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iCareUK
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Number of ratings9 Number of reviews8 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceSep 1, 2022 Last activein last 6 months GenderNon-Binary PathStep 5,509 People helped27 Chats186 Group support chats71 Listener group chats150 Forum posts261 Forum upvotes440
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Last Updated: 30th March 2023 @ 07:49pm(UK Time)

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Just keeping myself to myself

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Gender Non-Binary | Age 35 | Pronouns They/Them/Their | Country United Kingdom | Time zone GMT/BST

Studying Teaching Assistant Level 3 | Work Teaching Assistant (Primary School), Youth Worker & Safeguarding Leader

Current Status at 20:31(UK) 15/3/2023: Doing study work, slow replies

Sorry! I am not accepting casual chat requests!

I am only accepting new member chats via chat rooms and forums.

If you need support right now, or, if you don't have an appointment, please Find another listener

In order to manage my time effectively between my personal life, roles on 7 Cups and supporting Members and Listeners, from the time of this update (Last Updated located at the top of my profile) everyone will require an appointment if:

1) You are a long-term member.
2) I have taken you to a 1-2-1 chat from chat rooms or the forums and want a follow up chat.
3) You are a Listener and are requesting me as your Mentor.
4) You wish to become a Verified Listener.
Messages I receive not under this criteria will be deleted without reply unless I have given you permission to do so, or I will risk losing track of booked appointments and important messages.

My calender does not have a booking facility, please view it and send me a message on Cups to book in a suitable date/time and I will book the appointment for you.
If you wish to discuss anything relating to roles I am involved in, you can find relevant links in the Roles section below.


✅💟Roles on 7 cups💟✅

✅ = Active | ❌ = Not currently active in this role

💟Verified Listener ✅ 

💟Adult-Teen Listener ❌ 

I can speak to, help and support teens on 7 Cups.

💟Quality Mentor ❌ 

I help and support listeners to improve their skills and further their potential.

Listeners can request a Quality Mentor to support them in their Listener journey even if you are not a new Listener.

Find a Mentor

Mentors can also assist Mentees to become verified.

How to become a Verified Listener (blue checkmark)

💟Anonymous Evaluations Team ✅

I work with the Listener Evaluations Team to see how well listeners are performing whilst they are unaware of the evaluation.

💟Forum Supporter ❌ 

I work in the following forums:

Newbie Hub to greet and welcome new members to the 7 Cups community and to offer support and guidance.

Please join here!

Safety & Knowledge on 7 Cups to promote and ensure the safety and well-being of 7 Cups members

Please join here!

💟Safety Patrol / Outreach Team (SPOT) ❌ 

I help to keep 7 Cups a safe and secure place by scanning profiles for content which breaches privacy, safety or site guidelines and take action on any profiles that does.

If you have seen a profile that concerns you for whatever reason, please click here to report it

💟Doorkeeper ✅

I help to open and close chatrooms for discussions and events.

💟Peer Appreciation Team ❌ 

I help to pass appreciation messages between everyone on the site, to recognise them for their positivity on the site

You can appreciate a peer by clicking here

💟Chatroom Moderator ❌ 

I am a Chatroom Moderator in the following rooms.

- Support Room 24/7 (Adults)

- Support Room 24/7 (Teens)

- Member Community Room (Adults)

- Teen Community Room 24/7 (Teens)

- Sharing Circle (Adults)

My role is to create a positive and vibrant atmosphere and ensure users of the chat rooms are safe and secure and that rules and guidelines are followed at all times.

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 ❗️Boundaries❗️

These boundaries are very strict and must be followed, failure to do so could result in further chats being discontinued.

  • All chats must be pre-booked following the information at the top of my profile, booked appointments will be for one hour (60 minutes).
  • Chats without an appointmentment will be deleted without a reply.
  • If you are a listener and need support, please use your member account to seek personal support, if you need a Quality Mentor, see information above under "Quality Mentor".
  • I will not tolerate disrespect or abuse of any kind, if this occurs, I will issue you a warning, if this behaviour continues, I will block future communication and report accordingly.
  • If you are not satisfied with our chat, please tell me, don't just ignore/leave the conversation, I can assist in connecting you to another listener who may be more suitable.
  • I am male (although non-binary) - If you prefer to speak to a female, please let me know and I will try to arrange to transfer you to a female listener.
  • All chats will remain confidential.
  • Please ensure your chat category (i.e., Parenting, LGBTQ+, Anxiety) is correct, so that I only accept chats I am open to helping, this is to avoid me having to ask you to find another listener.
  • Chats that begin to make me feel uncomfortable will be terminated.
  • I have a very busy life, I have work and children, this criteria to to help me manage my time effectively, I please ask you to respect it.

