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7 Tips for Showing Yourself Some Self-Compassion
Do you speak to yourself the same way you would speak to your best friend? Here’s how to get better at giving yourself a break. Self-compassion is something we should be practicing every day, but the reality is that a lot of people struggle even to define what it means.
Compassion” is defined as the “awareness of suffering, coupled with a desire to relieve that suffering. So self-compassion is the act of noticing when you're struggling, recognizing that's actually part of being human, and being kind to yourself rather than beating yourself up.
Questions:
- How would I like to feel today?
- What’s one small step I can take to cultivate this feeling?
- What do I need right now?
- Who are the people in my life who are nonjudgmental, trustworthy and genuinely have my heart in mind?
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@pamharley003 thank you for this post. Self compassion is so important. There is a youtube video on self compassion by Padraig O'Morain that I really take to heart.
@pamharley003
I want to be compassionate but right now all I seem to be doing is spewing hate not only on myself but everyone around me. Just needed to say it somewhere. I haven't shown myself anything close to compassion in years and it is because I can't stop hating who I am and what I have done.
I can totally relate. It's hard to compliment the person in the mirror when I know for I don't know her anymore..it's so much negative around me..that's support but here I been on all day ..it makes me feel like I'm not alone after reading..I hope you can express yourself here anytime. You matter and you are Great
I just want to share what I am feeling these past few months. I am 36 years old female unemployed since covid-19. It is been hard because I feel I have to take responsibility to provide for my elderly parents who have no job. I know I should not loose hope while still breathing but It's been more difficult since I had relationship problems with people, even with my family. I start to doubt my faith as well in these past few years...I really want to forgive past hurts especially with my parents and blaming them for my own decision, but really it's been difficult. How do you learn to give up expectations of people each day? I've been failing these past weeks and I have been on emotional roller coaster. It's exhausting and I just don't want to do anything when it happens. How do you open your hearts to some whom had hurt you?
@selfdisciplinedPal2380
Hi Self,
I believe it is hard on alot of people who are in similar situations like yourself. You do what you feel is best for you and stay strong.
@pamharley003
Thank you for the support. I have been trying to talk to professional counsellor and learning new thing. What's best for me and the others are I have to own up my own anger and be responsible of how I want to behave to others. I realise there are some people who are actually does care about me around me and I am just pretended not to notice and run from my own problems. I know I have been self pitying but I need to stop and do something about it. And my expectations on others are high so I somehow need to learn to give up on these expectations I have on others. Have a good day Pam.
@selfdisciplinedPal2380
You are bwelcome for the support. I am here for all members of the Community.
@selfdisciplinedPal2380
Thank you for your kind words. I hope that today is better for you. I wish I had some advice that would help you. It means a lot to know I am not alone in how I feel. All we can do is move forward 1 day at a time and do what feels right in the moment.
@wittyEyes6543
Hi, I am actually reflecting on what I had said (It's a monologue for myself, about how I have to own up my anger issues etc etc) but if its helping you then it's great...You don't have to give me some advice if you aren't able to at the moment...when you response to me in your way...you show that you care and telling me I am also not alone in this..even if I don't know you personally. Yes, I am taking 1 day at a time, to focus on one goal for today. Thank you again for reminding me.
Hello there everyone....
I want to feel as ùsual means okay 👌..... I will try self compassion lesson in my life for getting that okayness in my life and I really have one who I can be depended on its myself 😇😊
@freshOasis7877
Hi Fresh
here is a link I use to improve my self confidence : https://positivepsychology.com/self-compassion-exercises-worksheets/
I try doing exe3rcises each day to improve myself more. Please know we are here for you ❤️
