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Members: Welcome to 7cups, I’m so glad you came across my page! It can be really challenging to open up to someone, but know that you’re not alone and that I will never judge you. I may not be able to fix what you’re going through, but I will support you and be a friend to you through it all. I’ll happily chat with you if you are just looking for someone to have a lighthearted chat with or are looking for a long-term listener. Feel free to message me anytime, I will respond as soon as possible. Listeners: This site is full of many wonderful listeners. Thank you all for your amazing efforts and time spent on this site helping create such an amazing and enjoyable environment for all! If have any questions, send me a message, I’d be happy to answer them. I love meeting new listeners, so feel free to message me anytime if you want a listener buddy.
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Hi! My name is Lynn, and I'm glad you've found me! I'm a trained listener with a degree in English and psychology as well as professional training in peer counseling. I am NOT a professional psychologist, and I cannot provide therapy services. My scholarly focuses were in ethnic, cultural and gender studies, and psychological studies in abnormal psychology and human sexuality. You'll find me to be exceptionally open-minded and able to talk about practically anything that is on your mind. I am GLBTQ+ friendly. I have personal experience with a number of things, and my professional training has focused mostly on sexuality, depression/anxiety management, and autism spectrum disorder. In my free time, I enjoy writing, movies, and MUSIC!!! Feel free to reach out to me anytime I'm online, and if I'm not, I'll respond to messages as soon as I can after getting notice.
Please read previous member reviews before connecting with me. If you're a fellow listener, I appreciate your interest, but I will hold you accountable to the listener agreement and will not provide emotional wellness support outside the parameters of that agreement, no exceptions!
I am, in general, an acute situation listener. I focus on immediate needs. This means I'm not likely to "just chat" though I am open to doing so. Just note that I focus on emotional crisis first. I do not have long-term relationship availability at this time.
I am also a person living with ASD. My vocabulary and style of speech has been accused of being mean, harsh, aggressive, you name it, I've heard it. I cannot help it, and I cannot change it. Believe me, I've tried. If you're sensitive to that sort of thing, it's best to move on! This being said, I am a person and I have feelings. All I can do is try my best, but I limit my support list for a reason and ask certain questions at the start so we can be on the same page.
My style is to talk about progressive approaches and necessary steps, whether or not they "feel good"... I'm not one to try and package up harsh realities in fuzzy packages. I firmly believe that every adult has the ultimate responsibility for their feelings and their response to those feelings, so a discussion with me will be about accountability, self-honesty and can sometimes be a "rude" reality check. My expectation for members that talk to me is that they have read this description and accept that this is what they will get from me; that I expect them to be a grown adult, able to speak about issues with maturity and a desire for affirmation and change, and will understand that it is up to them and them alone where the power lies. I am simply a facilitator in your own conversation with yourself; if something I say is sharp, hits home, there is a reason.
Generally speaking, I do not provide support for relationship issues, domestic violence, sexual trauma, discussions of incest and/or other non-consensual sexual experiences. I do not provide detailed discussions of sexual desires, fetishes or dysfunctions; if you need help in this area, I recommend working with a professional.I cannot discuss self-harm, suicidal ideation/events, or abuse events. Please seek support from another listener if you need this kind of help, or reach out to suicide.org
As any listener on here has the right to do, I reserve the right and ability to set conversational boundaries and protect myself as an emotional being. If at any time I feel that either involved party is at risk during our conversations, I will advise as much and do my best to direct the member to the best path.
While I have professional training and education, I cannot provide therapy services or fill in as a replacement for your mental health professional.
