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Relationship Stress / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 September 22nd, 2024
...See more So I dated this guy back about this time last year. we dated for 6 months or so. We had a some what messy relationship, and in the end I was the one who cut him off. This was because of the change I felt in our relationship. He felt not loyal, I felt he was talking to other girls. And when it came to me, he only cared about sexual things. I felt like an object to him, after months of our meaningful relationship where he was basically my best friend. I blocked him a while ago and we’ve been no contact. i still struggle with a lot of big feelings about this relationship. There’s a lot of things about it that I think about. I feel I need some kind of closure, some kind of answers to my questions. He’s the only person I’ve had real feelings for, and I want to know if he actually loved me. I want to know the full truth if he used me and cheated on me. We never really talked about the end of our relationship, it was an abrupt ending. He meant a lot to me and still does, but generally isn’t a great person. i want to know how I should go about this. I was going to unblock him and message him to talk it out, kind of break up a second time. I’m scared he will take this the wrong way and think I want a relationship with him again which I don’t. Or he will see me as desperate. out of curiosity, I unblocked him and stalked his following and found out he’s following a bunch of new girls. Which means he already has moved on or is talking to new people. I’m not sure why this threw me off and made me feel iffy about thinking of texting him. Again I’m not sure why because I have dated two people since we broke up, and I have no intention of dating him again. what should I do? If there’s anything else u think is important I can answer questions
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Depression Support / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 April 15th, 2024
...See more I wasn’t sure exactly where to post this… but I need advice on a complicated situation. TW for sensitive topics (sexual assault / self harm) I’m having a hard time and I really want to forgive my ex. But the things he’s done are unforgivable. And still I feel bad. Like I’m a bad person. he is 18 turning 19 already graduated and I’m 16. My parents were understandably not supportive of our relationship. Many people around me say he took advantage of me and “groomed” me. When we dated, he sexually assaulted me. He used my previous sexual assault trauma against me in a way. There was never a time I wasn’t screaming and crying. He hit me and bruised me. And there was never any aftercare. In some ways I found this comforting as it was what I was familiar with. It’s all I’ve known. For the longest time I thought that was love. In some ways I miss it. he eventually cheated on me. And went to military training. I sent him letters and pictures and talked to him when I could. While he was away he encouraged me to relapse on self harm. Because he wanted me to hurt myself since he couldn’t. Part of me just feels bad. Even though he did the things he did to me, he was still my best friend in a way. He understood me better than anyone. And yes he used that against me eventually. I just don’t know what to do. I feel guilty. He is coming home sometime this month and will likely try to contact me again. And will possibly come back to my work. I’m so nervous. ive since dated another guy, the relationship only lasted two months, since things didn’t work out. But when I dated him, it didn’t feel like love. He wouldn’t hurt me. I only feel love when I’m being hurt. I’m scared I’ll never be normal. I’ll never have a normal relationship.
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Relationship Stress / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 March 21st, 2024
...See more So a month ago I started dating this guy. We had talked for two months dated for one. We hung out every week for hours. I really really did like him. Suddenly he started acting off and ignoring me. He seemed upset. After a month of us dating and everything going well, he suddenly broke up with me last night and said he didn’t have romantic feelings for me at all. He still wants to be friends with me. But it’s hard because I genuinely liked him. I sit with him and his friends at lunch and I’m embarrassed. I still want to be friends with them I do. But I feel it’s gonna be awkward now that we aren’t dating. Although I wonder if it’s more embarrassing that he broke up with me after a month and the reason was “he didn’t like me”. The problem is I really liked being apart of his friend group. I don’t have many friends myself, and I finally fit in somewhere. And I really like his one friend and I don’t wanna lose her as a friend because of us breaking up. I just don’t know what to do
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7 Cups Online Therapy / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 March 14th, 2024
...See more I started dating my boyfriend about a month or so ago. Ive been really happy, I love spending time with him, and he’s my everything. Ive liked him for a while before we started dating. The problem is I’m scared im not what he wants. Im scared that as our relationship goes on, he will become unhappy and bored with me. He is trans and has only dated other guys previously and I’m a very feminine girl, so understandably im worried I’m not what he wants. I also have been struggling with myself personally a little bit. From my previous trauma and relationships, I struggle with hyper sexuality. Me and him haven’t done anything of that nature yet, but I always want to, to the point Ive wanted to force him onto me. Im aware this is unhealthy and I’ve managed to control myself. But for me, sex is how I define my worth in a relationship. It’s a bad habit, I want to bring it up to him, but I’m not sure how. literally any advice is welcome I’m just so worried about everything
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Self-Harm Recovery / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 October 20th, 2023
...See more So I’ve been struggling a lot recently with self harm relapses. I wouldn’t say there’s a particular reason I’m just more stressed than normal. The thing is my boyfriend made me promise I wouldn’t relapse again. And that he was here if I needed anything and to call him instead of relapsing. I’ve relapsed now twice and haven’t bothered calling him either time. I don’t want to worry him or stress him out. He already has a lot of problems going for himself, he doesn’t need to deal with mine too. I just feel like the way I am right now I can’t support him and it sucks. Because I want to but I’m struggling so bad. I’m scared I’m gonna hurt him. I don’t know what to do I feel so guilty for relapsing but I can’t help it and I don’t want to stress him out any more than he already is.
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Relationship Stress / by inventivePineapple3023
Last post
 September 25th, 2023
...See more I’m a 16 year old girl and I met an 18 year old guy at my first job a few months ago. We quickly became friends and became more comfortable with each other. He just graduated from another school last year and I am currently a junior in high school. We started talking outside of work more and realized how similar we are. We developed feelings for each other, and planned to go on a date. I lied to my parents about his age because I knew they wouldn’t let me go out with an 18 year old, but they found out and were reasonably *** at me. I know I majorly messed up lying to them about it. We have been dating for a month or so now in secret. I’ve been sneaking out to go on dates with him and see him outside of work. We really do have an amazing relationship and he means the world to me. He’s also planning on moving jobs because he knows us dating is inconvenient for work reasons. I don’t know how to explain the situation to my parents. He wants to meet my parents and be able to be open about dating and hanging out.. I feel the same but I’m scared of how they will react and I’m not sure how to tell them. The truth is I just really connect with him and it feels right when I’m with him. I really want some way for it to work out. (wanted to mention it’s legal in my state if anyone’s worried about that)
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