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What does a good relationship mean to you?
A relationship may be family getting along with them, a friendship that is going well or a relationship in dating and marriage. Being in love is a choice. Love sometimes play with our lives, some are good while others are bad. Our choices whether to stay in them can hurt ourselves.
Some may think they have to stay in a relationship or marriage for the children, or fear to leave that can result in verbal or physical abuse. You have to love yourself first which may result in walking away. Break ups in a relationship or divorce can hurt our emotinal well being.
What are some ways to be happy in a relationship?
Does talking things out help us?
How do you keep yourself happy ?
@pamharley003
What are some ways to be happy in relationship? To me one of the things that keep a relationship happy is to create mutual good memories by doing things together.
Does talking things out help us? I believe talking about relationship issues is very important, if needed, along with a therapist.
How do you keep yourself happy ? I created things which make me feel good about myself and which are soothing and fun. I always start my day with a gratitude meditation.
@amiablePeace77
Good to see you Ami
I love your answers and having an open conversation makes things go smoothly to know if anything needs to be fixed or just a casual chat
@pamharley003
What are some ways to be happy in a relationship? I think the best way to be happy in relationships is to be honest and genuinely yourself.
Does talking things out help us? Yes, talking helps us share our thoughts and feelings, and makes it easier for others to understand us.
How do you keep yourself happy? I do things that make me happy and bring me joy. I also try to recognize when things are weighing me down. For instance, if I turn on a TV show or movie, and lose interest within the first 10 minutes, then it's not a good use of my time.
@purplelady568
Hi Purple,
Thos are good points you made. Keeping genuine to ourselves helps us understand others.
@pamharley003
What does a good relationship mean to you? A good relationship for me is one where the participants are free to be themselves. Where no one has to pretend to be something they are not, or suppress a part of themselves, to keep the relationship going. Where all parties can get their needs met in a trusting open environment.
What are some ways to be happy in a relationship? To accept that relationships are unlikely to be perfect. And that there can still be value in an imperfect relationship. But to know your limits and thus when it is time to bow out of a relationship which is doing you more harm than good.
Does talking things out help us? Yes, definitely, but there is a way to talking things out, that I feel isn't taught often enough. How to have a constructive conversation that achieves the desired objectives is something I'm still learning.
How do you keep yourself happy ? I struggle with this. There are times when I am happy. But they seem to be too frequently hidden in the times when I am unhappy. I'm still searching for the thing(s) that shift(s) the balance.
Thanks for the thought provoking post.
@Clio9876
Hi Clio
your right on a relationship needs to be the people being themselves. No one needs to pretend just to make the other person happy. We should not be compaired to others. I love your answers.
@Clio9876 Hey, those are excellent answers! I can tell that you thought deeply about the questions and your responses. I love that this post helped you to stop and reflect, and a wholeheartedly agree with your answers. You are correct, we are always learning, and we all have room for improvement. We can all learn to communicate our wants/needs/desires more clearly.
Awesome work!
-Purple
@purplelady568
Aw thanks. You say such nice things.
@pamharley003
A good relationship to me means both people listening to, respecting and communicating their boundaries with each other assertively.
One thing I do to be happy is skincare.