Hey all my names Brit. I’ve been a listener for a lil while now I'm a verified ATL too I'll only take chats for one hour slots at a time if you need regular we will set up a time and date after every chat i take Always accepting long term members .
id prefer SCHEDULED chats only you can use the book now at bottom of bio if you cant see this pm me and ill give you the link for it .since im super busy with my other roles i dont take chats after 5pm EDT thanks for understandingTeams I’m On
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I’m also a Trained Verified Listener passed the VL mock chat and done the training recently to join the Verifier team to verify others if you’d like to become verified or want to know more message me :)
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I am not currently taking new member chats, please use https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ to find an avaliable listener. sorry for the inconvinience.Please read the whole profile before contacting me! (except quotes section you dont have to read that unless you're interested) My availability is: Monday-Thursday, 1 pm- 1 am EST; I dont take member chats Friday - Sunday, as those are my self-care days. You can still message me over the weekend and I'll get back to you on Monday! I also limit my chats times to between 30-60 minutes, depending on how much time I have.I usually keep my status set to busy or offline mode, but dont be afraid to send me a message anyway. Please include what you would like to chat about when you leave me a message, it would be really helpful to me so I know what you're going through.About MeMy name is Jayson and I'm a transgender guy! I've suffered through ADHD, PTSD/trauma, anxiety, BPD, and I'm proudly a part of the LGBT+ community. I'm always here if you need to talk. I want you to know that when you open a chat window with me, it is a safe, confidential place where you can share as much or as little as you want with me.Topics I specialize in taking
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The topics listed above are often trigger-topics for me, so please find a different listener to chat with about these issues. If you have a different topic that is not on either of these lists, or on my listed topics i take, you can feel free to contact me and I'll see if i can help you!Listener Twins!!@ItsDev@KarenMarie@Pamharley003@TenderTruth@SpaceStation2Things I do here!Peer Support- I offer support to listeners after they have been through a difficult or stressful chat
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"Sometimes there is no darker place than our thoughts, the moonless midnight of our mind" -Dean Koontz"We're all needed, even those who sometimes think we're worthless, plain and dull. If we love and allow ourselves to be loved...Well a person who loves is the most precious thing in the world, worth all the fortunes that ever were." -Dean Koontz"Being polite is not only the right way to respond to people, but also the easiest. Life is so filled with unavoidable conflict that I see no reason to promote more confrontations." -Dean Koontz"There's no such thing as being cowardly in a fight" -Edward Elric"Sometimes its good to be scared, it means you have something to lose" -Richard Webber"Just put one foot in front of the other, just get through the day." - Meredith Grey "I'm a human being, I make mistakes. I'm flawed, we all are." - Derek Shepherd"The future is the home of our deepest fears and our wildest hopes." -Owen Hunt
Hi :) my name is jenny and i am an adult and teen listener here im in my 40s have been married for 26 years and have three children who are all adults now I really do enjoy talking to people of all ages who are dealing with a lot of different situations i just ask that you know what you want to talk about and not just message me and then ask me what i want to talk about im fine with casual conversation but you should take the lead it is not a listeners job to try and think of ways to keep you from being bored and you can take all the time you need when it comes to saying whats on your mind im ok with waiting i do not expect quick replies and i also do not expect every question i ask to be answered - you choose both what and when
If im in online mode you can always expect an immediate response and live chat (any listener on green should be responding to you immediately) and if im in offline mode i may or may not be able to have a live chat so just leave a message and i will respond when i can and we can leave eachother messages and if we are both here at the same time we can have live chats what are your expectations? what dont you like? let me know and we can work it out and better understand eachother misunderstandings and hurt feelings happen quickly if your feelings are hurt its not ever my intention and so its a misunderstanding and i will not be upset if you bring it up i will only be glad that you let me know ... I will always be honest and open with you and will let you know right away how i feel and if im uncomfortable with anything and i hope that you do the same
