35+ Community Check-in April 19-22, 2021
Hello everybody, sending you all much love and peace 
It can be easy to fall into the trap of personalising, meaning connecting things which happen in your environment to yourself, for example, "They did that deliberately because they knew that it would upset me!' 
One way to stop this is to recognize that you often don’t know why people act as they do.
Do you find that you easily take on things personally?
What questions do you ask yourself to find a more balanced thinking again?
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Do you find that you easily take on things personally? my cooking and I try to cook for everyone.
What questions do you ask yourself to find a more balanced thinking again? I try to look at the good and bad and balance both.
@Rebekahwriter13
Looking at both sides to find balance sounds good 👍
@amiablePeace77
I respect your opinion.
But i dont want to live on a teeter toter.
Ya ever heard "if you dont stand for something, you'll fall for anything"
eventually a side must be chosen, conflict and adulthood...
@enthusiasticTortoise6681
I do believe it is important to stand up for things which we value.
@amiablePeace77
Do you find that you easily take on things personally?
I do depending on the siutation.
What questions do you ask yourself to find a more balanced thinking again?
I go to my comfort place and work on self care
@pamharley003
I like your way of self care. I believe when we take things too personally it's often because our nervous system is run down so doing self care is a very helpful way to see things more clearly.
hi 😊
@Awadr
Hi there, nice to see you here in our forum , hope you have a good day.
@amiablePeace77
Do you find that you easily take on things personally? ● Not really, thankfully
What questions do you ask yourself to find a more balanced thinking again? ● But whenever I do, I ask myself this, " If I am to assume the best of others/ situation, what alternative thoughts can be more supportive to that?"
Have a wonderful rest of the week for you and all 35+ sub com members 💜
@ouiCherie
I love your answer! A positive approach leads easier to a positive outcome than a negative approach.
Do you find that you easily take on things personally? Yes, I do.
What questions do you ask yourself to find a more balanced thinking again? I ask myself if I am being reasonable in the situation or going overboard. But sometimes that makes me feel worse about myself. I sometimes tell myself I don't know what this person is going through, it could have nothing to do with me that's reinforcing their behavior.
@fearlessWriter78
I believe bringing to your awareness that what happens might have nothing to do with you is a way not to create any negative thoughts.
Yaa i do sometimes
@fearlessWalker1161
Hope you find ways to put this into perspective when needed. Thanks for joining the forum today.
I do take things personally a lot. After a while I start thinking of alternate possibilities for what happened, but I struggle to let go sometimes
@optimisticFarm9295
You're doing good by reflecting on what happened and try to see it from a different perspective lateron. Hope that one day you can enjoy to feel the immense freedom of not taking things on personally.
The Space Beyond Criticism https://youtu.be/QGwuVe_QRNE
Hi everyone im checking in today
@Beachcutie37
Hi there, nice to meet you 🖐 
@amiablePeace77 hi how are you doing today what is the first thing you are doing today to motivate you.
@Beachcutie37
Hey there , I start my day with a nice meditation, that helps to get me into the right mindset for the day . How about you?
@amiablePeace77 hi thank you nice to meet you
Hello I need some help and guidance
@paridhie
Hi paridhie, I'm glad you reached out here. I'm happy to help as much as I can. What do you need support and guidance with? My pms are open for you.
@amiablePeace77
People say ' Cynical ' like its a bad thing.
its not.
all apologies for being disagreeable.
An upsetting situation is such for a reason, each and every way to react, peacefully protest, let go is a solution as unique and different as all of us.
I do ruminate. Cynicism lighting the small burning fire which needs to know peoples intentions. We are animals, and not a creature on earth acts without reason.
Cynicism is not always bad, lending greater understanding to human relationships, even farther a learning of a reality of the expanding environment around ones self.
@enthusiasticTortoise6681
Thanks for sharing this interesting point of view.
