex. I'm scared of it and I can't understand why. I've googled it and people usually are insecure about the way their bodies look, have performance anxiety, sexual abuse, rape, etc. and none of these apply to me. I don't know what's wrong with me. I know generally know what to do/ I'm not worried about being bad and I have no issues with the way my body looks The idea however of my genitals being touched or touching my parter's genitals makes me so anxious I freeze up and feel like I want to cry. We've made out and gotten undressed up until our underwear, but anything further than that sends me into a panic attack My partner has been working with me and has been so patient and lovely, but I just feel like I'm letting them down. I don't know how to overcome this or why I feel this way. I keep pushing them away on and off because I feel like I'm letting them down and they deserve better with someone who can give them what they want We started trying to make progress literally just by letting them rest their hand down there with my underwear on and even that is distressing. What the heck is wrong with me I feel so broken and disappointing
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I'll Be In the Closet Forever?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Songbird2526
Last post
 June 8th, 2019
...See more Hi Im not in a crisis, but Im pretty darn miserable Im a 19-year-old lesbian and Im crazy far into the closet My family is insanely religious and homophobic. Im scared out of my mind for when I come out (if I ever even build up the courage to do so) I have so much anxiety around this and its awful. And it doesnt feel like it will ever get better. Im just miserable and life seems pointless. Im not suicidal I just kinda hate life atm. I want to live its just so so awful at the moment. I went to talk to a counselor about how Im feeling and they told me that I can talk to them, but otherwise they dont know how to help me. And I realized people can give me all the advice they want, but Im the one who has to deal with this stupid weight and Im so irritated by it. I want to come out so bad, but I dont want to deal with the emotional torment my parents would give me would slowly destroy me Does it really get better? Because it feels like it never ever will
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Anxious, Tired, and Derealization
Anxiety Support / by Songbird2526
Last post
 March 13th, 2020
...See more I just feel stressed and out of it or disoriented all the time now. And usually I can see an end to where my anxiety will lesson after I get certain things done, but this time around all I see is mountain after mountain to climb. My anxiety has been awful lately. I'm not even excited about a trip for Spring Break. I can just see all the things that could go wrong and then we have finals after that and then I have to get a new summer job because the place I usually work closed down. And then I have to deal with annoying rude customers. And then I go back to school and have to deal with mass amounts of projects and start figuring out how I'm going to get a job out of college. And then I have to get the job. And then I have to start figuring out to pay my student loans. ON TOP OF ALL OF THIS I'm a lesbian and I don't know if I'll ever break that to my family and try to start a relationship, but what's the point I'm too stressed out and busy anyways so how can I have a relationship. Oof sorry had to get that all off my chest
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Lost and alone and gay
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Songbird2526
Last post
 January 20th, 2019
...See more I'm trying to figure out how to navigate life being a lesbian woman. I have no interest in a romantic/sexual relationship with men. I like girls and that has been so so hard to deal with. My parents don't support me and I have a really hard time talking to my friends about everything. Most of my friends are straight and I don't have any close LGBTQ+ friends. I just feel lost. There aren't a lot of other lesbian or bi girls where I live and I just feel different and miserable. I just want to be able to live happily and have a cute relationship with someone. I don't want to be judged I don't want to have to deal with all of this it isn't fair I'm so done. I'm sorry I'm venting it's like 2 am here and these forums were the only place I could think left to just get this out somehow. Therapy is just too expensive at the moment so talking in a community of people like me is something I guess. I'm scared to be myself. I'm scared to take chances. I'm scared to look for happiness. I'm scared. I talked to a girl on twitter and I was crushing on her for a while, but she lives on the other side of the US and I'm worried I'm just imposing my feelings of loneliness and wanting someone to like me and sense of belonging on her. We confessed over message that we both had crushes on each other. We'd never chatted in person. We recently sent each other video messages and I heard her voice and I feel like a horrible horrible person for saying this, but I don't like her voice. It isn't at all what I thought it would be like. And that is such a mean thing to say. I'm just wondering now though how much of her is just a fantasy in my brain. How much can you really get to know someone over message. Also, I've only known her for a month. Why did this happen? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. We are planning to Skype for real on Monday, but I'm just so worried we won't click. A message is just so different than talking. It's so easy to give off an impression of yourself over message than real life. Honestly, I have no idea what I just wrote it's 2:30 am here and I'm exhausted. I just feel lonely and lost and I wish I could talk to someone. I don't know how to navigate life at the moment and I feel like I'm having an identity crisis. I swear I don't know who I am or what I want or how to do all this. Okay, that sounds dumb I'm going to sleep.
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Frustrated and Asexual
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Songbird2526
Last post
 February 25th, 2019
...See more I'm so frustrated being on the asexual spectrum and trying to figure out how to navigate relationships. I feel like as a college student everyone is always talking about their sexual experiences or wanting them and I just can't relate at all. People I've dated have shown interest in sexual things and I just run the other way. I just don't have an interest almost at all in it. The thought of having sex too when I don't want it freaks me out. I feel like I'll never find a solid relationship or someone who understands how I feel. I just feel kind of lost at the moment.
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