I have many different opinions and interests however above all else i believe in communication and honesty between people I am also very interested in mindfulness and self awareness in paying attention to your thoughts and how your interpreting your life your reality and I absolutely believe that the way to change your reality and take control of your life is to first think about and then question your thoughts the producers of all your emotions and behavior your misery or happiness and ultimately your life I believe that there is nothing more important to your well being than to become aware of and to take control over your thoughts instead of letting your thoughts control and prevent you from having a life and future that you deserve and then making a plan and working on one thing in your life at a time until what you want becomes realityIf your feeling stuck in your life right now I would love to help you to identify and move past the internal and external blocks that keep you from moving forward and having the life you deserve because we can all choose to do something different at any time outside of the established habits and routines that we have created for ourselves you choose when and how but change is definately possible its never too late and you can do it ! so if that is something that you are interested in working on it is definately something that i am interested in helping you with you are your own expert noone knows your life or mind better than you do and because we carry the possibility of change with us everywhere all the time and also the power to make it happen there is nothing more life changing than becoming more aware of your thoughts and actions find free mental health services https://bit.ly/2KpgZKQfree depression workbook https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Depressionstart getting control over your thoughts today http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/abcde.htm overcome your defeatist mindset https://bit.ly/2RQg2Aido you feel like your life is out of control? instead of trying to control food or other things that are harmful to you here are some better things that you can control right now https://bit.ly/2G2N1dB 7cups series on managing thoughts and emotions https://bit.ly/2Bdx00dovercome your panic attacks http://bit.ly/2SQoUXk http://bit.ly/2E3BeZIfree course a life of happiness https://www.coursera.org/learn/happinessIf you are serious about committing suicide i am so glad that you are interested in talking to someone but you need to be aware that 7cups is not a place for crisis counseling but in the US you can text HOME to 741741 to message or call 1-800-273-8255 (in UK call 116 123) to talk free with a trained crisis counselor who can help more than i can also see the free 24/7 online chat sites below that are staffed with trained crisis counselors who you can talk to and if this is an emergency please call 911 or the emergency number for your country as 7cups listeners are not able to directly connect you with any emergency services but if you feel that your situation is not that serious your not in immediate danger and not having an emergency then we can talk and if you are you can come back later when you are no longer in danger 24/7 online chat with trained crisis counselors IMAlive you can chat online with crisis counselors http://www.imalive.org and at Lifeline (give a US zip code to enter chat) http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ (under 18) chat online https://www.childline.ie/ (Veterans or friends and family of veterans) chat online https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/ TrevorChat chat online https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/(UK) call text or walk-in no referral https://www.samaritans.org/branchesInternational and US state suicide hotlines https://www.befrienders.org/domestic abuse resources https://www.thehotline.org/ http://queenbeeing.com/get-help-domestic-violence-emergency-resources/(under 18) https://www.childline.ie/ A lot of great articles and resources on this amazing website Lifehack https://bit.ly/2J75bK2 Using interrogative self talk instead of positive affirmations that you do not believe https://bit.ly/2JmHwIP Overcome your fears and enjoy life https://bit.ly/2hyF02o 3 ways to keep fear from controlling your life and stealing your future https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/236465 Progressive Muscle Relaxation https://youtu.be/f7I2Upk5jqI https://youtu.be/ihO02wUzgkc Interrogative self talk https://bit.ly/2J120rn https://bit.ly/2kBpl40
How to break a habit hack the habit loop https://bit.ly/2AnhrE9
How to deal with negative self talk https://youtu.be/h5iZ6ntDlHk
Systematic Desensitization to get rid of triggers that cause anxiety and panic attacks http://bit.ly/2yUhPbg https://www.psychologynoteshq.com/systematicdesensitization/ The absolutely best website entirely devoted to SD with free resources and a free book and so much informationhttp://web.csulb.edu/~tstevens/Desensit.htm