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🚫 These chats are off limits 🚫

This list does is not intended to offend anyone, in fact, I do not want to discuss these issues because either: It isn't in any area of my expertise and feel I won't be able to help you, It may be an issue from my past that is too painful to go back to or I don't want to discuss these topics for another reason

| Addiction | Adoption/Foster Care | Alcohol/Drug Abuse | Cancer | Chronic Pain | Exercise Motivation | Financial Stress | Grief | Racial & Cultural | Schizophrenia | Weight Management | Women's Issues |

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❤️ Take care and keep safe ❤️

Recent forum posts
So I'm here, for now..
General Support / by iCareUK
Last post
 May 22nd, 2023
...See more Hi All, I'm back and lost all my badges and really don't have the energy to start trying to get them back. Had a lot going on in life and issues to deal with but I hope you're all okay. iCareUK
Types of Abuse
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 April 4th, 2023
...See more **Trigger and Sensitivity Warning** This post outlines different types of abuse that can occur online - it is there for awareness purposes. Some people may find this information distressing, if you feel this would be too distressing for you, please do not open this thread. To protect the well-being of everyone in the 7 Cups Community, you must click this thread to view it's contents.
We would love to hear your views!
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 April 5th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone! As we begin to build the Safety & Knowledge Community to bigger strengths, I believe it is absolutely vital that we get your feedback so that we know your views and this will enable us to work towards a pathway forward as we build the foundations. The better the foundations the more beautiful the tree, the more colourful it will be, and all of you are a part of the foundations. If you could please help us by filling in our feedback form, we promise we will read every response and take your views on board the best we can. Please fill in the feedback form here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdI-T_lHg5jzJpBCPiksUXlpmdQ-ALkFAfRutC3kxCioqP_Gw/viewform?usp=sf_link] We look forward to reading your valuable feedback and thank you for taking the time to share your views. S&K Community Team
Hey everyone!
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 March 26th, 2023
...See more So, I am awaiting some feedback regarding the next set of posts prior to posting them. For the time being, we will skip forward and move on to the next set of posts. These posts will help us to take a look at different ways to notice that something doesn't look right. Knowing how to RRR as I like to abbreviate it - Recognise, Reflect, Respond is crucial to remaining safe if you are put into a difficult position whether on Cups, or online. Different countries follow different policies and rules so in this case, we will be looking at how to RRR in terms of 7 Cups and what you can do to keep yourself safe online. This is inclusive of many situations you could find yourself in whether it is a chat that just makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe the chat isn't helping you and you feel you need more support than a Listener can offer to you, or you are facing issues in the chat rooms or forums. Trigger Warning! Examples will be used on this post which some people may find triggering, therefore, only proceed if you feel okay to do so. All posts in this topic will be contained within this thread. **Please do not post in this thread**
Contact Information including Reporting
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 March 20th, 2023
...See more It can be a little confusing at times knowing who to contact for specific issues, so let's take a look at who to contact, and what to do if something doesn't look right. Emails forum@7cups.com - for any queries relating to forums and subcommunities support@7cups.com - for any technical queries, it is advised to firstly submit a ticket here [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new] first. community@7cups.com - you can use this email if you need to complete age verification, report user-user disputes, report people with multiple accounts or for any queries you have that are site related. Reporting Forms Profiles - If you see a profile with any information that doesn't seem right, you can report this to the Safety Patrol using this form [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeGECC4E9NeQzQp2Skspwu6VQBJfMYB2Ag-Btm93DN5w0vh8A/viewform] Reporting a Listener/Member - If you are facing an issue with a Listener or Member, you can make a report about this here [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new]. In 1-2-1 chats, you will see the block button (🚫), this will discontinue further communication with the member and will also allow you to report them at the time. Chat Rooms - If someone is breaking rules in a chat room (rules can be located at the bottom of the chat screen) or someone is being put in any kind of danger, please fill in this form [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScRXkwrrPicWRzUvBPYq2wrblHE5HexqFmVA3k3B4QLEoNyHw/viewform] to request a moderator if one isn't already present. For any other queries or issues, please visit the Help Desk [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us] I will keep this post up to date at regular intervals. Last updated: 18/03/2023
I have a question for you all!
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 March 17th, 2023
...See more This post will be used for Question Time. A great way to encourage involvement and the sharing of knowledge and information.
Off-Site Contact
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by iCareUK
Last post
 April 18th, 2023
...See more About Off-site Contact Off-site contact relates to anyone on 7 Cups providing usernames, links, and account details that will lead to connecting with someone off the 7 Cups website. Why is this unsafe? 7 Cups provides safety tips, guidelines and protective measures to ensure everyone in the community is safe, attempting to chat away from the site will ultimately mean that people are no longer protected by these measures, 7 Cups also applies filters to all chats that is recognized to be attempting to share this information as protection. What if I know someone personally outside of 7 Cups? In this situation, it is still against guidelines to ask for or share this information, and you must use another method, away from 7 Cups to share such information. Example (1): Hello, what's your username on (app_name)? (2): (Username) (1): Thank you, I'll chat to you on there, I'll add you now (2): Okay In this scenario, two people are agreeing to chat away from 7 Cups, sharing this information is not allowed, and once you do move away from 7 Cups, you are no longer protected by 7 Cups Guidelines and protective measures. 7 Cups is also a confidential service, and this has the potential to undermine your confidentiality. If you need further information about this, please feel free to ask questions below.
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Care has been absolutely wonderful. They could relate to what I was seeking support for, which was appreciated. They didn't try to "fix" me. Instead they provided a safe space for me to talk.
Absolutely amazing and is so helpful and is really good at understanding !💛💛
Amazing 💜💜💜💜
One of the bestest listeners on cups (: thank you so much for always being so kind
He is good listen
Such a kind caring person. Absolutely love talking to them!
Great listener 10/10
Very kind, listened to me carefully
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