35+ Community Check-in March 8-11, 2021
Happy Monday to all of you in the 35+ community. I hope you all enjoyed your weekend and you are doing well 
What is something you find yourself doing that repeatedly gets in the way of your self care time and what could you do instead which benefits you more?
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Hi! Dwelling on bad memories or overthinking situations can really stop me from self care. It makes me feel helpless and demotivated. But diverting my mind from it and focusing on something that's in front of me at that moment works.
@plumBeechwood7549
Glad that you found a way to divert your mind into the now and not get caught up in negative past events.
@plumBeechwood7549 Sorry your have problems with bad memories.
Hope things improve for you.
Thank you calm. I hope so too. You take care too.
What is something you find yourself doing that repeatedly gets in the way of your self care time and what could you do instead which benefits you more?
I get easily distracted and pull it away from the things I need to do.
@Rebekahwriter13
Staying focussed on a task can be challenging. Something that I find helpful is removing all distractions before I start a task.
@amiablePeace77 In my complicated situation I feel it's hard to avoid distractions as I have no privacy.
Overthinking for sure. The last couple of months, with the pandemic, I've been living in my head too much and I didn't realize until recently that it's been keeping me from living in the present moment. I've started to pull away from that and focus on living in the moment
@chickensandwich1
You took a great decision! We're only alive in this moment and missing it means we also miss out eventually on great opportunities.
, Hello Im just checking in, Im new but learning alot. How is everyone?
@SpringBirds
Hey there, great to see you in the forum. I am doing quite well, how about you ?
Hope to see you more often here. In the forums you will find one main post and people will give their answers. Look forward to read yours.
@amiablePeace77
What is something you find yourself doing that repeatedly gets in the way of your self care time and what could you do instead which benefits you more?
To be honest, probably spending too much time online and on social media.... Sometimes depending on what I'm doing or reading, it can be challenging to stop and break away from it all!.. But I have totally realized lately how much time I waste doing those things. Time I could be spending with doing other much more beneficial things. And how many other things that I could also take care of and get done. I already know that I need to reprogram myself in some way to stop and take time away. I realized that it only became more of an issue during the pandemic since there was so much more time to do so.
@PoliteOcean
It's great that you became aware of it PoliteOcean. Internet, particularly social media can become quite addictive due to all these notifications which serve the purpose to pull you back to it.
hi
@kij12
Hi kij12, nice to see you here today . How are you?
hi dear ami ,hru ,im fine ami dear how can i join to disability room group
Hi there! I want to make you all aware of a workshop I will be giving on becoming an awesome listener with the help of the Best Practice Guide…the workshop will be held Wednesday March 10, 2021 at 6 PM EST in the Listener Learning Room which will open up 10 minutes before the start time: You can review the guide here anytime: tinyurl.com/yr4gl7wu
@amiablePeace77
The question: What is something you find yourself doing that repeatedly gets in the way of your self care time and what could you do instead which benefits you more?
Life gets in the way - the house needs cleaned, the puppy is chewing on cushions, I'm tired, wood needs to go in the fire...
Instead, I can schedule things so that I do take the time to look after me, and maybe even get my day started earlier so I have the quiet time to do those things.
@Skyglider
Sounds like a good plan Skyglider!
Hi guys I have been MIA recently and I have been distracted from self care and checking in with myself because I have been just going to bed or binge watching TV sometimes I find numbing or shutting off my brain is easier but much less productive and I am trying to curb that this week and get back to being aware and present with my thoughts and feelings instead of shutting them down it’s a real struggle though
@socialite777
Thank you for being here and sharing. So glad that you became aware of what is going wrong and want to change it.
Hi there, I'm in same place to. Was gonna say I usually watch tv or do nothing. I feel the need to go sleep or talk to bf when I should practice self care more for myself without reaching to the obvious things like what's easy when I know I can. I don't feel motivated all the time. When I self care I do go for walks which I do a lot, talk to my bf, support group I come to, read and write. I like to take a bath too and have chocolate lol
@TreaureSeekers3
It is not always easy to motivate yourself but I believe by still doing self care activities, like going for a walk even if you do not feel like it will usually always make you feel better.
@amiablePeace77 thank you peace. Love and hugs. That's what others said. I can't motivate myself at moment but more I'm talking I'm feeling better. Was just talking to my support group earlier. Went out today but late like about half five to shop and back but what helped was I went out and I couldn't before but was only down round. Still it was how was feeling. Had a rubbish day in myself. Ibs to. You ok
@TreaureSeekers3
Sorry your day was so bad, hugs. Ibs is no fun for sure. Glad you joined your support group, sharing can lessen the burden. Maybe it could help to join the open chat in 50+ room tomorrow after the 5pm discussion, so at 6pm et.
Sending you warm loving hugs.
@amiablePeace77 I think I missed it. I only read your message. Has it gone now? Annoying shameless
@amiablePeace77 thank you as well. Was out today so why I didn't use my phone much. Was in town getting my mum Mother's Day present and went shop. Just home now. Had Indian food for takeaway.