Activities and distractions to ride out the urge to self harm (or to distract yourself from any intrusive thoughts) https://bit.ly/2QrUusi... and more activities and distractions to deal with the urge to self harm (based on why you self harm so some self awareness is needed here) http://becausewecandothistogetherself harm alternatives * Squeeze ice hard * Bite into a hot pepper or chew a piece of ginger root* Rub liniment under your nose* Slap a tabletop hard* Snap your wrist with a rubber band* Take a cold bath* Stomp your feet on the ground* Focus on how it feels to breathe. Notice the way your chest and stomach move with each breath* Run your hands under freezing cold water* Clap your hands until it stings* Drink freezing cold water* Splash your face with cold water* Put PVA/Elmer’s glue on your hands then peel it off* Massage where you want to hurt yourself* Take a hot shower or bath* Jump up and down to get some sensation in your feet* Write or paint on yourself* Arm wrestle with a member of your family* Bite into a hot pepper or chew a piece of ginger root* Put tiger balm on tingly sensation TIP skills for self harm urges or intense anger https://liberomagazine.com/depression/coping-self-harm-urges/TIP has been proven to be a highly effective method in helping people who self harm in a variety of ways it works by suddenly altering your physical state and this very quickly changes your emotional state using temperature, intense exercize, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation T Temperature. Have you heard of the mammalian dive reflex? Try leaning over a sink or surface and then placing cold water, ice or a cold pack over the temples, eyes and upper nose region for ~30 seconds. This divelike stance then triggers a reflex that occurs in nature when mammals submerge in cold water. Think back to the last time you dove into a cold pool at the start of summer – you may recall the sensation of slowly cutting through the water with your arms, and a feeling of slowed time as you drifted up toward the surface. As we dive face first into cold water, our heart rate slows and our breathing regulates as the body prepares to conserve energy for survival. We have engaged our parasympathetic nervous system and experience a calming effect. So next time you feel highly activated, distressed, upset, angry think “T for temperature” and try running cold water on your forearms, taking a hot or cold shower, chewing on ice or just holding an ice cube in your hand. When we briefly change our temperature, we ground ourselves. I Intense exercise brief bursts of exercise can be helpful in the grounding process. Think of this process as ‘using up’ some of the energy that may be fueling high-energy emotions like anger or anxiety. When in a low-energy state (e.g. feeling, down, depressed, lethargic) getting the heart rate up will invigorate the individual. It’s important to note that exercise can be a highly sensitive issue for those who struggle with eating disorders. If you’re at a place in your treatment where you need to limit exercise, it would make more sense to try the T or P and P skills. P Paced breathing allows us to activate our parasympathetic nervous system as we regulate and slow our breath. With paced breathing we breathe deeply into our lungs and diaphragm. As we slow the pace of our in-breaths and out-breaths, we may achieve 5-6 thoughtful breaths per minute. Some people refer to deep breathing as “having a pill in your pocket.” In other words, breathing is a highly accessible skill – available to you at all times no matter where you are – and one that can be very effective to calm and steady you when emotion is riding high. P Progressive Muscle Relaxation is paired with paced breathing. With paced breathing we tense and relax muscle groups throughout the body to promote a relaxing effect. If you are feeling extreme emotion, you may try mindfully tensing all of your muscle groups at once and then dropping your weight back into the ground or into your chair. As you travel from head to toe engaging all of your muscle groups or one area at a time, pay close attention to the sensationshttps://columbuspark.com/2018/04/23/easily-accessible-effective-tip-distress-tolerance-skills/
Techniques and tips that therapists use to help people deal with intrusive thoughts (including memories)Allow the thought to happen Intrusive thoughts become more distressing the more we try to make them stop. The act of trying to stop them actually makes them more readily available in our brains and thus they are likely to return. Allowing the thought to happen allows it to run its course and as distressing as it may be it will come and it will go. Using self-talk to coach your way through the process is key. "Here is the thought I’m not going to focus on it, I’m going to let it pass." This can help that thought carry less weight. Find yourself a mantra This can be a word or a phrase it doesn't matter what it is as long as it resonates with you. When you start to feel/hear that onset of intrusive thoughts repeat it to yourself in your