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Feelings after Disconnected by Elder Married Son
Relationship Stress / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 May 8th
...See more How I feel at the age of 77 sick with Medical and Mentally sick with 72,ageDiabetic wife, both disabled were dis connected by their Elder Married son after living lifetime together, parent raised their three grand sons, gave up every thing including their biz undocumented and now nowhere. Both are handicap and living under poverty line income with medicare n now living with younger married son n family, where DIL don’t like them and having issues with husband, plus limited income and stability. This all of a sudden disconnection came as Mountains of load on both parents, Specialy the father, who seems to be almost collapsed and become severely depress and anxious plus some major sickness to become, sad, disconnected with his lifetime friends, relatives, social n biz local n international connection and living hopeless and help less life without any intrest taking Medications and therepues but nothing helping. All efforts to reconcile were failed rather further deteriorated, no no near solutions visible except accept it but it’s not easy for father. He remain sad and vulnerable all the time. He is living almost like a dead person. Some comment or advice highly appreciated.
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Mentaly sick 77 handicap needs Advise
Depression Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 April 14th
...See more Due to personal health n limitations, the Catract eye surgery of wife postponded by me twice, it’s my fault. Now after last year, today Opthamologist got angry to my wife and said why you delayed it, now eyes pressure is very high so three months medicines prescribed then decesion will be made. She now upset angry and yelling at me. I’m currently going thru sevre fear, anxiety and depression with other social and emotional issues. I am messing lots of things around by wrong judgements and actions. Lost all famiky and friends support. Paychsitrist also angry n not responding although I got mefidicinebprescription from gispitalbER was admitted last week. Now trying cope and cool down but regretting too much for my wrong decesions. How to overcome is not known but I agree I messed up everything now. I have to find someway out to come out of my Afsar, Anxiety, stress, depression and other issues. Taking medications and therapies but don’t know, nothing helping.
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Elder married son, his wife n grand children Dissconedred.
Anxiety Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 April 12th
...See more Extremly devesteted and shocked due sis connection if our married son n famiky due some misunderstanding and misinterpretation of some conversations I made with common friends, I however c apologized unconditionally but he don’t want to connect with me n my wife,,We both are above 77 sick handicap n im also mental sick with small ssinincome n medicare advantage plan from UHC DualvsnpvPpobwithvQMB- Meficaid. . Earlier my Grabdsin proposal was accepted and we all been taken to the other family where I as a an head of family attended and fulfilled my role as elder without any hesitation. But then again he disconnected, now again official engagement ceremony at Girls family and we all are invited, my son just posted their card in our family group n invited all there but not anyone going to attend and see how all react or act. I’m very hurt and devastated but called or talk to us. Anyway, being elder, I m attending the event, I was discharged after six days of ny hospital stay due mental n physical sick ness, inspite knowing, no one visited or call me till no. I’m however going there and try to play my role as head of famiky infront of others to save famiky….. but inside lije dead person….. they all will pretend caring infront of others but God knows, reason unknown even then I submitted my unconditional apologies but no responses I’m having high BP now and feeling very sick now but trying to attend. Needs some positive response and advice. I’m very weak n sentimental too I can’t afford to live away from my son but now got mentaly sick bcz of this. Seek comments. Forgive me for typo mistakes.
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Feelings of abandonment by your own life longs loving married Son due some misunderstanding
Anxiety Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 January 4th
...See more I remain biz men with active leadership popular social helping person, earn good money, setup biz in home country n in usa, it was good biz, bring my son in biz n gradually gave him my biz n everything n started serving needy and suffering communities free of charge for many years. Begning of this year I got diagnosed with two major sickness which are under monitoring since 8months, during that period I got Depressed and anxious n got mentaly sick n even stayed in Behavioural hospital. I was with my psychiatrist friend there who was treating me and I talk some personal feelings reason for my mental sickness n that personal matter was informed by my friends in different interpretation which created big misunderstanding n my son disconnected with us
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ECT Therepy for treatment resistant anxiety GAD etc.
Anxiety Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 December 13th, 2025
...See more M going thru fear stress, anxiety, depression n GAD and advised to take ECT structuaral speech n exposure therapies and other needed therapies and treat ments by URDU speaking experience therepist for CBT n other therapies to cure my sickness kindly comment and advise if any one have CBT experiences also for aged 77 sick person have chances of memory loss. See if anyone advise
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Anxiety, Depression n fear sickness control
Anxiety Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 December 1st, 2025
...See more Struggling badly to control my brain which move very fast in addition to my morning anxiety Any suggestion I’m 77 sick n disabled with anxiety, depression n fear sickness taking medication n CBT Therepy , anyone suggest any possible solution tion?
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Racing worrying Thoughts during fear anxiety n depression sickness
Anxiety Support / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 November 14th, 2025
...See more Why worrying thoughts disturb me too much and Elivate my fear anxiety and depression ssi ness and than it become so much promlomatic and I can’t relax. Yes I do deep breathing, grounding and distracting thoughts but nothing work so far. My CBT therepist advised me to remain inner circle first then try external issues. It will ease my pains. I’m trying today and see tomorrow . Any one have any experience, I remain stressing whole day Back and neck back pains daily. I can’t relax or sleep once I wake-up in morning than at night I can only sleep when I take sleeping tablet Trazodone 100 mg and with non 30 minutes I catch sleep for 6-8 hours with morning anxiety which again continue disturbing with back headache. I can’t relax not sleep or lay down for whole day n nd not able to do anything.,needs serious professional help now to if someone can help me find some therepist who may accept my medicare advantage plan of united health care and don’t charge me any payables l. See who will s coming forward to help Best of Luck
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Sometimes your own family play against you
Relationship Stress / by considerateChestnut4179
Last post
 November 11th, 2025
...See more What one can do while going through Fear anxiety depression and GAD sickness besides other sickness at the age 77 and now Disabled wife 72 having her fractured kneecap surgery and now bedridden. My both married sons not see eye to eye with each other. Earlier I was living with my elder son, whole my life but recently due my mental sickness at Behavioral Hospital, I may have said some words to some of the Psychaitrist while he treating me. He may have misunderstood or miss interpreted my words to my son which furiated my son and he disconnected with us, when we were short stay with our younger married son having some conflict with his wife who started abusing, misbehaving with us, hiding n missing our meals and other necessities of life. We are now completely help less. We clarified and apologized sevral times to our son also infront of some family elders but now he took it as an opportunity to separate us and now we both devastated and sad and my anxiety n depression replicated and I m on my bad and my wife at her bad crying and praying Almighty God to help us. Some of our own relatives started enjoying our worst situations and create more misunderstanding about us. We don’t know what to do. Our younger son trying his best to help within his limited income plus his wife behaviour with us.
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