head. The idea is to redirect from those negative thoughts by putting something positive and repetitive on top directing your attention. Remind yourself that they are just thoughts Thoughts themselves don't have any power. By remembering that a thought itself cannot hurt you, you are more likely to let the thought exist without altering your behavior. Intrusive thoughts are distressing because you believe them. Remember, just because you think it, doesn't mean it's true. It's totally natural to have these kinds of thoughts, but remember that these thoughts come from the past and have yet to prove that they represent the truth today we need evidence before we believe what other people tell us and we should do the same with our thoughts. Imagine that the intrusive thought is a thing or person or animal It can be anything a bird or insect (that you can visualize swatting away or spraying!) a grey cloud or maybe a tiny cartoon character (and you can visualize the thought from the cartoon character in a cartoon bubble) Perhaps it's a 5 year old kid in the backseat nagging for your attention or a little green blob or a little Donald Trump having a tantrum you can try different things even if it's silly separating yourself from it can be incredibly powerful. Say thanks Can you imagine how different it might be if you say "Yes brain, that's nice - but I'm not interested in that now" vs "Go away I'm so sick of you!" Pretty different huh? So "talk" to the thoughts: 'I see you thought, you are OK, I love you, but I'm not listening to you." This technique shows both self-love and compassion for the way your brain works. Love and compassion can be critical to mitigating tough feelings of distress. Refocus Perhaps a crossword or something to fidget with or even just something that smells nice! Try to engage mentally in something else intrusive thoughts often come to us when our brains are quiet, or when they are over-taxed and stressed. When there is nothing going on or too much going on the intrusive thoughts are triggered. By finding an activity that fully engulfs our concentration, the thoughts often move to the background. Music, movies, a conversation with someone, a sport, hobby, or activity can engage our brain in something else. Refocusing can be quite calming and even potentially healing.Grounding and mindfulness exercises After acknowledging the thought's presence, spend 5 minutes noticing things in the room. By exploring things around the room like you've never seen them before, describing their color, texture, shadows exc. you are keeping your mind in the present moment and making it more difficult to get carried away by the intrusive thought. Anytime you notice the thought has taken you away, simply return to noticing the room. sight sound taste touch the more senses the better. Be kind to yourself - It does take time forgive yourself for having intrusive thoughts and for not being able to get rid of them. If anything, that fuels fear and anxiety, and makes everything worse. The sooner we can accept that that's how your brain is wired for now, the faster you can work on building more grounded wisdom.7cups discussion on managing negative internal dialogue https://bit.ly/2HOwCLl7cups discussion on dealing with panic attacks https://bit.ly/2MomF978 hour talk down with gentle rain sounds https://youtu.be/4i53B-y_i2oPTSD nightmares why they exist and the best treatments https://www.verywellhealth.com/the-causes-and-treatment-of-ptsd-nightmares-3014688https://youtu.be/ySL3NllIhfAalways on 24/7 youtube livestreams of relaxing sounds the first link is light instrumental music and the second one is calming ambient bineural beat music both have changing water nature scenes for sleep study redirection or meditation https://youtu.be/63GF7qbr34U https://youtu.be/4qtD8RmvWn0< breathe in - breathe out > count up to your favorite number with each breath and then do it again you can also repeat a mantra for breath in and one for breath out focus your mind on breathing counting and repeating free sleep well guidebook you can download and share https://www.dropbox.com/s/bn9h4n0kcqrupma/Sleep-Guide-Verywell.pdf?dl=0 My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble mind. Albert EinsteinWe must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us. Virginia Satir
The arrogance of believing that today, that at this moment in time, we’re so perfectly correct in our beliefs that we can silence all disagreement, prevent any heretic from calling our gods false, is absurd ... It’s not that people haven’t believed they were finally so enlightened that there couldn’t possibly be any errors in their judgments, anything new to learn, any mistakes to correct. People have always believed that. And they’ve always been wrong. That’s why we still need heretics, not because they’re necessarily right but because they aren’t necessarily wrong. Scott Greenfield When Ira Glasser Ran The ACLU
just a place for me to put 7cups quotes that i really like :D will be adding to this as i come across comments in the forums if its here it does not mean that i take one position or another on any issue but only that i think that these words could also apply to different situations or are universally true making them genuine quotes and the wording i admire as being simple perfect and poetic also if anyone wants me to remove anything here if its your comment but dislike it here or see something you think id like just message me We have a system that devastates some of the people we most wish to support and at the same time barely inconveniences the people we most wish to exclude. RarelyCharlie I'm angry because I'm scared. I'm scared of disappointing you. I'm scared because you always told me that my reputation was the most important thing, and what people think of me is more important than how I feel about myself. I'm angry because when I express that something you do upsets me, you mock me for it, and twist it so I'm the one hurting you. I'm angry because what if I'm actually the problem? If I could just be a better child would you stop? I want to feel like I'm worth more than just how good I am. ohlemone https://bit.ly/2Sdt7msMaybe it's important the conversations happened in public fashion. It is scary and hard. Yes. But all the private avenues weren't working. Our leaders and friends who cared so much were literally being forced out and then ultimately eliminated. At least now we know why. If I hadn't been told, and everyone just was gone, I would have felt even worse then I do now. I would have thought, wow, they abandoned and didn't care after all. KLM3278 https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQThe punishment of people for expressing genuine concerns. The failure to acknowledge why people may ‘bite' at certain comments. There should be understanding, not punishment. There should not be one person at the top beating everyone else with a big stick when all we have to defend ourselves is words and even then those words are often cut or misinterpreted. DeborahUK https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQWords do nothing. Actions do. Things can be discussed until the cows come home, but what matters is what's actually done and most of the time, what's talked about vs. what's actually done are two completely different things, I think people forget that a lot. Torremp https://bit.ly/2NWQwTQI always feel sad and I always remember how things were and how things are now... I just can’t accept that things changed so dramatically in just a few months. Im hurt and confused, I’m not sure who to trust anymore. I don’t know if you all understand how hard it is. I want to give it a chance but it’s so difficult to do so. I’m afraid I’m gonna lose more people and I’m afraid of connecting again... This isn’t just talking to somebody for me, this is having an emotional connection. That’s how it is for me and imagine when you lose the person you are emotionally attached, imagine how that wouldmake you feel. Feel the pain I feel not because I wanna hurt you but I wanna show you how much it hurts. sensitiveShade5337 https://bit.ly/2x1FOFt I know you are all trying to pick up the pieces but I can’t stand by and watch people I love be replaced by new people I don’t know or who have never been apart of this community before. This was a family, it was a safe place for so many people, and now it’s been destroyed and I don’t want to be apart of this new thing ... My heart hurts so bad. I had a safe place, I was healing, I was doing better, and growing up, I had a support network on here of people who knew me, understood me, knew how I functioned and loved me. And it’s all been ripped away from me. And im never ever gonna get that back. I can’t stress just how much that hurts right now. WaterLily16 https://bit.ly/2NzjMTH Everyone is working on putting together the pieces of their own puzzle. Recovery is a journey that takes time. It involves finding out a lot of information about yourself through a process of self discovery. It's important to never compare your recovery journey to someone else's path. No two people ever have the same puzzle design. Some people have a 25 piece puzzle set and some have one of those 10,000 piece sets but each person's story & struggle is valid ... Sometimes you have to step back from the individual pieces and look at the bigger picture of what could be and sometimes you focus on one small piece at a time. This can help you get unstuck. It may feel like forever but every matching puzzle piece makes a big difference over time! summertimeSamness https://bit.ly/2CAM0cFAlthough I’m getting along and all appeared to be going well on the outside, I’m really masking my emotions and feelings masking my own pain about feeling somewhat imprisoned. In fact, when I’m faced with a fearful situation, I try to hide my emotions behind a brave front and to smile while inside I’m really crying... There’s a painful contradiction between what’s in my head my mind and the facade I adopt for the rest of the world M2nc4s https://bit.ly/2Ge0IX9 Maybe the grieving process is tied in with change and acceptance as well... finding what you have control over vs what cannot be changed. I struggle particularly with this part, but I'm trying to tell myself that I have to reach some level of acceptance of the things I cannot change and are beyond my control. Try to bend with the wind. I believe even considering the idea of acceptance is something that must feel natural and good to a person, even if we might still feel sadness with it. NoneTheWiser https://bit.ly/2x1FOFtYou said that you're hoping you'll see your expectations but are getting disappointed - could you share more of what those expectations are so that we can try? Anomalia https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Im struggling with the word compliment mostly because I don’t feel there’s anything to compliment with respect to me. But because self compassion is a goal I’ll try to give myself credit just for the fact I’m still fighting irregardless of how dark and hopeless things feel right now. I’m holding on to hope as if it’s my only lifeline. ArianaMay https://bit.ly/2OiSXk8Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s unbecoming everything that isn’t you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. resourcefulMagic51 https://bit.ly/2QtYypfThere is a kind of grey area between wanting to live and wanting to die that's very difficult to describe. There are really no words for it. RarelyCharlie https://bit.ly/2Qwicj5If you want to help people, then help people. If nurses punched walls and complained every time they got disrespected or aggressed, hospitals would be empty. Have you had 10 chats, and 6 were bad? Learn to see them coming, cut it short, and focus on the 4 chats that were genuine Blaze https://bit.ly/2CZ30pMSomething just took me here I don't know what this is but like am I supposed to ask for help? cause I don't really talk much/do well with taking advice lol idk why I'm here I'm so tired holy shoot (can I swear here? idk so let's put shoot) liamlemons https://bit.ly/2D6HHD5You're a part of that community and your voice always matters. Never be afraid to offer suggestions or feedback or discuss your concerns ... You'll never know how much impact you're going to make and how much enlightenment you can give once you speak up. Don't belittle that inner fire burning in your belly. Erato https://bit.ly/2S215uYSpeak up. when something happens, speak up, because it's your word against god knows how many who have come to dislike you or have been rallied, and there will be no trial, there will be no evidence, there may not even be any punishment. bunnypants https://bit.ly/2S215uYThere's a stereotype around here somewhere. Curiously, it's a stereotype about curiosity. It is this: As we get older, we become less curious. I think it makes sense. I'm no longer as inquisitive as I was when I was younger, and not everything has to explained - although some things still do! I've been thinking that a potential reason is because of school and exams especially the latter. Exams kind of condition you to believe in one answer, and often you're given no explanation save for 'It just is' ... But it just is what? Imogene https://bit.ly/2WCEUdFI have come to the realization that the biggest gap between two people is misunderstanding. Often focus is on how others may or may not feel and or think about us (which is bizzare really as how do we even truely know we aren't them and can't at all control it) Energy and time is put into trying to influence or prove ourselves and how we are judged. Perhaps instead we need to spend more time ensuring our intentions are actually being expressed in such way as best to clearly portray whats desired. Don't compromise yourself as it is enough for those who are enough for you. tomwillow https://bit.ly/2SFAhRKStaring outside the window, I see many things - many beautiful things. I see the way the wind dances with the trees and the flowers swirl around in freedom. I see how the sky is so blue and the way children tumble around on the green grass. Their laughs echo through the air, reaching to everyone with happiness. But, why do these never reach me? The wind stops and the air becomes stagnant. It's hard to breathe. Everything becomes blurry through the tears. I'm living in a void. I'm living in complete emptiness. I sit here and the world around me passes by. Why can't I control this? Why can't I get up and be part of it? Why can't I dance with the trees and play with the children? I am paralysed with my own mind. I am stopped by the dark thoughts seeping in. I feel so empty. Maybe I am not living in a void. Maybe I am a void. Maybe my mind is. silentbby https://bit.ly<
Hi :) I'm Kevin and I'm 24, just passing through life. I love helping those struggling particuarly with self-harm, loneliness, and depression. I feel these are my strong suits and the topics I have a better understanding on.
I'd prefer NOT talking about anything involving dating / relationship issues / breakups since those are my weak topics but I am willing to talk about it anyways if you really want to :)
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Hi my name is Pam.
Adult and Teen Listener
I am a long term listener and a verfied listener on 7 cups.
I am currently taking chats in the following areas.
I do not take chats in any sexual nature. You may browse listener page and type in the keywork of the topic and it will give a list of listeners who will handle those chats.
Not accepting New Chats at this time! Please feel free to reach out to another one of our great Listeners for support. YOU ARE IMPORTANT!!!*Please Note that I have limited availability at this time but please feel free to reach out and I will be happy to set up a time a time for us to chat."No Act of KINDNESS, no matter how small is ever wasted"Hello, I am so glad that you have found me and I want to be here and help you with whatever struggle you are going through. I can't solve your problems, but I can offer a safe place for you to open up and talk about what is going on. I don't have set available days or times when I am online but most likely to be found in the evening est. If you want to chat and I am not online please feel free to leave me a message and I will get back to you as soon as I can. I would greatly appreciate it if you would leave a review after a chat as it helps me as a listener learn and grow. If you are looking for other listeners you can also reach out to My very awesome Listener Twins: musicalMagic, and TsukinoTheHag . Without them I wouldn't have gotten this far in my journey.
I am currently not taking live chats, although I will still be responding to messages daily.( TL;DR : ☑ Mental (Disorders) Illness ☑ Trauma Support ☑ Sexual Issues ☑ Depression | ☒ Relationship Issues and Breakups ☒ Gender Identity Issues ☒ Pregnancy ☒ Financial Stress ☒ Self-Harm ☒ Social Anxiety ☒ Self-Esteem ☒ Sexting [and any chat subject against site agreements] )In order of descending comfortability.⊗⊗⊗ Above all else, I'd like to specify that I am unable to help those with problems relating to self-esteem (i.e. negative body image, shame and feelings of worthlessness) and those who are struggling with self-harm. This should be noted by those who have not personally requested me, therefore I'm sorry for any inconvenience. ⊗⊗⊗My name's Katariina; I'm very easy-going, open-minded, and can understand the majority of situations. I'm a very honest person, therefore what I tell you might not be what you want to hear, but be assured that I always have the best intentions. If you find that I am being too insensitive, you'd be able to inform me of your opinion and I'll be able to change my behaviour accordingly. Yet, I'm a stereotypical Canadian most of the time: kind and polite, not to mention maple syrup loving.I might not be the best listener for the following topics:
Breakups (as I'm unable to help those looking to move on) and other relationship issues; eating disorders, body image, and self-esteem issues; exercise motivation; financial and work stress; grief; self-harm; social anxiety; transgender issues; and unwanted/unexpected pregnancy.I do not accept personal requests that pertain to these problems. Please seek another listener that will better compliment your needs.I am familiar with a variety of mental disorders including:Anxiety, autism (and Asperger's syndrome), bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder (BPD), depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), dissociative identity disorder (DID/MPD) and other psychosis-related disorders.I accept all requests dealing with the mentioned, sometimes even when I'm marked as busy. If you request me with a different issue, I may turn you away.Be warned that I do have a "suck it up attitude" and might not be the right listener for some struggling with depression, and I do not chat with those who would like to talk about self-harm and having low self-esteem.If you see that I'm online, don't hesitate in sending me a request.Post Scripts :
- I do take chats on loneliness, although I am not very talkative and might struggle to carry a light conversation.
- I'm comfortable taking chats that are sexual in nature if I am being respected during the chat (i.e., I will not continue a chat with someone who has made a pass at me). I'm currently not taking chats on sexual issues concerning one's parents.
- Those interested to know more about me: I am more logical than I am emotional, I possess many extensive philosophical views and I am of Jewish belief, however, I practice Buddhism. Also, I have obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD).
Hey, my name is Henry and I'm just your average midwestern joe wanting to make a difference in other people's lives, one conversation at a time! I am a recovering nicotine addict. I've also delt with social anxiety, panic attacks, and loneliness for most of my life so I have personal experience in those areas, however I won't refuse to listen to any topic.